Personally, I Find It Funny That Despite Loving Costume And Fashion Design, The Most Expensive And Only

So my feelings towards my new computer is...mixed

Seriously, why can’t I have my login background be a pic from one of my Photo folders and it updates every time I add a new pic? I could do that on a 12 year old computer, why can’t I do it on a brand new one?!

To the late diagnosed ASD community:

How many of you were misdiagnosed the first time?

How many of you felt that your assessor wasn’t taking you seriously?

What sort of tests did they do? What sort of questions did they ask? And did they make sense in relating to ASD, especially in adult women?

What did you do after the assessment when you were told everything seems normal? And that you were just experiencing mild forms of anxiety and showed slight traces of OCD?

What do I do when I've done so much research, heard so many stories from people in the ASD community and related to them so well, used their knowledge and experience to help me get through my daily life a litter easier, only to be told by a professional that I'm not Actually Autistic?

Judging fictions as good or bad

I still am not a fan of the Twilight franchise, but the creator of this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8O06tMbIKh0), Lindsay Ellis, does make some valid arguments that really got me thinking:

Why are we so concerned about presenting good role models in media for teenage girls and setting fire to anything that is essentially fluffy cheese, and yet, there are plenty of very stupid action franchises aimed at boys that are never ridiculed for having little plot, sexist themes, and poor role models? 

And there are two arguments for this, I know. People, and especially kids, can be heavily influenced by the media they consume, so it is important to monitor what we take in. 

But we should also remember that a lot of media is for entertainment, and thus, shouldn't be overly criticized because at the end of the day it is FICTION, not gospel; and there's nothing wrong with wanting to escape into fiction for fun and relaxation.

Also felt a little guilty when Lindsay pointed out that a lot of stuff geared towards teenage girls is often snubbed at; I know I was one of those girls who didn't let myself like what was 'in' with most girls, on the grounds that I wanted to be thought of as having 'taste'. But I secretly did like a lot of that stuff because I was a teenage girl! And by denying myself those things, I wasn't doing anything buy keeping myself from enjoying more stuff out there. 

Just because something is in or out of style shouldn't determine whether you like/enjoy it or not. 

How I show my age and political savvy:

Recently a coworker mentioned they were going to put in a notice of no confidence towards one of the mangers.

And I, in all my learning and wisdom asked: "That's a real thing?"

They were puzzled by my question so I clarified that: "I though the 'vote of no confidence' was a Star Wars thing."

Needless to say, everyone in earshot burst out laughing.

To be fair, it was pretty funny and I was laughing right along with them.

But in my defense, I was a kid when I first saw Phantom Menace, and G. Lucas ain't exactly one for accurate details, so I just assumed it was something he made up.

I gave this explanation to my coworkers and that just made them laugh more.

I support this statement 100%

...Well, maybe 90% (taking off ten for possible NSFW stuff ;3 )

“May I please draw your OC?”

Reblog this message if you encourage anyone that wants to draw your OC to do so.  No need to ask for permission in advance.

Go for it.  Draw my OC.  If you want, I’ll even give you reference posts.  Go to town on it.

You are welcome to draw my OC and surprise me with the result.  Seriously.  In fact, I encourage it.  I will proudly display whatever it is you submit to me regarding my OC.  There is a chance that I will squeal about it for several days.

Even if you feel you aren’t good at whatever artistic adventure it is you do, please feel free to submit it to me.  I want to see what you have done.

No healing for this curvy girl in Bridgerton season 3 (slight spoilers)

I was so looking forward to this season and seeing a woman with curves get honest to goodness romantic sex scenes.

For so long the sex scenes with curvy girls in film have been shown with a tone of humor or disgust or pity.

And Bridgerton season 3 was supposed to change all of that. Except it didn’t. Not for me, anyway.

Because while other Bridgerton heroines have been stripped clean of their clothes, with their entire body on full display, Penelope was not.

In all her scenes she was never completely undressed save for one brief moment that isn’t even shown fully. We get one quick glimpse of her glorious bosom and then she delegated to being covered up with a blanket. Colin goes so far as to pull the blanket to cover her up more at one point!

We don’t get to see her beautiful curves. They’re continuously hidden like it’s a shameful thing to show a woman whose waist isn’t small, with a stomach that jiggles, thighs that don’t fit neatly in a man’s hands, and breasts that aren’t small and perky.

What I got out of Bridgerton season 3 is that yes, you curvy girls can have a love interest who isn’t also plus size, but only because he thinks you’re interesting, not because you’re beautiful. And yes, being interesting is going to last longer than beauty, but is it too much to ask to be both?

It seems even today on a super progressive show, the answer is still “yes”.

What learning to accept and accommodate my autism looks like at the this very moment:

Sitting in an airport bathroom stall (not actually using the toilet) for about 15 minutes to decompress from the flight/preparing to enter the fray once more, and telling myself I have the right to sit here for as long as I need to.

I HAVE THE RIGHT STUPID NT PROGRAMING I WILL SIT HERE AS LONG AS I NEED TO AND NOT FEEL LIKE IM DOING SOMETHING WRONG BY STAYING IN A STALL THIS LONG

Hot Take on (Disney live action) Beauty and the Beast

Probably not much of a hot take, but I think Luke Evans should have played the Beast in the live action B&B. Can you imagine him taking that himbo persona he had in the first part of the film and doing that with the Beast?

“Hmmm…how to get Belle to love me. Wait, she likes books? I have a whole three foot story library! I’m gonna give her the library! …But what if that doesn’t work? Better have a backup plan. Girls like chocolates and flowers right?”

Proceeds to give Belle the library and when she’s thrilled he not so subtly chucks the backup items out a window.

Just found this browsing. Nearly screamed my head off. Good thing the action figure is on its way right now or else I would be going through cardiac arrest from lack of sexy Knockout-ness!