Scintillatingramblings - ENTP 7w8

You know you're an ENTP when #108

your vocabulary doesn’t include the word “impossible.”

You know you're an ENTP when #113

you love giving unwanted critique.

I think if I had gotten an amazon echo for Christmas I would have interpreted it as a threat

Why u gotta be so hateful

i am full of love you dumb son of a bitch

Fine Distinctions / Enneagram Type Seven

Excerpted from ”The Dynamic Enneagram” by Tom Condon Copyright 2009, 2013 by Thomas Condon Self Preservation Sevens • Self-Preservation Sevens are confusing since they tend to be highly sociable and gravitate toward groups like Social Subtypes do. Specialize in “chosen family” in that they tend to create a network of people around them. • They enjoy sharing on a circuit of interesting or like-minded people. Other people are a source of information and stimulation; interested in the latest gossip and everyone’s news. • To the Seven, the group is a comforting barricade against the dangers of the outside world, a bulwark against an infringing universe. • Can be loyal, if slightly detached, friends; protective towards those within their inner circle and good about staying in touch. • Canny and practical, they look for the deals and the loopholes; can enjoy bargains,sales or getting something for nothing. • Equally well-versed in and fascinated by a large variety of subjects. May lack depth but have a breadth of knowledge. • Tend to depersonalize, talk in abstract or intellectual terms and don’t explicitly toot their own horn. • This subtype is associated with the cliche of the “party animal,” compulsive socializers who want to enjoy perpetual good times. • In NLP terms, Self-Preservation Sevens are “activity-oriented.” Sharing activity with others is a way to make contact or to avoid personal intimacy.  • Can use people for stimulation and drop them when they stop being exciting. • Some fear being alone and will use others as a protection against solitude. • More likely to have an unconscious self-image of being abandoned, uncared for or left to their own devices. Abandon others out of fear of being abandoned. • Can live beyond their means and be chronically in debt; self-induced cycles of bounty and scarcity. • Could equate being disciplined and financially successful with being dull and stodgy. The Seven rebels by staying “free” (i.e. irresponsible and broke). Intimate Sevens • Intimate Sevens tend to have rich imaginations and are exceptionally creative. • They embellish reality with fantasy; see daily life through a veil of imagination. • Often think and communicate in stories. • Can see intimate relationships as shared experimental adventures. • Avid learners who are open to adventure and new experience. • Dreamers in the best and worst sense of the word. • Intimate Sevens tend to be suggestible and can be swayed in their positions and opinions. • Trend spotters who seek the new with the enthusiasm of a faddist; they filter reality through fantasy and the fantasy is what they purchase. • Sevens with this subtype are often more explicitly narcissistic. They tend to personalize their experiences, talk more about themselves and use the word “I” more than other subtypes. • Can be tentative about commitments and have a wandering eye. • May romanticize people outside their primary relationship as a way to avoid the limits and boredom of mundane life with the same old someone. • Can be more involved with their fantasy of their partner than with the real person. • Intimate Sevens can easily move from relationship to relationship searching for the right person or an “all time high.” • Sexual freebooters; Don Juan and Don Juaness patterns are possible. • Some report having high expectations of their fantasized partner and being easily disillusioned. • aware of putting too much pressure on the relationship. • Some intimate Sevens do stay in long term relationships. They may be interested in the mysteries and vagaries of love as well as genuinely love their partner. Social Sevens • Healthy Social Sevens are notably steady, practical and accountable to others. • This subtype brings Sevens more conscience and follow-through. • When extraverted, they can enjoy social celebrations, fine wine and good food,storytelling, jokes, and travel, all with an obvious gusto. • They can be unusually grounded and faithful in their responsibilities. They are relatively at ease with their commitments and are often stable and generous. • They are sometimes motivated by idealism, serving something beyond themselves.This subtype can have a stronger connection to One. • Protective of group members; want every member to have a good time. If someone causes trouble for the group, a Social Seven may react with a flash of temper against the interloper or troublemaker. • Can be generous, protective friends. • Feel torn between their duty to others and a desire to escape. • Tend to feel codependently responsible for people close to them but experience that as a confining burden. • Can be highly irresponsible, over promise and under deliver. • A number of Social Sevens are firstborns or come from a large family where they were given a lot of responsibility and little guidance. • Others recall having to compensate for codependent or unstable parents. • Social Sevens sometimes resemble Sixes, because of their dutiful quality and their propensity for feeling guilty. • Social Sevens with an Eight wing tend to rebel against their sense of burden and can sometimes act terse and angry toward those they feel burdened by. Seven with a Six Wing • Healthy Sevens with a Six wing are responsible, faithful, endearing, and funny. • More accountable to others, oriented to relationships; loyal friends. • Steady in their commitments as the Six wing brings a longer sense of time and more continuity to their perceptions. • They often have more conscience, are hardworking and idealistic. • Often funny or enjoy a good laugh. An amazing number of comedians are Sevens with this wing. The humor can have a playful, subversive quality. • Can be openly vulnerable and have an unguarded, tender sweetness. • Able to empathize with a wide range of people and experiences. • Often late bloomers. Some stall at the gate of adulthood, avoiding expressions of their power or competence because they unconsciously doubt themselves. • Some have trouble expressing anger even when they have been wronged. • Might exhibit some of the doubting, ambivalent qualities of a Six. Can have surprise episodes of anxious insecurity. • Aware of authority figures but tend to evade or finesse them. Can be unduly respectful towards traditions and authority structures. • They can feel (neurotically) guilty more easily than Sevens with an Eight wing • Can have distinct paranoid streaks that they are blind to; their self-image is of someone who is positive, forward-looking and adventuresome. • Project their conscience onto others and then act irresponsibly; can display a frantic-all-over-the-place mentality. • Prone to codependence even to the point of enduring physical or mental abuse. Seven with an Eight Wing • Healthy Sevens with an Eight wing are often gregarious and expansive. • Self-confident in worldly matters and have few qualms about getting what they want. • Often talented at creating something out of nothing – perhaps by inventing a successful persona for themselves or by creating a thriving career by accident after spontaneously seizing upon an opportunity. • Exceptionally materialistic. “Living well is the best revenge” is one possible motto for this wing. In a hasty, rapacious hurry to get what they want. • Loyal to their friends and can leap aggressively to their defense. • Generous, often sharing what they have; want everyone in their orbit to enjoy their sense of bounty and range of interests. • Sevens with an Eight wing are generally more kinesthetic and auditory and less consciously visual than Sevens with a Six wing. • Can be demanding, impatient and self-centered. • Thin-skinned; may require that the people in their lives candy-coat the truth, telling theSeven only what he wants to hear. • Can be hypocritical – moralizing to others about behavior that they practice • Some have hair-trigger tempers and can suddenly erupt. Their anger may pass just as quickly and the Seven then returns to a baseline of good cheer. • Some tend to age-regress, sometimes to a very young age. Can have the quality of a small child stuck in the “terrible twos,” behaving like a demanding toddler who wants instant gratification. • They unconsciously anticipate being frustrated and deprived and preemptively strike against the possibility. • Can grow delusional and grandiose; may love to hear themselves talk about big schemes that never come to pass. Seven’s Connection to Five • The connection to Five brings Sevens sobriety, perspective and the power to integrate and internalize their experience – to digest what they have eaten. • Helps Sevens become calm and detached, to see the Big Picture. • More willing to accept the painful aspects of their experience; more likely to seek and find their own depths. • An introverted need to spend time alone; may do this ritually or periodically. • Sevens can also be bookish; may have distinct intellectual interests or embark on a search for philosophical wisdom. • Some Fiveish Sevens have an almost aesthetic distaste for excess. They could, for instance, be offended by how much something costs. • While Sevens tend to be naturally expansive and generous, they can have an incongruous cheap streak. Could be frugal and then go on spending sprees. • The connection to Five supports escapism, stinginess and depressive tendencies. • Unhealthy Sevens will check themselves out of difficult situations, withdrawing into their minds like a Five. Intellectualize their feelings out of existence. • May detach from people and commitments with alarming speed. • Defensive vanishing acts; can skate away when things get tough. • Prone to withdrawn depressions, especially as part of a cycle of highs and lows. • May have trouble handling and expressing their emotions or be emotionally drybeneath their high spirits. • More likely to have mental addictions – to information, ideas, fantasies. Defensively retreat into abstraction. Seven’s Connection to One • Helps Sevens make appropriate, worthwhile, comfortable commitments. • Brings discipline and follow-through; Sevens do things well and work hard. • Oneish Sevens are often idealistic and can sacrifice for a cause or principle. • Solution focused; search for “win/win” outcomes to problems. • Oneish discipline helps Sevens give their lives a stable form. • Helps with appetite, brings restraint and self-control. • Oneish Sevens are good at sober, balanced critical evaluation; while they’re generous and sort for the positive they have a discerning, critical eye. • Can begin to confuse discipline with repression, build a jail that they need to escape from, meanwhile blaming their confinement on outside sources. • Some can be critical and dogmatic with a perfectionistic streak. • Might start to think in black and white; may become obsessive about detail. • The connection to One can also bring self-criticism and an overactive conscience. • Sevens who project their Oneness can see Ones as oppressive symbols or foils.“They don’t want me to have fun.” May provoke judgmental reactions in others. • Can latch on to a Big Idea, a future possibility or principle that the Seven is certain will resolve their present discomfort. The deluded, obsessed mentality of a compulsive gambler; excuse themselves from present responsibilities. • Can be libertine in their youth and then adopt a pious, conservative lifestyle as they age. Try to rein in their appetites with rules and morality. • Might be drawn to religious or ideological fundamentalism. Could be preachy and self-righteous. • “Do as I say not as I do.” Hypocritical. Click Here for Master Post

Me, sipping a lemonade and watching my life go to shit: hoo boy I'm gonna have to deal with that some day

What are some main differences bw 7w8 and 8w7?

7w8

- far less touchy than an 8- more interested in starting shit/drama because it’s fun- has a much lighter vibe- dislikes when things get too “heavy” if they’re directly involved- takes loyalty and dynamics less seriously (i.e. likely won’t talk about brutalizing someone over betrayal)- more likely to interact w insufferable people for da lulz

8w7

- more touchy- more interested in starting shit because they’re angry and want something to do about it- rather standoffish vibe- more likely to go through/indulge in periods of melancholy - takes loyalty and dynamics very seriously- quicker to cut intolerable people off

shoutout to me for ruining my own life