Getting Misgendered By Adults But Universally Correctly Gendered By Children Makes Me Feel Like Some

getting misgendered by adults but universally correctly gendered by children makes me feel like some sort of fairy creature thats true form is only perceptible to children

“Absent Father“

1. “Hey “dad” I did it without you.”

2. “Having kids doesn’t make you a father raising them does.”

3. “My dad broke my heart way before any boy had the chance to.”

4. “If a man cannot be a father to his own child, there is nothing worse than that.”

5. “Just remember when you are ignoring her, you are teaching her to live without you.”

6. “He was supposed to be the first male love of her life search for him everywhere.”

7. “A father may turn his back on his child, but a mother’s love endures through all.“

8. “Respect to all moms doing double duty because of men failing to do their part as dad.“

9. “When you grew up with an absent father, you grew up dreaming and wanting.“

10. “Don’t forgive him. Forgive yourself for believing there is something lacking in you because he wasn’t there.“

11. “One of the saddest things in this world, is to see a child grow up hating one of their parents -father

12. “I miss the father you never were.”

13. “There's nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody

else except a father to their own child.“

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crazzyyyramblings

10 months ago

Jealousy is often portrayed as a toxic and/or abusive trait.

And I just want to talk about that for a minute, especially for those who struggle with jealousy because I think a lot of you might feel bad when you see those posts.

Jealousy itself is not inherently bad. Again, like with other emotions, the emotion itself is not bad. It's your behaviours that might become a problem. Jealousy is actually a really normal and common emotion. I feel like by constantly demonizing "jealousy" that people are less likely to get help for managing it when it gets out of hand for them, and this could be harmful to them in the long run.

For example, there's a difference between "How dare you talk to another friend! Clearly you don't care about me." and "I'm feeling a bit insecure. Could you please give me some reassurance?" There's a difference between pushing your partner to not have relationships outside of you, and communicating with your partner about how you can work together to make you feel less like you're being replaced.

Actions like not allowing a partner/friend to have other relationships because of jealousy, or blowing up at them because someone flirted with them or etc are not okay (I also want to say that if you've done things I've said are "not okay" in the past, that you aren't bad or beyond healing. You can learn from those mistakes and do better). But the emotion itself is not bad and there are healthy ways to handle it.

If you struggle with jealousy, you are not a bad person. You are not automatically abusive or anything like that.

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crazzyyyramblings

5 months ago

having bpd and also being a people pleaser is so weird because i will hate someone when they’re not with me and swear i’ll ignore them, and then 15 minutes later i’ll pick up their call and spend the next five hours with them

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crazzyyyramblings

6 months ago

i wish i had a dadddddddddddddddddddddddddddddsaddddddd

(hes alive, just shitty)

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crazzyyyramblings

6 months ago

Notes goal post. Because why not.

I don't expect this to get very much attention, but I need motivation for some stuff so here we go I suppose

20 notes and I'll drink some water

50 and ill brush my teeth every night for the next week