When It Suddenly Becomes Your Business

The Stormlight Archive: Secret History

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Yes

Me during most conversations that require my opinion.

My being asexual doesn't cause me distress nor does it negatively affect my daily life. It is other people that cause me distress. I don't notice what I don't have. It's constantly having people point out that they think something is wrong with me.

Best part Of Being Aromantic: You draw deep emotional connection from friendships rather than a lover, meaning you experience deep and powerful friendships which will give you life and light in your life.

Worst Part Of Being Aromantic: A fight with a friend breaks your heart, even when it shouldn't. Losing your friend is like going through a bad breakup and no one even understands how hurt you are because you shouldn't feel that attached to people who are "just friends".

My new response

I must decline, for secret reasons.

Ahhhhhhhh

always difficult for me

i wonder how aromantic people deal with loneliness

not just, you know, the standard loneliness where you feel like you need someone’s company

but the inherent “emptiness” associated with not being understood by a lot of people, or always never being first in your friends’ minds because they don’t see your friendship as better than their romantic relationships.

the loneliness associated with the general stigma against “not being able to feel anything”, not being able to fall in love and get married, not really, not like how others would want to experience some day.

of wanting people to just understand and acknowledge that you exist, that how you think and feel is valid, and you’re not any less of a person and should not be valued less just because you can’t feel the same way most people do.

that you need relationships too, and companionship, and to be loved. just not in the way most people feel, but that doesn’t make it any less of a need.

i wonder how aromantics are supposed to deal with all of this, honestly.

what is a sex drive where is the sex going does it even have a license