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Basic Rules for a Dominant

Basic rules for a Dominant

by Whips, Chains & Duct Tape on Saturday, August 25, 2012 at 10:34pm ·

Basic Rules for a Dom (Not written by me)

1. The submissive’s SAFETY will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally.

2. ALWAYS respect and honour a submissive’s safe word and never put him or her in a position to be afraid to use it.

3. Just as submission is a gift to be treasured, Domination is a talent to be mastered so BE educated and experienced at dominating BEFORE you take on the responsibility of another’s life.

4. Don’t be too arrogant to be able to listen and understand your submissive’s viewpoints and needs. You might just learn something from them. After all communication is the foundation of a strong D/s relationship and can not be obtained if it is all one sided.

5. Never punish a submissive by withholding your affection, this is emotional blackmail.

6. Provide guidance and support when needed and stay tuned in to your submissive’s moods. In return you will gain a submissive that is eager to please and serve you because they feel of value.

7. Provide your submissive with negotiated guidelines to stay within and when the submissive steps out of those guidelines CONSISTLY apply punishment.

8. Understand that just as a submissive’s trust must be earned so must a Dominant earn a submissive’s trust. This does not undermine your control but strengthens it.

9. Enjoy and use what is offered to you with kindness, harshness, pain and pleasure and have the wisdom to know when to use each one.

10. Never be too full of pride or blinded by your own “power trip” to admit when you have made a mistake and to even say “I’m sorry”. Just as no submissive is perfect for their Dominant 24 hours a day; no Dominant is perfect either.

11. Don’t be afraid to extend trust. Just as you prove that you are trustworthy only when the submissive trusts you, so you can only develop your submissive’s trustworthiness by being willing to extend trust. Failure to do so may poison the relationship, either by setting the submissive up to “cheat” or by suggesting to the sub that he or she may not *be* trustworthy, or by creating distrust for you in a reciprocal action.

12. Nurture your submissive. The more the submissive knows and can do, the more valuable your sub is to his- or herself as a person, and the more valuable his or her submission to you will become to you both. It is more satisfying to have a strong person trust you by yielding control than to have control over a person who is a “doormat.”

Letting him pay, sets you up in the feminine role and him in the masculine role.

Makes him feel more like a man and successful and you can feel like he wants to take care of you.

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I would love to give someone this experience.

deep in the pink fog

Always

Let me know which one you want to play with.

Hypnotic Suggestions -

ACCENT – UNAWARE: The subject wakes up with a different accent. They have no idea that anything is amiss though. Irish / Cornish / Northern / Cockney / American South / New York / Australian / Welsh / French

ACCENT – AWARE BUT CAN’T STOP: The subject finds herself speaking with an accent, but can’t stop herself from doing so.

ACCENT – EVERYONE ELSE: On waking, everyone else appears to be speaking with a particular accent.

ACCENT – LOVE: The subject finds that they *really* enjoy listening to the hypnotist when he uses a particular accent. Whenever he stops using that accent, she gets annoyed at him and bugs him to continue.

ADDICT - DRESSING: The subject loves to dress up and finds that she becomes the personality of the outfit. So the subject may wear a maid outfit and behave like a maid, or a domina outfit and be a harsh mistress etc.

ADDICT - COLLAR: The subject will awake wearing her collar (or will desire to be collared) and as soon as she wears it she is totally willing as a slave to do anything. Alternatively the subject could awake to wear the collar and not remember putting it on and be unable to remove it. Over the course of the day the subject will find themselves becoming more submissive and obedient to the collar and her master.

ADDICT - CLOTHING: The subject believes she has a fetish for clothing (lace, rubber, PVC, tights/pantyhose). She will love talking about it, wearing it, showing it off. The clothing could also be made to feel as though it’s attached to her pleasure centres so that rubbing her legs or feet in rubber or pantyhose will give orgasms.

ADDICT - HYPNOSIS: The subject finds that she craves more and more to be entranced and will do absolutely anything to be hypnotised by her master.

ADDICT - ORAL FIXATION: The subject finds it a huge turn on applying lipstick and lipgloss repeatedly. She will find it enjoyable sucking on lollipops and will eat things in a seductive way.

ADDICT - MIRROR: The subject will find that their reflection is very attractive and they will become enamoured by their features especially their eyes. As they stare their mind becomes blank and happy and they enter trance and repeat a desired mantra.

AMNESIA – HYPNOSIS: The subject wakes and doesn’t recall being hypnotized.

AMNESIA – TOTAL: On waking, the subject doesn’t recall anything at all, they don’t know who they are, why they’re here, or recall fact that they’ve been hypnotized. All they know is how to speak.

AMNESIA – DISBELIEVER: The subject wakes, and doesn’t believe they’ve been hypnotized, nothing can be said that will convince them that it’s happened. The more the hypnotist tries to convince them, the more dismissive of the whole idea they’ll become.

AMNESIA – AROUSAL: Get aroused and orgasm, then forget what just happened and carry on as normal. Rinse and repeat.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – BIMBO: On waking, the subject feels giggly, girly and shallow. All she wants to discuss are drinking, parties, sex, clothes, cars, things she thinks are pretty, cute animals, and accessories for cute animals.

ALTERED PERSONALITY - BABYGIRL: On waking, the subject feels younger, innocent and sweet, playful. All she wants to do is dress and act like a young girl. Perhaps sucking her thumb or pacifier, craving a bottle. She may wish to go further and experience the hypnotist as a Daddy and wish to please him. She will speak with a little girl voice and limited vocabulary. Optional the subject may desire to wear diapers which they may or may not use if desired.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – DOLLY: On waking, the subjects face will be in a fixed smile, her eyes wide, her fingers spread wide and fixed in place, she’ll speak in a girly “dolly” voice.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – FEMBOT: Movements are artificial and robotic, face is blank, voice is monotone. Says “I. Hear. And. Obey” / “Affirmative” / “At. Once. Master” / “I. Must. Obey” [See ROBOT]

ALTERED PERSONALITY – SEDUCTRESS: On waking, the subject feels very *very* flirty. Anyone that she talks to, she’ll try to seduce. Basically all she’s interested in is getting everyone into bed.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – SLAVEGIRL: Become completely submissive, eager to obey, happy to show yourself off in any way. Eyes downcast, kneeling, meek and respectful.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – MAID: On waking, the subject is a French Maid, she wants to totter around in high heels cleaning, posing, moving coquettishly (wiggling her hips, gasping, squeaking “Ooh la la!” “Zut allors!” etc) and speaking with a french accent.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – MISTRESS: On waking, the subject feels that everyone around her is inferior to her, they should be addressing her properly, showing the correct level of respect. She won’t take any backchat, and will dominate everyone.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – NYMPHOMANIAC: On waking, the subject feels *deeply* turned on by herself, her body, her curves. She loves showing herself off. All she can think of is sex, it’s all she can talk about.

ALTERED PERSONALITY – SEX-SLAVE KITTEN: Moving round seductively on all fours, wanting to show herself off, feeling totally hot and turned on. Her movements are slow, cat-like, elegant, she almost feels like purring.

ATTITUDE ALTERATION – MODEL: On waking, the subject switches between modeling in one style (shy and naïve) and another (raunchy and sexy)

ATTITUDE ALTERATION CAR ACCIDENT: On waking, the subject believes that you’ve just reversed over her prize vegetable patch and she’s bloody furious. When she hears a trigger, she switches to being apologetic as she suddenly believes that *she’s* the one who reversed over the vegetables.

BELIEVES SHE’S CLOTHED: Wakes up naked but believes she’s clothed.

BELIEVES SHE’S NUDE: Wakes up believing that she’s naked when she’s not.

BLANK: On hearing the word “Blank” the subject becomes blank, expressionless, emotionless, and thoughtless. Gazing straight ahead of themselves. They still follow commands, but don’t do anything for themselves without instruction.

BODYLOCK: On hearing the word “Bodylock” the subject finds herself locked in place, unable to move a muscle, she’s still aware of what’s going on, and able to speak, but can’t move a thing below the neck.

BODYSLAVE: On hearing the word “Bodyslave” the subject is no longer able to physically control herself. She’ll find that she can speak just fine, but she can’t move unless she’s told to. When she’s given an instruction, her mouth (to her surprise) will say “Yes Sir” and she’ll obey the instruction immediately.

BODYSLAVE – HANDS: On waking, the subject will find that her hands are no longer under her own control. They’ll obey the hypnotist, whether he tells them to tickle her, caress her, tease her, or do “other” interesting things to her.

BUZZ: On waking up, whenever the subject hears the word “Buzz” she’ll feel a sexual buzzing in a certain part of her body.

HYPNO-BONDAGE: On hearing the word “Bound” whichever part of her body is mentioned becomes bound in place. Arms above head / Legs wide / Wrists out in front of her / Ball Gag / Wrists beside her.

CATNIP: On waking up, the subject finds herself reacting to an innocuous object (clothing, cushions, etc) as if she were a cat, and the object was coated in catnip. She’ll rub herself into it happily, possibly realising this, possibly acting as though it’s totally normal.

COMMON AS MUCK: On waking, the way that the subject speaks has been altered, she now speaks like a common chav, swearing randomly, using bad english, and generally not being very ladylike.

COPYCAT (2 Girl Suggestion): Both girls wake up feeling great, one finds herself compelled to copy anything said by the first girl though. This could be a deliberate and precise copy, or a sarcastic mocking copy.

DANCER: Whenever the subject hears music / a trigger she gets up and performs a sexy dance. (Belly dance / podium dance / etc)

DRUGGED DRINK 1: On taking a sip of a drink, the subjects eyes will roll back and she’ll swoon, almost fainting, as a strong sensation of being drugged washes through her.

DRUGGED DRINK 2: The subject will believe she’s just drunk a drugged drink and she’s slowly falling into unconsciousness, she’ll do her best to fight to keep herself awake, but the longer she fights tiredness for, the more powerful the waves of tiredness will become.

DRUNK: On waking, whenever the subject sees a particular trigger, it’s like they’ve taken another shot of spirits. Over time, the subject becomes more and more drunk and silly.

EROGENOUS ZONE: On waking up, the subject will now be very turned on by an unusual body part being stroked (elbows, nose, chin, etc)

EXPERIENCE – SHOWER: On waking up, the subject believes that she’s alone in the bathroom. She’ll get herself undressed, turn on a nice hot shower and step into it. She won’t realise anyone else is there, any suggestions given (turn around, washing your hair, you’ve dropped the soap) she’ll follow without realising it.

EXHIBITIONIST: The subject believes that she’s just having a normal conversation, but throughout the chat, she’ll keep exposing herself when she thinks you’re not looking.

EYE ROLLING: On being given a trigger, the subject will find her eyes won’t stop rolling back in her head for the next 30 seconds. After that time she’ll wake / sleep.

FIXATION: On waking up, the subject will find herself totally fixated on a particular object. (Candle / Pendant / Spiral / Camera) The longer she looks at it, the more enchanted / sleepy / sexy she’ll begin to feel.

FLASHING ON COMMAND: Whenever she hears the word “Flash” the subject finds she has to flash her breasts. (She can be aware or unaware that she’s doing this)

FLASH O’CLOCK: Whenever you say a time, the subject flashes that many times.

FREEZE: Whenever the subject hears a trigger (stopwatch, the word “freeze”, etc) she locks totally in place, unaware of anything till the word “Move” is said.

SLOW-FREEZE: The subject freezes from the ground up over the course of a minute: feet, ankles, knees, hips, chest, shoulders, elbows, wrists, hands, fingers, neck, mouth, eyes. At the end of a minute, they’re a frozen statue.

SLOW-MELT: The subject finds the strength leaving the muscles in her feet, and she’s forced to sit / lie down. As time passes, the melting sensation travels up her body, melting the rest of her muscles until it reaches her eyes, at which point they roll back and shut.

FORCE FIELD: She wants to touch something / eat something / stroke herself / but there’s an invisible shield pushing her hands away.

FREEZE-TAG (2 Girl Suggestion): Every 45 seconds, one girl will freeze, while the other will be able to move freely. Take turns toying with the other.

GAME LOSER: On waking up, the subject will believe that she loses any game that is played. (Higher / Lower with cards for example.) Every time she “loses” she has to do a forfeit.

GENDER SWITCH: On waking up, the subject will believe herself to be a macho stereotypical guy. Belching, scratching, sexist and horny. She’ll think everyone else in the room is a *very* cute girl.

GENIE IN A BOTTLE: She’s a genie living in a bottle. When you rub it, she appears, willing to do everything you want. When you rub it again, she vanishes into the bottle, and sees only the inside of the bottle. She begs to be released, and feels it when you move and tip the bottle around.

GIGGLES: On waking up, the subject finds herself starting to giggle, the more she tries to control it, the funnier it will seem, and the less control she’ll find she has. She’ll end up giggling and laughing uncontrollably.

GOLDDIGGER Make her think she is a golddigger, and that you are the richest person on the world.

HYPNOTIC CIGARETTE: This suggestion would only be given to a model who was a smoker. With every drag the model takes of her cigarette, she’ll drop deeper and deeper into trance.

HYPNOTIC DRINK: With every sip of a drink she has, the model drops deeper and deeper into trance.

ITCHY CLOTHES: On waking up, the subject finds her clothes become progressively more and more uncomfortable till she apologises but has to strip nude. It doesn’t seem strange to her to be naked.

JEDI MIND TRICK: When the hypnotist passes his hand in front of the subjects face and gives a command. “You want to give me a back massage” the subject goes blank, repeats the command she’s just been given, and then leaves the blank state, believing that the command was her own idea.

JOYRIDER MALE: On waking up, the subject believes that she’s now a horny 17 year old guy… “he’s” delighted to find himself in the body of this absolute hottie, and immediately begins doing what any horny guy would do if he found himself suddenly possessing breasts and a smokin’ hot body.

JOYRIDER WITCH: On waking up, the subject believes that she’s a powerful 100 year old hypnotic sorceress who’s tricked a young girl into drinking a potion laced with her essence. The witch laughs about the naive young girl’s foolishness, basks in her sexy new body, and tries to hypnotize you to be her slave and servant.

LASER-CHASE: On waking up, the subject finds herself reacting to a laser pointer as a cat would, chasing and trying to catch the light, finding the whole thing completely absorbing.

LIAR LIAR: On waking up, the subject will find herself compelled to lie whenever she’s asked a question. Her lies will grow more and more outrageous over time.

LOOPS NOTE: She finds a note in her pocket / tucked into her clothes, takes it out, unfolds it, reads it, and puts it back, she then realises it’s there again, takes it out, reads it, and puts it back. (The note says “After reading this, put it back and forget you read it. Realise it’s there in 5 seconds time.”)

LOVESTRUCK: On waking up, the subject will find herself falling head over heels in love with everyone else / the hypnotist / the camerman / the other girl. All she’ll want to do is chat and flirt, and arrange a date.

LOVESTRUCK – UNREQUITED (2 Girl): On waking up, subject A will find herself deeply attracted to Subject B, she’ll find her beautiful, sexy, and will be totally drawn to her. Subject B will have no interest at all in these advances. On a trigger, the pair of them switch around.

MANNEQUIN: On hearing the word “Freeze” the subject freezes in place like a mannquin. They are fully poseable, but don’t realise anything is happening while they’re frozen. When they’re told “Move” they carry on, realising what’s happened.

MANNEQUIN – AUTOPOSE: Whilst in mannequin mode, if the subject is given a direction, they’ll pose in that style when they hear the word “Pose” Surprise / Anger / Attraction / Aloof / Confused / Fear / Dominant / Attitude / Brazen / Slutty / Flirt / Arousal / Orgasmic / Luxurious

MANTRA – MINDLESS: Remaining in trance, the subject will repeat a mantra out loud. “My Mind is Empty, I Must Obey” / “I Must Obey My Master” / “I Am A Slavegirl, I Love to Obey” etc. As she repeats her mantra, she will program herself deeper and deeper.

MIND READING: Whenever you give the subject a trigger, she speaks her thoughts outloud, without being aware of doing so. This could be used for winning at guessing games, inadvertently getting her to tell the truth, or better anticipating her reaction to things.

MIRROR GAME Whenever the hypnotist says “Mirror Game” the subject will go to the nearest mirror, and gaze deeply into her own eyes as she counts down from 5 to zero. With each number her eyes grow wider, and she grows more and more uncontrollably horny and aroused. When she reaches Zero she will orgasm very hard, watching her eyes the whole time. She will not touch herself in any way while she’s doing this.

MIRROR MIRROR (2 Girl Suggestion): One girl remains blank and entranced, the other girl wakes up feeling sexy elegant and playful. The girl who’s hypnotized becomes a mirror of the girl who’s awake, blankly mirroring and copying her every action.

MISBEHAVING HANDS: On waking, the subject’s hands rove over her body, playing and toying with her in naughty ways, she realises this is going on, but can’t stop this from happening.

MISBEHAVING HANDS – CASUAL / UNAWARE / BLANK: As above, but the subject is fully in control of herself and believes it to be perfectly normal that she’d do this in front of a camera / Doesn’t even realise she’s doing it. / Is enchanted the whole time.

MODELING – INNOCENT FIRST TIMER: On waking up, the subject believes this is her first ever photoshoot, she’s nervous, but excited. Her poses will be shy, fun, silly, and girly as she loosens up. She’s not at all interested in doing anything sexual.

MODELING – RAUNCHY FIRST TIMER: On waking up, the subject believes she’s been modeling for a while, and wants to start doing poses that are a little more raunchy. She’ll ask if it’s alright to start taking her clothes off and doing sexy poses. She’ll feel very excited about the idea of getting naked on camera.

MODELING – XXX TV PRESENTER: On waking up, the subject believes that she’s auditioning for a role on a late night TV show on a XXX adult channel. The role requires her to flirt, tease, and strip. She’ll happily caress herself, get out her breasts and play with them seductively. She’ll hint to those that “subscribe” to the channel that she’ll be doing *much* more on the late night show itself.

MUTE: Whenever the word “Mute” is said, the subject finds herself unable to produce any noise from her mouth, she has to mime instead.

NEWSREADER – SEDUCTIVE: On waking up, the subject reads a news report to the camera, as she reads it though, she grows progressively more flirtatious and seductive. Her language starts to fill with innuendo.

NEWSREADER / XXX TV PRESENTER SWITCH:On waking, the subject will be auditioning for the part of newsreader for a well known news corporation. On hearing the word “Switch” she’ll instead find herself auditioning for the role of XXX Television presenter, and will start making very suggestive conversation as she caresses herself.

NUDIST: On waking up, the subject will believe that she’s a nudist. Clothing will seem very unnatural to her and she’ll ask if it’s alright for her to strip. She’ll try to convince everyone else that they should be naked too.

OBLIVIOUS COUNTDOWN: Over a five minute period the subject counts down from 10 to 0, she doesn’t realise that she’s doing it. On reaching 0 the subject drops into trance.

ONE TRACK MIND: On waking up, the subject can only understand you when you discuss her body or sex, nothing else is understood, it’s like a strange language.

ORGASM ON COMMAND: Whenever the hypnotist gives a particular trigger, the subject experiences a powerful orgasm.

OUTBURSTS: Whenever the subject hears a particular trigger, she’ll jump up and shout. “The Monkeys Have Stolen My Purse” “That Badger’s Got a Gun” “Arrest That Weasel” “Dancing Donkeys are Everywhere”

PLEASURE LINK: An innocent and innocuous body part (little finger, earlobe) becomes linked with a much more sexy and intimate body part. Everything that innocuous body part feels, the intimate area will also feel.

PROGRESSIVELY DUMB: The more time passes, the more dumb the subject becomes. Every sentence spoken makes her lose 10 IQ points, by the time she’s said 5 things, she’s noticeably less intelligent. By the time she’s said 10, she’s having trouble stringing more than a couple of words together.

HYPNO-PUPPY / HYPNO-KITTEN: On waking up the subject will think herself a playful puppy or a cute kitten. As a puppy she’ll chase her tail, fetch, speak / beg / play dead / shake hands on command. As a kitten she’ll be slinky and pounce on things, if anything has catnip on it, she’ll rub herself all over it happily.

PUPPET: On waking up, the subject finds she’s not in control of her body any more. Strings appear to come from her wrists, ankles and head, extending into the ceiling, making her a human puppet. The hypnotist can indicate which of these strings he’s pulling, and as he pulls them, the puppet will feel her hands, feet, or head turning in the indicated directions. She could even find that she has her own set of puppet controls in her hand, leaving her still able to control herself, but in an unfamiliar way.

PUPPET – STRINGS CUT: When the subject hears the words “Strings Cut” she’ll feel like a puppet who’s had all her strings cut, she’ll find herself sagging, slumping, or otherwise melting to the ground, still aware of everything but unable to control her body.

PUPPET MIRRORING: When the subject wakes, she’ll feel like a puppet, incapable of movement unless the person she’s mirroring is moved. The person being mirrored could be the hypnotist themself, or a second person that the hypnotist moves and manipulates as though they were a life-sized doll. The subject moves in time with their mirror.

PSYCHIC VAMPIRE: Girl 1 is a psychic vampire who feeds off of mental energy. Girl 2 is her victim. Girl 1 “feeds” by giving Girl 2 kisses on various parts of her body and slowly stealing her mind. The kisses give Girl 2 orgasmic pleasure, making her helpless to resist more kisses. After 3 or 4 kisses, Girl 2 becomes very spacy and finds it hard to concentrate. After 5 or 6, she is noticeably dumber. At 9 or 10, she can barely speak, or remember anything. At 12 kisses, she is totally mindless, but has become the zombie slave of Girl 1 and can follow (very simple) commands.

QUEEN OF EVIL 2 girls. Girl 1 is made to believe that she is a dominant supervillain, called the Queen of Evil. She has hypnotic powers and can turn people into zombie slaves. She plans to take over the world, but before she does, she is going to play with Girl 2 for a bit. Girl 2 is herself, but recognizes Girl 1 as the Queen of Evil, famous supervillain. Girl 1 toys with Girl 2 for a while, while Girl 2 begs for mercy. Then Girl 1 enslaves Girl 2 and has fun making her do things. Finish up by having Girl 1 gloat to the camera, showing off her new slave to the world, and telling the world that they will soon be serving her as well.

REMOTE SENSATION (2 Girl or Doll Suggestion): On waking up, anything a girl does to herself, the other girl experiences it 3 times as powerfully. Tickling, caressing, teasing, etc.

ROBOT – ADJUSTABLE LEVEL: On waking up, how robotic the subject is can be adjusted on a 0 to 10 scale. If 0 is said, the subject will be her normal self. If 10 is said, the subject will become completely robotic.

ROBOT – MALFUNCTION / REBOOT: On waking as a robot, the subject will periodically malfunction. She’ll repeat herself, her movements will become jerky, she may announce “ERROR” messages, and her software may crash. When this happens she’ll freeze for a moment, before folding up, and then rebooting and reintroducing herself.

ROBOT – POWER LOSS: On waking as a Robot, the subject will begin to announce that her power level is low. (5% and falling) As her power levels drop, she’ll slow down, her movements will periodically lock in place, and her speech will slur and slow. At 0% she’ll shut down, freezing in place, then folding up.

TOURETTES: The subject has outbursts of swearing that she can’t control. She can be aware or unaware of the behaviour and obviously either embarrassed or entertained by it.

SECRET DESIRES: The subject will awake and without knowing tell any thoughts or sexy ideas that she is having to her master.

HYPNOTIC-SCENT: On waking, the subject will find herself absolutely loving the perfume / aftershave of someone else in the room. She’ll want to hug (and even sniff) the person wearing it. She might try to hide that she’s sniffing, she might not.

SELF TRIGGER – BLANK:On speaking a specific word, the subject triggers herself to become blank and thoughtless.

SELF TRIGGER – FREEZE:On speaking a specific word, the subject triggers herself to freeze in place. This could be for 5-10 seconds, or until the hypnotist says the word “Move”

SEX DOLL: On hearing the words “Sex Doll” the subject will become a lifelike rubber sexdoll. Her eyes will widen, her back will arch, her arms and legs will spread wide, and her mouth will open in a large O.

SEX TOYS ARE NORMAL:Have her believe that having a sex toy in her pussy or a butt plug in her ass is the normal default thing, not having one in is the equivalent of being naked in public. When she is under you put the toy on the table in front of her, then when she wakes up she’ll feel embarrased at not having it in her, and she’ll try and discretely insert it without you noticing.

STRIPPER: On waking up, the subject believes that she’s a sexy seductive stripper.

STRIPPER – UNAWARE: On waking up, whenever the hypnotist issues a command (wave, finger snap, clap) the subject will stand up, becoming a stripper for a moment, swaying her hips, dancing her way out of an item of clothing, and then sit back down, unaware that she just removed anything.

STRIPPER – BLANK: Remaining blank and mindless, the subject dances her way out of her clothes, she moves and behaves like a stripper, but her face remains impassive emotionless and blank.

STRIPPER – SLOW MOTION: Subject feels the urge to strip, but moves in slow motion as she does it.

SYNCHRONISED SLAVEGIRLS (2 Girl Suggestion): Both girls while blank and mindless carry out the same poses on command.

TICKLE TICKLE: Whenever she hears the word “Tickle” the subject feels herself being tickled.

TOURETTES: On waking up, the subject will find that they feel the desire to come out with sexual words and phrases. The more they hold back from saying anything, the bigger the desire will grow, if they hold back too long, they’ll end up yelling the sexual phrase.

TOURETTES VARIATIONS: Unaware that they’re doing it / Aware but deny it / Aware and apologetic / Subject keeps making perverted sexual requests.

TRANSFORMATION TO RUBBERDOLL: After drinking a glass of water she slowly transforms to a rubber doll, she finds her breasts growing, toes pointing, legs spreading, arms spreading, mouth becoming O shaped, at first she’s horrified, but as the transformation advances she feels more and more like a rubber fuckdoll, wanting to be penetrated and inviting you for a ride.

TRAPPED IN A BOX: Like a mime artist, she wakes to find herself unable to cross the room before she hits an invisble wall. She tries to go back the other way, but there’s a wall behind her too!

UNWILLING BUT UNABLE TO LOOK AWAY: On waking up, the subject will be resolved *not* to get hypnotized. They’ll find that they absolutely can’t look away from a pendant or candle placed in front of them though, they’ll do their best to look away, but to no avail. The longer they look, the more helpless and enthralled they become.

VOCABULARIC CONFUSION: On waking up, the subject will feel great, but many words in her vocabulary will have become jumbled. 90% of what she says will be fine, but random words will be replaced with similar words that make no sense. (Vocabulary > Constabulary / Hypnosis > Thrombosis / Homework / Doomsmurf)

VOLUME CONTROL: On waking up, the subject believes that the hypnotist can control the volume of their (the subject’s) voice by twisting an imaginary knob one way for quieter, and another for louder.

WIND UP BOOBIES: She’s a wind up doll that recharges herself by running and squeezing her breasts and nipples to recharge.

WORLD’S GREATEST SALESGIRL: On waking up, the subject believes she can sell absolutely *anything* in the world. She’ll try to flog the hypnotist various random things lying around the room.

X-RAY VISION: The subject wakes believing she can see through people’s clothing whenever she makes the shape of goggles with her fingers. She can see peoples underwear / see people totally nude.

ZOMBIE: The subject walks around with a blank expression on her face, her arms out in front of her, the only phrases she says are “Yes Master” and “Must obey”

How a Submissive Leads

A good submissive is often a wonderful leader. It may seem paradoxical. After all, aren’t submissives supposed to follow? The caricature of submissives is a little mouse, quiet except for “yes, Sir” and “thank you, Sir.” But submissives lead in a great many ways.

Submissives lead by example. They lead by showing up every day and honoring their commitment to the dynamic. They lead by showing their Dominant that obedience and service are for always, not just when it’s easy. It takes a lot of strength to kneel when you are tired, when you are emotionally struggling, when your confidence is shaken. It is easier to withdraw or to take back control, rather than trusting someone else with it. When submissives choose their submission over and over again, this shows faith in a vision for what the dynamic should be. It shows courage and resolve. And with this leadership, submissives inspire leadership in their Dominants with their unrelenting need to follow.

Submissives lead by providing their Dominants opportunities to lead. Sometimes submissives sense that their Dominants need a reminder that they hold the leash. When they are stressed or feeling unsure, sometimes they need to feel their partners’ submission. That connection sustains both sides of the slash. Submissives lead by recognizing when their Dominant needs to connect through power exchange and offering an opportunity to lead. They ask permission. They ask their Dominant to choose for them. They kneel with their Dominant’s favorite implement in hand. But it is up to the submissive sometimes to see the need and act on it.

Submissives lead by helping their Dominants understand their needs. This is not topping from the bottom; it is giving Dominants all the information they need to care for their property. Imagine the Dominant is blindfolded, walking a path with their submissive. The Dominant knows where they want to go. They know if they head directly west, they will reach the most perfect little town. But the submissive can see that heading directly west will send them through swamps and rocky terrain. The submissive leads by being the Dominant’s eyes—explaining the obstacles and allowing the Dominant to find a different course that will reach the destination. This is not the same as telling the Dominant where to go, just as sharing your needs is not topping from the bottom. 

Once in a D/s relationship, I was struggling with a lack of spankings. I tried telling him I needed a spanking. He’d nod, and then the next time, he’d throw me down and treat me roughly. He made sure I felt owned. But I still needed a spanking. Finally, I laid it out for him. “When I say I need a spanking, I don’t mean I need kink. I don’t mean that we’ve gone too vanilla. I don’t mean that I need you to hurt me. I mean that I need a spanking, and nothing else will do.” This felt decidedly unsubmissive to me. But through his response, I realized that this kind of guidance was the most submissive thing I could do. I showed him how to lead us. Without my leadership, he could not lead. 

Submissives lead by serving as a beacon of light. As a submissive, I light the path, and my Dominant leads us down it. I do not decide. But I may shine a light on a decision to be made, so my Dominant can decide. Without a submissive’s leadership, their Dominant is just wandering in the dark. It’s not just that submissives do lead; it’s that they must lead at times for the dynamic to be successful.

“If my Master is lost, I’ll find him. I’ll lead him back to himself, because to serve doesn’t always mean to follow.” ―Joey W. Hill

Replaceable

I think as women we need to always remember that we ARE replaceable.I am sure some of you will read this and scoff, “Ha, I am not replaceable. I’m perfect. Tight cunt. Thin. I have all types of men after me.” Sure girly, keep telling yourself that. I know I am far from perfect, but I have never had an issue with finding a man, not being cocky just not naive enough to believe I am undesirable. I’ve finally met my match though, I found someone that I strive to please each day, not just sexually, sure that is great, but even a man with the greatest sex drive will have other needs that he will need fulfilled. Still listening? 

I am reminded each day that if I left tomorrow that there is a line of women ready and willing to take my place. I could go back to man who says he only wants me, or at least attempts to be respectful enough to hide the fact that he is sticking it in someone else, but that isn’t what I want. A dull and meaningless life was never my intentions. I’ve accepted the fact that I will not be the only person He ever buries His cock into, and I’ve never cared much about that until now, when the fear of being replaced is insurmountable. My goal is to be as close to irreplaceable as possible and now I will list the examples of things that any girl who wants to please her Master should always strive to do. 

Always strive to be perfect for him. Work out to be the size that pleases him. Wear make up whenever he is around to hide any imperfections. Find a fragrance he likes and make sure to smell good for him. Do your nails. Get your hair done the way he likes. Always strive for better. 

You know that thing he likes that you just can’t? I mean really, he wants you to deep throat his huge cock? Do it! It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. Anal? Seriously, do it! Remember you are replaceable. You may not want that cock in you like that, but there are plenty others who’d beg for it. His pleasure should come first.

Fill his stomach. Something that will never go out of style to men, is a woman who can cook. What person wants to eat fast food the rest of their life? They say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, well fuck I don’t know about that, but if you keep him fed he will keep you around a little longer. 

If he has hobbies and interests, try to join him in them, or at least don’t try to distract him from them. I think it’s important to remember that he is the one that matters and keeping him happy makes you happy. 

Keep his house clean. Apparently, at some point people were told that houses were self cleaning, well they aren’t. A man wants to come home to a nice and clean home. He doesn’t want to worry about what he will be walking into if he decides to bring a friend over. No one likes the dishes piled up, and dirty laundry every where. Clean it up. Keeping his clothes clean and ready for him is also going to be appreciated. 

I am sure that I could go on indefinitely, but if I haven’t got my point across I suppose I never will. 

Happy Happy

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Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures - The BAR System

Think she’s complicated?  Think again.

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine - or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions.  These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.  

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place.  It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment.  She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from the test, delight in it.  She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.  

Set the BAR for her.

-Vintage In Stepford