Pearls Of Wisdom From My Organic Chemistry Professor:

One of the reasons I go to the theater... If you can't give her opportunities to enjoy how beautiful she is and to be feminine, she cannot be as fulfilled. Elevate and celebrate her femininity and she will have wonderful, happy memories that last a lifetime.

Letting him pay, sets you up in the feminine role and him in the masculine role.

Makes him feel more like a man and successful and you can feel like he wants to take care of you.

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I didn't realize how much I am into recognizing traditional gender roles.

A Wife’s Duty Is To Please Her Husband.

  (After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting)

Always greet him at the door with a cheerful face and a soft, loving voice.

Clean yourself, put on makeup, powder and perfume.

Good news first, grievances (administered gently) after a nice delicious dinner. Always dress to please your husband, and only your husband. No one else.

Reserve a special soft voice that is used only when communicating with your husband.

Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility.

Dress for your husband. Use the perfume your husband likes.

Don’t dress for other women’s approval.

If you have to clean, cook, or do work that requires physical exertion, wear appropriate clothes, but bathe and change into feminine delicate clothing before your husband returns.

Exchange loving and affectionate words with your husband: always make sure he knows you appreciate his hard work and hsi role as head of the household.

Put your husband’s hopes and interests before yours.

Don’t ask your husband for many unnecessary things. Consider his needs before yours.

Always try to please his guests and his family members.

Do not continue friendships with people he does not want you to be friends with.

Never allow strangers or other men to be alone with you when he is not around.

Always display hospitality to his guests, making them feel comfortable and well attended to.

Be patient in difficult times.

If your husband wants something done, or wants you to do something, do it with a smile. Only say no if you feel it will bring irreparable damage to your body, psyche, and morale.

If your husband is angry, keep silent. Don’t question him or try to find out why he is angry.

Always be the first to apologize.

Apologize for your husband’s distraught at other people’s misdeeds and mistakes

Do not leave the house without his permission. If you have to leave, call him and let him know where you will be.

Don’t be on the defensive when he is in a ill temper or treat you poorly. Always answer with obedience and a submissive desire to put him in a good mood again.

Wishing women could figure this out, the divorce rate would plummet :)

An option to consider next time he asks you to make a sandwich.

Happiness and comfort can be found in many forms. Bless you.

Last night as Michael was bout ready to pound my ass, I realized the thing I loved most about being a bimbo is the freedom of not caring about all choices. While I love how hot I look and the self confidence it comes with and the lack of having to learn, so boring though Michael loves it, the thing I love most is knowing I don't have to make a decision. He asked me if I wanted pussy or ass and I honestly didn't care but I knew that if I did care, I could speak up and say "Fuck my pussy baby"(don't use Daddy really anymore since he is one) and he'd oblige. Knowing that I have a choice and not caring was one was so relieving. It extends beyond just bedroom stuff, like when it comes to food Michael will ask what I want and I can say I don't or if I don't want something I can say anything but Greek or if I'm unsure between options I can say either mexican or Italian and he will be like ok Mexican. It's nice not to have to feel like you have to choose. When I was younger and before became bimbo, I felt I had to be decisive on everything and caused me anxiety but now I know I don't but if I do choose its cool. That is really refreshing.

Side note Last night he didn't ask if I wanted sex because we fuck nightly but if I said I'm not in the mood(and I do feel confident to tell him that) he'd respect it.

Side note two Michael generally does let me make decisions that to him don't matter first. It's not that he can't make decisions or scared of my reaction, he just really doesn't care. He is super simple but super smart but the way he sees it is for like sex or food "my dick is going into your orifice" or "I love food and I'm bout to eat" I don't care.

A man who values a woman based on her financial assets is not a man worth having.

Crazy... how does my husband possibly love me even though I don't make any money.. almost like he treats me like a human being that deserves respect regardless of how much I make...

Note to you “doms”.... Understand the value to your better half when you take responsibilities in the relationship. “No” is not just “No”. It goes further and has greater value to her. Understand your responsibility to the relationship. She will love you all the more for it.

when he says no

I love begging him to extend my bedtime. I love when he says no. 

I love asking if I can buy a sugary latte. I love when he says no.

I love asking if I can skip my workout because laziness. I love when he says no.

I love begging to watch an extra hour of TV on a weeknight. I love when he says no.

I love asking if I can buy that pretty top I saw when I went to return something, even though my credit card bill is ridiculous. I love when he says no.

I don’t ask because I want to be denied. Not really. I ask because I want something I’ve always immediately granted myself. I ask because I have desires and impulses and I need to express them. And even though there’s the teeniest bit of disappointment when he says no, there is also relief and inner peace. I feel taken care of. I feel like I’m becoming a better person with improved habits. I feel healthier, happier and less stressed. No more guilt. It’s gone.

It makes his yeses so rewarding. The latte tastes sweeter. The next episode of that TV show is funnier. The top is prettier and feels worth the money.  With his permission, I can have guilt-free indulgences. I can find joy in things I’d often shamed myself for, the things you’re supposed to enjoy. That was no way to live.

 I said it before it was my reality, and I’ll say it again:

Everything just feels better when you have permission.

How a Submissive Leads

A good submissive is often a wonderful leader. It may seem paradoxical. After all, aren’t submissives supposed to follow? The caricature of submissives is a little mouse, quiet except for “yes, Sir” and “thank you, Sir.” But submissives lead in a great many ways.

Submissives lead by example. They lead by showing up every day and honoring their commitment to the dynamic. They lead by showing their Dominant that obedience and service are for always, not just when it’s easy. It takes a lot of strength to kneel when you are tired, when you are emotionally struggling, when your confidence is shaken. It is easier to withdraw or to take back control, rather than trusting someone else with it. When submissives choose their submission over and over again, this shows faith in a vision for what the dynamic should be. It shows courage and resolve. And with this leadership, submissives inspire leadership in their Dominants with their unrelenting need to follow.

Submissives lead by providing their Dominants opportunities to lead. Sometimes submissives sense that their Dominants need a reminder that they hold the leash. When they are stressed or feeling unsure, sometimes they need to feel their partners’ submission. That connection sustains both sides of the slash. Submissives lead by recognizing when their Dominant needs to connect through power exchange and offering an opportunity to lead. They ask permission. They ask their Dominant to choose for them. They kneel with their Dominant’s favorite implement in hand. But it is up to the submissive sometimes to see the need and act on it.

Submissives lead by helping their Dominants understand their needs. This is not topping from the bottom; it is giving Dominants all the information they need to care for their property. Imagine the Dominant is blindfolded, walking a path with their submissive. The Dominant knows where they want to go. They know if they head directly west, they will reach the most perfect little town. But the submissive can see that heading directly west will send them through swamps and rocky terrain. The submissive leads by being the Dominant’s eyes—explaining the obstacles and allowing the Dominant to find a different course that will reach the destination. This is not the same as telling the Dominant where to go, just as sharing your needs is not topping from the bottom. 

Once in a D/s relationship, I was struggling with a lack of spankings. I tried telling him I needed a spanking. He’d nod, and then the next time, he’d throw me down and treat me roughly. He made sure I felt owned. But I still needed a spanking. Finally, I laid it out for him. “When I say I need a spanking, I don’t mean I need kink. I don’t mean that we’ve gone too vanilla. I don’t mean that I need you to hurt me. I mean that I need a spanking, and nothing else will do.” This felt decidedly unsubmissive to me. But through his response, I realized that this kind of guidance was the most submissive thing I could do. I showed him how to lead us. Without my leadership, he could not lead. 

Submissives lead by serving as a beacon of light. As a submissive, I light the path, and my Dominant leads us down it. I do not decide. But I may shine a light on a decision to be made, so my Dominant can decide. Without a submissive’s leadership, their Dominant is just wandering in the dark. It’s not just that submissives do lead; it’s that they must lead at times for the dynamic to be successful.

“If my Master is lost, I’ll find him. I’ll lead him back to himself, because to serve doesn’t always mean to follow.” ―Joey W. Hill

Who will walk with me and be my precious jewel?

Always