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“Relax. You will become an adult. You will figure out your career. You will find someone who loves you. You have a whole lifetime; time takes time.”

— Johanna de Silentio

You know is bad when a majority of the audience has been talking non stop about Ruby and Otis instated of the "main couple" that recently had their first kiss. I don’t think the writers anticipated the insane chemistry between Asa and Mimi. This proves again that it doesn’t matter if a certain pairing has the trope and slow burn, if the writing is repetitive and uneventful and the actors don’t have romantic chemistry people will 100% jump to the one that does. They truly made a big mistake by exploring Ruby and Otis and then ending them so abruptly to simply go back to the same narrative. People is actually pissed.

The way Maeve/Isaac and Ruby/Otis as pairings helped each of the four characters grow and mature as individuals, with Otis growing more selfless and empathetic, Maeve and Ruby letting their walls down to let people know their ill parents, Isaac owning up to his huge mistake by himself and apologising, only for the writers to fall back into the will they/won't they of Otis/Maeve where the pair can't even communicate....

I still have some thoughts about season 3, and I'm sure as hell gonna throw them out there.

So, after watching the new season I realised something with full force. Up until now I felt kinda bad about thinking critically about Eric's choices.

But oh, not anymore do I feel bad about it.

Because you see, seeing as his personality basically went to the shitter this season at first I thought "hey, that's so unexpected!". But then I realised, it wasn't unexpected at all.

A lot of people gave Adam shit back in season 2, because Eric cheated with him on Rahim.

But like... Eric cheated on Rahim.

It was Eric's decision to:

1. Kiss Adam during detention.

2. See him when he reached out after coming back from military school, throwing pebbles at Eric's window that first time.

And it was Eric's decision to continue meeting Adam at night behind Rahim's back, the pieces of broken porcelain on his nightstand a testament to the fact that he kept on making the choice to go back to Adam despite being in a relationship already.

And then, he said Adam's full of shame and that, essentially, he can't be with him if Adam isn't out.

So, Adam came out to the entire school, by declaring his feelings for Eric.

But it still isn't enough for Eric.

Because now he wants Adam to come out to his mum. And Eric seems to suddenly have zero idea about how strained Adam's relationship with both of his parents is. Even though in the first two seasons he seemed really perceptive when it came to Adam. It seemed he could see right through Adam's thick shell, having at least the faintest idea that there must be something more to this guy than what meets the eye.

Adam is trying so hard to be the person that Eric wants him to be. In season 3 Rahim asks Adam "and what about you? What do you like?", and honestly, I'm shocked by how refreshing such treatment of Adam was. Because nobody except Ola seemed genuinely interested in Adam himself before, in his thoughts and what he has to say. I honestly thought I could include Eric in that little group, but now I see very clearly, that I can't, and I never really could.

And then of course there's also the issue of the two of them having sex.

Eric really wants to, and Adam does too it would seem, but he has trouble voicing what it is he actually wants.

And it just worries me, because this is the second instance of Adam being under the pressure to have specific kind of sex with his partner, and he isn't given understanding or patience in the matter.

What's bad is that it also makes it seem like only the kind of sex when you're inside someone or someone is inside you is "real" sex and real, ultimate form of intimacy, and that if you don't get that in your relationship, it somehow nullifies all other instances of intimacy that aren't inherently sexual in nature.

Can we form a prayer circle with the thought that third time's the charm and that the next person Adam's dating will be patient and understanding with him in all matters, including intimacy and sex?

Eric thinks Adam is embarrassing quite a lot in season 3, and gives him way less credit than is due. Slowly I started to realise that Eric never really saw Adam for who he was.

And Adam was trying so hard. He was learning to be vulnerable and open, he said "I love you" first, he was getting out of his comfort zone to make Eric happy. But it still isn't enough for Eric.

Because now he's at a family wedding in Nigeria and he meets a stranger who brings him to a club and kisses him.

And Eric admits to it and instead of just apologising and saying that it didn't mean anything, he says that it meant something. He says that it wasn't nothing.

Adam has been trying so hard to be someone deserving of Eric's love, and yet he wasn't enough. Again.

Do you perhaps wonder whether he heard his father's voice in his head at that moment?

Do you think that the boy he loved so much suddenly reminded him so vividly of the man who by all accounts was supposed to love him, but somehow always managed to only bring him down, make him feel like he meant nothing?

Because I do.

I think that Adam's heart got absolutely shattered on that bridge.

We'll burn the bridge when we get to it, eh?

I think that he has been feeling like less than enough for so many years, and now, suddenly having this person he loved, and who he thought loved him, he saw a little light at the end of the tunnel.

Only to have this light be snuffed out right in front of his eyes.

Because I don't think Eric really loved Adam, or that he loved Rahim for that matter. I think that perhaps Eric knew what kind of love he wanted in theory, so he was following a script he has written in his head. But when reality sets in and he gets bored, or he realises that his boyfriend isn't the way he would like him to be exactly, he goes and cheats, feeling no remorse whatsoever.

And just, I hate that. I hate that so much.

And I most of all hate the girlbossification of the moment right after he broke up with Adam. It was framed by the narrative as some sort of triumph, an "everybody makes mistakes" kind of moment. A "we're wild, young and free, let's live our lives and think of the consequences later". Not to mention that it was mixed with the atmosphere of the end of Otis' arc this season, which was feeling very life affirming given that his mum was on the brink of death, but she was now okay, and he also had his newborn little sister.

But Eric Effiong is not Hannah Montana.

He has now hurt two people in a very similar manner, all because he has not taken the time to know himself or know what he truly wants. In the end I would not be surprised if it was Eric that is actually full of shame that is just laying unresolved and covered with obscene amounts of fake confidence.

But we will see about that, won't we?

In the end, both Eric and Otis have hurt some people really badly this season, and making it feel appropriate to end the season on a high note with that thought in mind is just in poor taste in my opinion.

I really, genuinely hope that Eric will get his shit together in season 4. Because as of right now, I really cannot stand him. He used to be who I considered to be the best character on the show, but now I can say with full confidence that he is not.

Finding yourself should not be an excuse for treating people like shit. You can really do that without breaking hearts.

But I guess Eric doesn't know that, does he?

Real quick can I just say that I am not a fan of the whole “you have to come out to everyone and be as comfortable as I am in my sexuality or else I’m gonna break up with you” trope that is very common in lgbt+ relationships in stories? Because I am very tired of it.

I’m very disappointed to see that this season decided to go down that route with Adam & Eric. I am very shocked and disappointed to see Adam get so much growth and come to terms with who he is (and trying to be a better person for Eric), just for Eric to break up with him because Adam isn’t as out as he’d like him to be. Adam is still learning who he is and what he wants and it’s very unfair to expect him to be as comfortable as Eric with his sexuality.

This season offered a lot of growth and development for Adam which I loved. But Eric’s character felt really off and poorly written. Honestly this storyline was horrific.

I wish people would stop writing stories like this. It’s extremely damaging to see queer characters being made to feel like they’re unlovable or not good enough if they’re not out of the closet. It’s gross and hurtful.

adam groff's soft little 'i look quite pretty' rb if u agree

I knew Hope was a nasty little racist the MINUTE she assumed Adam was the Head Boy… every interaction with any queer or POC felt like the human embodiment of a microaggression

otis and ruby went through a pregnancy scare together, otis’ first time was with ruby, ruby’s first time falling in love was with otis, otis has never been more carefree than when he was with ruby, otis is the only person in ruby’s life that has been to her house and met her dad AND I AM SUPPOSED TO ROOT FOR MAEVE AND OTIS??????????????????? nah

thinking about how adam has been made to feel like a disappointment by his father his whole life and when he finally tries to figure out who he is without his dad’s oppressive presence he’s made to feel like a disappointment by his own boyfriend ☹️ adam finally has the chance to explore his queer identity and overcome his dad’s abuse and eric’s like ‘well if you won’t come to the gay club then i guess you’re not figuring it out fast enough for me to stay’ ☹️ and then the narrative rewards eric for this, he just leaves his bf crying on a bridge and the next scene we see of him he’s laughing and jamming out in his room while adam’s voiceover reads out a poem about how he’s never felt love like he did for eric to the extent that he truly believed himself to be a totally heartless person ☹️

i love that moment in sex education s3 where hope just automatically assumes that adam is the head boy and shakes his hand and ignores jackson completely. it so easily shows hope’s casual racism and how much she doesn’t care about what she’s done or what it means. and it very nicely sets up/sows the seeds for how hope treats viv later and when she tells her that of course it’s all about “how it looks”

just finished s3 of sex education and all i want to say is that adam groff fucking CARRIED this season and his development has been incredibly well done.

sorry but in WHAT world would a hall full of british teenagers think their new headteacher was cool because she danced across the stage like theresa may? everyone would eat her alive

It pisses me off because Ruby was totally okay with her and Otis just being casual and it was him that forced her to open up. He basically asked her to make their relationship more personal and to stop hiding him. And she literally did. She pushed away her ego and made them official. She ignored the clothing rules she had with her friends so Otis could feel more comfortable in her environment. She introduced him to her dad something she has never done before and also very personal to her. He made her do all of that, made her become vulnerable only for him to do this to her. And no, he wasn’t obligated to say ily back, but he should’ve had the decency to commit because the one that asked for exclusivity was him. Of course Ruby wasn't going to come back to having a casual relationship with him after she opened herself up to him in the hopes of him maybe falling for her. And of course, I don’t think Otis is an awful person for this, he is a teenager after all, but I wished it would’ve been handle differently because it’s a mistake that happened on season 2 as well.

Adam: *said I love you first, is a bottom, lets Eric do his makeup when they’re alone and very clearly enjoys it, is actively working on communicating better with Eric abt his feelings, worked hard to befriend Otis for Eric, is consistently putting himself out of his comfort zone for Eric’s benefit despite the turmoil in his family life and internalized homophobia and self hatred, is writing a poem for his boyfriend, and then proceeds to FORGIVE HIM FOR CHEATING ON HIM AND BASICALLY APOLOGIZES FOR ‘CAUSING IT’ AND PROMISES TO TRY TO PUSH HIMSELF FURTHER OUT OF HIS COMFORT ZONE*

Eric: 🤩I’m breaking up with you and I’m ~saying~ it’s not your fault but I’m saying it’s because you’re not on my level of queerness yet (read: I’m better than you) which basically means I’m breaking up with you because there’s something wrong with you(so its ‘not your fault’ but it is because of you)! I know you’re out to the entire school and we kissed in front of your dad but you’re not out to your mom yet — I expected you to come out to everyone on the planet the day we started dating! and oh yeah, cheating on you with a stranger I’ll probably never see again on a 1 week vacation was more enjoyable for me than our tender and loving relationship and I’m going to heavily imply that cheating or as I like to call it my ~moment of freedom~ was a result of your shortcomings. I’m gonna just walk away now without any remorse or emotions on my face even though you’re clearly heartbroken and trying not to cry — oops you’re crying now sorry bye 🚴 toodles! 🤩

I haven’t seen anyone talk about this, but why is no one talking about the casual racism from Hope when she assumed Adam was Jackson?

#whitewomantears

"I could fix him" well I could turn him into a flea, a harmless little flea, and then I'll put that flea in a box and then I'll put that box inside of another box and I'll mail that box to myself and when it arrives AHAHAHA I'll smash it with a hammer!!!

exactly

#LateStageCapitalism

Just saw a TikTok where this bi woman was like,

‘I’m a woman-leaning bisexual and you know what pisses me off? The fact that I’m dating a skinny white man and I love him and I’m happy, like what the fuck.’

And I just have to say. What pisses me off as a bisexual woman is that TikTok.

This is the Woke version of ‘my wife is the ol’ ball and chain, doesn’t it suck to be married,’ jokes. It’s not funny. Your queerness is not negated or tarnished by opposite-gender attraction, dating men isn’t inherently worse than dating women.

Love your partner.

Cherish them.

For fucks sake.

working memory bad 💚

what are joe biden's plans to fix the reblog ratio

so glad i outgrew some people

Say what you want about tiktok but the trend of writing the captions onto the video? That’s super helpful/inclusive for deaf/HH people (and even people who don’t speak a language natively etc) and I just think that’s kinda cool.

So many platforms have videos that aren’t accessible to people, but it’s become the norm on tiktok to caption the videos and that’s pretty nice. Also since the captions are actually on the video, that means when it gets reposted to other websites it is still accessible!

Abusive parents can say “I love you”

Abusive parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes.

Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders.

Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school bullies.

Abusive parents are still abusive, regardless of the things they get right or the nice things they sometimes do.

biting is a love language. no i will not elaborate.