Place Your Hand In Mine. I Will Keep You Safe.

Did you dress like this for me?

Making out is essential every day. Make it part of your love language so it is an expression of compassion and passion that doesn't always need to lead to sex. Do I get a "AMEN" from the congregation?

Letting him pay, sets you up in the feminine role and him in the masculine role.

Makes him feel more like a man and successful and you can feel like he wants to take care of you.

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This is just plain good relationship advice regardless of certain words/lables.

10 ways to worship your Master

1.       Always kiss His cock after he’s fucked you or let you suck him off … tell him how wonderful his cock tastes/feels/looks, and how much you love it. … and say “Thank You Master”

2.       Be kind – it’s not all about rules, or play, sometimes take the time to watch him, get a sense of His mood, is He stressy? Is he tired? Try to be in tune with what He needs, and when you can make His life - better do so.  You can do lots of nice things – simple acts of kindness and goodness, bake a cake, litter the house with scribbled post it notes hidden in cupboards, in His wallet, in His favourite girlie mag or on the bathroom mirror. If he’s ill make him soup, bring him warm drinks before he needs to ask, bring Him a cushion if he’s been sat to long hunched over a laptop.  

3.       Be proud to be His. Stand for what you believe in. Call Him Master in public/ with vanilla friends – maybe not constantly, but when it matters. If you’re asked to go somewhere – say “I’ll ask my Master”. Your friends may think you’re jesting, but by the time they realise you aren’t you’ll probably find they’re pretty accepting.  Mine were. I always deferred on important decisions and asked them to ask Him. Every time you’re honest about your relationship it reaffirms the dynamic.

4.       Pay attention to what He likes – forget anything, but remember what matters to Him, His core values, his worries, His preferences, His favourite smells, foods, colours, fabrics etc.

5.       Don’t try to be an expert on His interests though.  I’m starting to realise that actually me and my Master are different. He is logical, and has a scientific, mathematical, right-brained man’s mind. I on the other hand, am typically left brained and artistic. I do not understand what He is talking about when he talks about physics. But it doesn’t matter – I enjoy listening to Him talking passionately about something. I don’t need to understand all of it, or how it works.  People so oftenly mistake showing interest with debating or firing inquisitory questions at the other person. It’s actually really nice that we are different – it balances us perfectly. I don’t try to outsmart Him on His topics or question Him.  I wondered if this might actually be a problem of where the bimbo-ideal and living it would give rise to a conflict of desires he might have, but He doesn’t need or expect me to understand.

6.       Learn role-appropriate-skills to make His life wonderful.  Being submissive is a discipline. It’s kind of like being a geisha. It is about (particularly for doll-types) aspiring to perfection. So presentation is everything – perfect self presentation, perfect home, perfect meals. Learn everything you can about home care – cleaning tips- cooking skill- sexual skills- beauty tips- massage tips- exercise facts-and do everything with grace and skill. Practice speaking nicely, moving elegantly and learn how to hold yourself and at what angles you look best. Learn to communicate effectively and appealingly – find out if He wants you to be explicit , or more subtle, to communicate using specific words or sometimes in your tone, your eye contact and body language, and learn to listen , active listening makes for better relationships. Take time to process his questions before responding.  It is nice to be unquestioning and the ideal of submission is surrender as an absolute not a semi-version but as a relationship its really important to comprehend what is being communicated to you , so even if you fully plan to agree – pause and absorb before moving on.

7.       Be useful to Him. In public do whatever He needs. Be His personal cheerleader, or right hand woman, his rock and confidente. Laugh at jokes you don’t understand. Don’t criticize Him even as part of general hen-crowd-man-baiting. Be near enough to him that you are by His side, but let him shine – don’t cling to Him and be in the way, be devoted and patient, serene and poised.  It’s ok to be a private performer and to put on a show when He tells you. But be what He needs when He needs it and understand that what is expected or desired may change based on environment.

8.       Make His life easier. He may get final say on things but don’t ask Him about everything, it can be exhaustive. Like home furnishings. I have pretty much always had the D/s M/s dynamic in all my adult relationships . Never, have I met a Master, or man for that matter that particularly cares about curtains.  From what I understand generally the topic is boring and you only make a pest of yourself running to Him with catalogues of fabric. If you know what colours He likes narrow it to maybe 3 options you think He will like. The same applies on other things that he finds dull or laborious – i.e. food shopping, anything He may need for health or self care.

9.       Tell Him things that you appreciate about what He does for you i.e.  patience, promoting your confidence, learn to see the things that go beyond “kink” (I hate that word so much).

10.   Believe in him. Trust him… believe in His dreams even if you don’t understand them…do everything you can to help him flourish towards his own happiness… offer to promote his restaurant, offer to help Him gift shop for children/women/relatives in his life, offer to promote his craft or art through social media, offer anything that you think is of service or benefit to Him. 

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Because I do.

"I hope you always remember that I adore you."

Types of intimacy

Been reading ur blog. U need to stop calling urself a dom. All this lovey crap makes real doms sick. A sub is not for respecting and loving. A sub is for using and thats what they like. Its fine that u love ur girl, just dont call urself a dom. Real doms show dominance, use there sub and leave her laying like the cunt slut she is. Bein all sweet, and all that does is give her power over u, which makes u not a dom.

Hi there, Anon. I almost didn’t even dignify this with a response, but I think you’ve actually given me a good opportunity to say something that new doms need to know, so kudos to you. 

First and foremost, let’s establish something right here and now: You don’t get to tell me what I am, and you are damn sure not the leading authority on what does and does not constitute a dominant. For the record, I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a dom. I never even thought of myself that way until I met belovedsangi 10 years ago. I always had the characteristics of a dom, sure, but I didn’t ever put that title on myself. That title was given to me by my submissive. SHE is the one who wanted to call me Master, and Sir, and sometimes Daddy. I never told her to do these things. But of course, you probably think I am making my point for you and that if I were a REAL domly dom, I would’ve demanded those things. 

And that’s where you have a fundamental issue understanding the meaning of the title. So let me help you with that. 

A dom does not demand respect. He conducts himself in such a way as to be worthy of respect. 

A dom does not bark commands. His presence is such that he can seduce and command with nothing more than a glance. 

A dom does not raise his voice. He is the kind of man who gets what he wants without needing to. 

A dom is not a braggart. He is possessed of a calm, quiet confidence that is evident in his demeanor, the way he walks, the tone of his voice, and all other aspects of him. 

A dom understands balance. He knows that while a firm hand and discipline are critical in this type of relationship, knowing when to be gentle and understanding is every bit as important. 

A dom is a gentleman first and foremost. That doesn’t necessarily mean that he is a fancy man who values the finer things in life, but he does understand manners and protocol. He opens the car door for her. He orders for her if she is having trouble deciding. He treats strangers with courtesy and respect. 

A dom is a protector. He makes sure that his submissive feels safe and protected at all times. This means so much more than just telling her you will protect her. A dom shows her. He keeps a hand on her shoulder or on her waist in crowds so she doesn’t get nervous. He sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door so that he is always between his submissive and an intruder. He walks on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street so that an errant vehicle will hit him before his submissive. If anything or anyone should threaten his submissive, he must be prepared to fight for her with the ferocity of an alpha wolf. 

A dom earns her submission. It is not a thing to be demanded, expected, or assumed. And he continues to earn it, each and every day.  

A dom values her submission. Fully submitting your will and trusting your body and well-being to someone takes a kind of strength most can’t imagine, and a dom never loses sight of that. 

A dom understands that being a dominant is 10% privilege and 90% responsibility. He is literally taking her life into his hands. He is accepting the most sacred and important thing she has to give. He is taking her burdens and bearing them as his own, always, every day. 

A dom is consistent. He understands that he can’t just be her protector, lover, confidant, master, etc. when he feels like it. There will be days when a dom is tired. There will be days when he is stressed. There will be days when he is broken. On those days, it is more important than ever for a dom to show his submissive that he is still everything she needs him to be. 

So what does it mean, then, to be a dom? I get the feeling that you, anon, would say that it’s all about making her kneel, having your way with her, shouting orders and using her. Helpful hint: Any jackass can buy himself a whip and bark commands. That’s not a dom. Don’t get me wrong, I do absolutely have my way with belovedsangi. I love it when she kneels. I love the kinky, rough, mind-blowing sex we have. I love to dominate her in the bedroom. But for every moment of that, there are a hundred moments of holding her, of talking to her, laughing with her, gaming with her. There are a hundred moments of making her feel safe when she is afraid, giving her confidence when she is unsure, comforting her when she feels troubled. Those are all things that a dominant does too. 

I love my submissive more than I love oxygen. I love my submissive with a fire that can never be extinguished. I value her and respect her in every way. I treat her like a queen and fuck her like a slave. These things don’t make me weak. They don’t make me less of a dominant. These things make me stronger than you can possibly imagine. There is nothing quite so formidable as a dominant who has found the perfect submissive to fuel his fire. Never will you see anyone love so strongly or fight so fiercely. 

Bottom line, Anon, is this: you sound like a boy playing at being a man. You decided one day that you were sick of women having willpower and a voice of their own, so you decided to call yourself a dominant and seek out some weak-willed submissive who wouldn’t talk back to you or stick up for herself. You are not a dom. You are a jackass with a whip. Classic case of toodomforyou.

I think I'll use this line. It is a groaner but still a good one.

Perfection