Oh No! I’ve Been Called Out!.. But Also. If Someone Just Wanted To Keep Me Compliant And Dumb, Having

very important info!!! please take this kind of thing seriously please!!

Aftercare. 💙✨

I know most people know what subdrop is, but for the few who don’t I’ll explain.

Subdrop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it released during a scene or session.

Meaning, after you‘ve come down from your high, you start to feel mentally and emotionally attacked from what just happened. You start to think all these bad things about yourself and how someone normal would not find what just occurred pleasurable in anyways.

That’s why aftercare is important. Showering your sub in compliments,food, cuddle sessions. Just stuff that will make them feel like you care and that you don’t judge them for enjoying what they like.

Another thing, I’m positive that most people don’t know is what topdrop is. It’s the same as subdrop but it affects doms/dommes.

I know some people will be like- “Doms/dommes don’t go through that, nothing like that bothers them.” That’s where you’re wrong.

Remember we’re all human so no one is exempt from feeling used or feeling disgusted with their actions even though they shouldn’t be.

Not many know this but being a dom/domme is exhausting. A good top plans physical punishments or sexual scenes down to the T so their is no room for accidents and after all that planning and executing said plan they sometimes feel bad for doing what they did or even feel used in a sense.

That’s why aftercare is important for both parties. Show them that you care and that you appreciate what they did. Reassure them that they didn’t hurt you in a bad way and that they only did what they did to help you grow. ASK👏 THEM👏 IF👏 THEY’RE👏 OKAY👏!! Especially right after a session.

That can be the difference between showing that you care or not.

AFTERCARE IS A NECESSITY FOR BOTH PARTICIPANTS!!👏💙✨

one of my more embarrassing pleasures! I just like to be treated like a baby who needs to be taken care of you know? I just need praise and guidance to really know what’s good for me <3

Talk down to me.

It’s so hot when men don’t take me seriously. I can’t help it - when a man simply looks at me and assumes I’m a clueless, helpless little dolt, it makes me melt. It makes me mad, and insults me, and frustrates me… but mostly, it gets me so damn wet.

A condescending, patronizing tone just cuts right through me, making it clear that in his eyes, I’m just a pleasing body and not much of a brain. It’s insulting, demeaning, and I wish I didn’t love it.

But fuck - I do.

Tell me how dumb I am. Roll your eyes at me when I try and show what I know. Mansplain to me and pat me on the head. No matter how hard I try not to, I’ll love you for it.

happy friends make me happy :)

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy

I tried to scroll past this. I really did

this is a promise /and/ a threat 😘

Look all I'm saying is whatever you put in front of my face, I'm putting it in my mouth 😤

oh! she should be so happy now! her concerns were heard and she’s now being rewarded for all of her hard work!! wow, and they didn’t even make her beg or anything, what a nice man <3

Girls don’t deserve an opinion.

feeling small is one of my favorite feelings in the whole world <3

hi yes, this is absolutely one of the most romantic things I’ve ever heard of and I absolutely love this. I literally love all of this so so much so thank you for verbalizing this 💖

all of my problems would be solved if i got kidnapped i think. thinking about someone wanting me so bad they go through all that work to sweep me up from my life? very cute

kidnapping is the new romance

absolutely!! it’s completely and totally embarrasing to admit how long I’ve actually day dreamed about this exact scenario. >~<

i just want someone to take advantage of how young and naive i am. just slowly start to grope me and tell me that it's normal to let someone touch me like this whenever they want to. then build up to taking off my clothes and having me be naked around you because this is normal and everyone does this. it's normal to let strangers touch me like this and take my clothes off. 🥺👉👈

really needing to be spanked after such a long day, it’s the absolute stress reliever to let my thoughts go so empty with a bruised bum.

/big/ mood! is it too much to ask for this to be how i’m swept off my feet? :>

a man telling me he would rape me is the biggest compliment i could ever be given. im nothing more than a disgusting, fucked up, broken whore who deserves pain and abuse💕