Getting A Firm No From My Dominant After I’ve Been Getting A Lot Of Leniencies Lately Is Always A Bit

Work out examples like this that he asserts are proper methods of service. If in doubt, show him a list like this and ask if he will help you make the list better or better suited to what he likes.

Remember, if he doesn’t want it then it is not service.

15 ways to be a better cocksucker

#1 – Be able to host, especially if he is married.

#2 – Break your gag reflex by practicing with a banana or a dildo

.#3 – Never use your hands, unless told to

.#4 – Look him in the eyes when his cock is down your throat.

#5 – Learn to listen and observe non-verbal cues that tell you how to suck him better

#6 – Pay attention to his balls as well.

#7 – you don’t need to take a break.

#8 – When he is cumming, keep sucking him all the way through until his orgasm ends.

#9 – Always swallow, unless he decides to blow it some other way, in which case, let him.

#10 – Keep his cock in your mouth after he has come, and let it get soft while he comes down from his orgasm. He might fall asleep with his cock in your mouth, let him.

#11 – When he is done cumming, you are not done. Get him hard again.

#12 – Strive to make your mouth a replacement for masturbation. I would much rather cum down your throat than jerk off

.#13– Rim him. When you are rimming him, don’t stop until he is finished enjoying it, which can be over an hour sometimes. Get used to that.

#14 –touch your cunt when you are sucking him, but do not cum

.#15 - Ask him if he wants to take pictures or record you sucking his cock to brag and show to his friends

Yes, yes, pretend my vocabulary is a negative to firm up your safe space of self delusions and lies. Wallowing in fallacies doesn’t in fact dig you out of the hole you excitedly dug.

Your blog is utterly littered with biological hierarchy nonsense that you use to justify the delusional bullshit you pretend is a rebuttal to my opening comment.

Again, the main reason people so adamantly cling to this sort of disinformation peddling is a lack of capability to earn a woman’s respect on equal footing. They need an imbalanced power dynamic as the starting point so they can pretend their inept interpersonal skillset is actually a personal strength.

The nonsensical rant as reply was, of course, not at all actually relevant to reply to. The gish gallop of BS thrown out as desperate effort to justify advocating a society of weak men who don’t have to actually fully earn a woman’s submission by pretending the deck is innately and biologically stacked is the same bullshit rapists use to justify their biological urge to rape people.

Good stuff if you’re emotionally stunted and prefer women who accept emotionally and developmentally stunted men as the norm for society, I suppose.

I’ve wasted entirely too much time platforming these ineptly framed and utterly nonsensical views and the fallacious rhetoric these folks use for justification of them.

Feminism as the foundational point of a relationship is the only method that exists for a woman to submit to a man. Half baked discussions of capitalism and misplaced understanding of our social ills suits you... Wallow in it along with your fallacies used as deflection some more, though.

dictionary.cambridge.org

feminism

1. the belief that women should be allowed the same rights, power, and…

Make it make sense…

You should be very actively seeking out ways to train yourself into easier and more frequent access to arousal within your submission. Self directed practice is essential.

just some PSA's to subs:

hard doms really are like that. they aren't joking.

it's okay not to be into certain kinks. aftercare. ect. set the boundary.

babe, him being an online dom doesn't mean he's experienced. on that note, MOST doms are only online doms with no experience.

learn how to get yourself off. and never be scared to tell him how to.

there's someone into that weird thing you like.

oh, there's also someone into that deep dark one you'd never admit. trust me. it's literally fine.

hookup with other subs. trust me.

take care of your bodily health first.

ask for what you need. ask for it. if they refuse to give it to you. find someone who will.

EVEN AS A SUB. TAKE NO SHIT. DONT BE WALKED ON.

BDSM can be done for the wrong reasons and if a submissive isn’t willing or able to engage in safe and consensually validated activity that expressly makes them feel successful and healthy in their role then they need to evaluate their experience more thoroughly and contemplatively.

That being said, the pushing of boundaries is an inherent part of bdsm practice. The point here is that if your participation is so significantly one sided that you are consistently failing to communicate about your own interests and needs while feeling harmed, that you are indeed being harmed. Either self-harm or partner abuse. A properly patient and supportive Dom who is trying to help you communicate and trying to help you explore your self-stated interests is not necessarily abusing you. One’s misuse of BDSM as a form self-harm can be a misunderstood element, an actively exploited element, or an element related to support, etc. within a BDSM relationship.

This is why using thorough checklists and then COMMUNICATING thoroughly through those checklists is so important. If a sub is not able to fully take ownership of their interests within a practice then they are not currently giving fully informed consent. Informed consent must include a full understanding of the complexity of self-harm as a component and pitfall of even the most healthy of BDSM practices.

When a submissive has potential self-harm elements that doesn’t automatically mean they should not practice BDSM, but it does mean they and their Dom need to openly discuss these challenges and responsibly navigate them within their practice.

PSA: Freeuse is about consent

Freeuse (or "free use") is about radical consent. While it is about consenting broadly, it is still absolutely about consent. Even in fictional worlds where sex is seen on about on the same level as handshakes here, it is something people permit, something they consent to.

The Sexual Service Act world is populated with women who chose and continue to choose to be dominated by men. Is that an unlikely reality? Yes. Fiction does not need to be likely.

Their bodies, their choice to give or rescind power over their bodies.

Submissives permit Dom(me)s to have power over them and can revoke it at any time. That's how power play works.

Don't confuse fantasies, fiction, and play with reality. Enjoy all of those things as much as you like, and as deeply or darkly as you like. However...

If you're threatening women and telling them they have no choice over what happens to them in the real world, I am not your friend.

If this post makes you unfollow this blog, stop buying my stories, etc... well, I'll just have to do without you. I'd prefer you understand what I'm saying but I'll just have to hope you figure out a few things someday.

Self delusional misinformation like this is why everyone rightly is laughing at actual “patriarchy” promoting people.

Feminism is simply the assertion that all people have an equal right to choose the life they want for themselves.

Weak men who cannot earn a woman’s submission demonize things out in the world so they have something to blame other than themselves for their inability to develop good relationships that reflect the lifestyle they desire. That lack and subsequent lashing out are pitiful, really.

Feminism simply means a woman gets to choose what she wants rather than pretending that weak men have an unearned right to hold power over what a woman chooses for herself.

Some men will choose not to have children and work. Some women will, also. That equality in having self determination is feminism. Some men want a submissive wife. Some women want to be a submissive wife. Weak men tantrum all about like toddlers without their blankie demanding a submissive wife because these men lack the developmental milestones to earn that sort of relationship.

Make it make sense…

Everyone learns in different ways.

Reinforcing lessons, to a point of acceptance of that lesson, might require a variety of approaches until it is finally understood to a point that it no longer needs to be taught.

Acceptance leads to sincerity of practice.

If you lack sincerity in your practice then you are still in need of the lessons and the consequences that come from not yet understanding the importance of the practice.

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