Oh Nothing, Just Making A List Of A FEW Things That Women Could STOP Doing That Would Benefit Us As A

be the main character of your life, stop comparing yourself to others!

every time you compare yourself to another person you lose your power and give it to others.

be aware of your own value

the value you give to others, give to yourself multiplied!

if there is something you don't like about yourself try to change it from compassion and self-love, don't judge yourself for it, we all have the ability to change

recognize that comparing yourself with other people is something negative and prevents you from growing and evolving

you are the main character of your life, no one else, that's why it doesn't matter if you "believe" that someone else is more handsome or smarter than you, it's not, it's you, because it's your life, think about this every time you compare yourself

recognize when these thoughts come to your mind and focus in turn on something positive, something good about your day or something you like about yourself

don't compare chapter 20 of a person with chapter 3 of your life

focus on learning and not comparing yourself

turn comparison into admiration

be aware of the damage you are doing to yourself when you do this

write down everything you like about yourself and everything you would like to have or be

practice self-love every day, treat yourself with love

focus on you and your growth not on what others do

focus on what you like about yourself and not on what you don't-

recognize that you are the main character of your life, the life you are living right now is only lived by you so it doesn't matter how other people are or how they live their life, it doesn't hurt you, focus on you and your growth, you are unique and valuable you don't have to be like anyone else

some ways to practice self-love ( i will write another post on this)

forgive yourself

take care of your physical and mental health

avoid toxic people

connect to your feminine energy and make rest a priority when you need it

use positive affirmations every day

talk to yourself and treat yourself with love

do things that make you proud of you

post that i recommend you if you found this one useful 🤍

Me : writes a phrase.

Also me : Well, I’ve done a lot of work, now let’s reward myself with Internet time…

something that annoys me is when media reviewers or theorists review stranger things and talk around Byler like it’s the plague. it’s either mentioned super briefly (as if it’s not an important plot point when it literally is) or they pretend those scenes are something else (will being insecure, lonely, traumatised ect). it’s honestly worrying how people dedicated to analysing shows are so quick to diminish and ignore queer plot points, especially when those plot points are vital to the characters and story. it’s dishonest journalism in service of heteronormative mind frames. they’re either too ignorant to acknowledge queer characters or they’re too scared to potentially upset homophobic film bros and make themselves look ‘invalid’ for ‘making everything gay’. queer stories and queer theories are just as valid as the rest. im tired of being called delusional for wanting equal representation and respect.

She’s spot on

𝑢𝑛𝑟𝑎𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑠𝑢𝑓𝑓𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔 ♡

✦ life isn't meant to be hard

✦ i wasn't put on this earth to suffer

✦ i don't need to push myself to the point of despair for the sake of productivity

✦ i am the kind of person who good things happen to

✦ i'm not cursed, good things can and will happen to me

✦ i am extremely lucky

✦ i am constantly receiving good news and being blessed with miracles

✦ i deserve to rest

✦ i deserve to take up space

✦ it's okay to struggle and ask for help, other people also struggle, and they care about me and are happy to help

✦ i don't need to apologize so much. i didn't do anything wrong and i have nothing to feel guilty for

✦ it is possible for me to be healthy and live a happy life

✦ "i can't accept this, i don't deserve it" if you don't take it, someone else will, whether they deserve it or not. if someone's offering you an opportunity, or a present, it's because they thought you deserved it, and want you to have it, so stop being silly and just take it

✦ i'm not stuck with any identities. i can always change and become and better me. maybe i'm not athletic, but i can be. maybe i'm not organized, but i can be. i'm not stuck and i can change.

this post is a reminder to myself and others that we're allowed to take up space in this world and that we deserve to be happy just because.

we don't need to earn the good things in life by suffering and working to the point of exhaustion.

we don't need to thank people a million times for something they chose to do for us, we don't need to constantly apologize for being sad or needing help.

aren't we all human? aren't we all struggling, trying to figure life out? why is it that when it's me who needs a little help, suddenly it's burdening?

i think i have a hard time manifesting certain things, because i still see myself in a negative light, in many ways, and because, for a very long time, i believed i had to be humble, work hard, that suffering was something honorable.

i think this is something that comes with existing as a woman in this world, being so apologetic about everything, and it's something i really want to let go off.

me existing in this world as someone who does no harm to others is reason enough for me to deserve to take up space and live a happy life.

Creating Fantasy Races: An Introduction

Hey everyone, Abby here with another post! Today we’re talking a bit about world-building, and specifically your world’s intelligent species. Let’s hop right in!

Let’s start with some definitions.

I’ve made a post in the past about creating new species in your world, and here’s what I want to start with. Within the context of this post, I’m defining race as any variation of an intelligent species for ease of language. That in mind, you will want to have your species developed.

Some Basic Questions to Start

There are some aspects that you just have to answer questions for in order to develop. Here are some basics for you to start with:

What is the origin species?

What defines a different race? Skin color, abilities, some physical marker? Something non-physical?

What is most known about this race as a fact?

What is most known about this race as a stereotype?

Are there any common variations within this race?

For Dungeons and Dragons players, think about the Dragonborn race. Different scale colors don’t mean a different race, but they do mark different abilities.

There may be common variations in appearance, like different eye colors or heights, that don’t have any other meaning. Just regular physical variation!

Are there any skills or other characteristics specific to this race?

What distinguishes this race from other races that may exist in your world?

How much interaction is there between different races?

Are there any areas of the world that each race tends to gravitate to?

Are there different expected life spans for each race? If they are different, why?

For example! In the RPG I’m working on, Journey to Valeria, there are two races in the Steerean species: shallow and Reclusive. They share a similar origin species, but different characteristics have created other aspects enough for them to be considered different races. As a result, I’ve developed them as two separate races with their own characteristics.

Go ahead and compare this to some aspects of DnD as well! The game does an awesome job of distinguishing between races and making each one unique, and I find that looking at things in context helps me a lot.

Write out what you think is important.

You, as the creator of this world, are also its master. What things outside of just answering questions do you think is important to know right off the bat? For one of my races, I wrote about camouflage in the environment and some elements of magic because I think those are things important to the development.

These could be topics like:

History

Associated cultures or religions

Temperaments, if applicable

Strengths and weaknesses specific to this race

And anything else that you think is important. As I’m developing the races on Steere, I’m thinking a lot about how different races interact with the world, how they use technology, their general lifestyles, etc.

Usually when you create a fantasy race, your goal is to make this race as well-rounded as possible. Creating an intelligent species, much less several different variations of one, can be very difficult! This is something that will take time and a lot of thought, but it’s vital to the process.

I talked about Journey to Valeria a bit more than I anticipated I would, but what can I say? I’ve been on a kick lately, and I like talking about the things that matter to me. If you’d like, you can follow the project’s blog @journeytovaleria​ to see more updates and development!

If my work helps you or your writing, please consider supporting me by joining my Patreon!

Join my writing community on Discord!

I want to walk through fields of wild growing lightly colored bio-luminescent lavender under starlit skies.

*wistful sigh*

White allies do better....

Stop with the "oh well I'm white and i agree" or the "I'm white and I'm sorry for us" on posts about racism

Stop with the lengthy apologizes when you do something small like write the above on posts and someone calls you out on it

Stop asking me for my opinon on what this famous black person did

Stop asking me for my opinion on if a thing is racist or not

Stop asking me to explain basic racist shit to you

Stop telling black people about the time you called your racist uncle out on his racism or the protests you went to

Stop asking for my opinion on things you did that you're scared is racist/has racist undertones

Stop with the white guilt... It ain't helpin nobody

Stop asking one black person for their opinion on something about race... You gotta ask more black people if you want an accurate representation of something because not all of us are the same/think the same thing

Stop treating black people like we're "professors" on racism

Google is free. Can y'all please start treating black people like actual people and not someone to teach you about racism. It's exhausting

lucky girl syndrome

☆ i am the luckiest girl in the world ☆ everything literally works in my favor ☆ everything works out the way i want it to ☆ luck is always following my around ☆ i'm always at the right place at the right time ☆ things always work out too perfectly for me ☆ life is always rigged in my favor ☆ only good things happen to me ☆ i only experience the best outcomes ☆ i get the perfect things at the perfect time ☆ everything i want is always following me ☆ i only deserve the best, and recieve the best ☆ everything goes better than planned ☆ the world is shaped to work for me ☆ luck is always on my side ☆ the world is my servant, serving me ☆ all the good things come to me at the right time ☆ good things keep flowing in my direction ☆ i can always count on my luck ☆ i always find the best things ☆ it always turns out better than i expected ☆ i am destined to have the best things ☆ i am destined to experience the best things ☆ i am destined to have everything i desire ☆ everything i want is mine right now ☆ every situation works out in my favor ☆ every day goes by in my favor ☆ i am so lucky, it's unexplainable ☆ why am i this lucky? ☆ why is everything in my favor? ☆ why are things so perfect for me? ☆ why is life so perfect for me? ☆ why is everything always in my favor? ☆ miracles keep coming towards me ☆ my life is full of miracles ☆ i always experience miracles ☆ luck is flowing my direction ☆ everything always unfolds in my favor ☆ life is always working for me ☆ i know it will end in the best outcome possible ☆ everything starts and ends the way i want it to ☆ every sign shows that i'm in the right direction ☆ the best things are coming to me ☆ the best things are chasing me ☆ the best things keep running towards me ☆ i'm meant to have the best things ☆ i'm meant to have good luck ☆ only good things are meant to be ☆ it's all turning out perfectly ☆ i love having lucky girl syndrome

Any harmful stereotypes I should know to avoid when writing a character of Indian decent?

anonymous 2 said: How would I go about describing an Indian male in a fantasy world is there any stereotypes I should avoid or anyways to not describe him?

Indian Character Stereotypes

Lots of ‘em.

The “smart” one. The Bollywood Nerd. 

The “smelling like curry” one.

The “really spiritual” one. The Sim Sim Salabim. 

The “only knows how to program and can’t talk to people” one.

The “heavy accent” one - which, of course, does not mean that your character cannot have an accent or that having a heavy accent is a bad thing. It just means that you need to be cognizant that it is a harmful trope that people use to otherize people of color, and that it can fall into tokenism.

The “7-11 cashier.”

The “really strict parents” one - we can definitely do with less of these. Going with that, having Indian characters that are ONLY engineers, or ONLY doctors is pretty harmful as well.

The “phone operator.” The Operator from India.

-Mod Satvika

I’d like to add that yes, there may be Indians and other PoC in the world who may fit some stereotypical roles, but people are not their stereotypes and shouldn’t be treated as caricatures due to their occupations or for any other reason, nor are these the only types of said people available.

So yes, create new images of PoC beyond stereotypes, but note that even as these people who fit stereotypes exist, they are more than just their labels and it says nothing about their worth when something does apply to them, as they are too complex human beings.

-Mod Colette