Afab Nonbinary - Blog Posts

cause its pride month and im nonbinary have some trans dsmp headcanons:

ranboo is afab and masc presenting enby w he/they pronouns (i maybe self projecting here but shh), tommy is a trans man with he/him, tubbo too but he uses he/they, niki is a demigirl and uses she/they, captain puffy is genderfluid and uses any pronouns and dreamxd is gender fluid and uses any pronouns as well!

me: *not feeling dysphoric at all*

the feeling of my tiddies moving whenever im dancing:

I've been having that same issue!!! It's all just smut!!!

just found yet another downside to the oversexualization of breasts: no references for sizing and measurements. i've been wanting to get a reduction for years and am finally starting to work towards getting it covered by insurance and so i am trying to decide on cup size. anyone have any recommendations on where to look for visual references on the differences between cups both clothed and not? i'm specifically trying to decide between going down to a b or c cup.

I’m not trans, but i had a breast reduction at 22 and because of that I have the same anchor scars that many trans men get after top surgery.

I like to think of them as my “scar brothers,” or “brothers in scars” if you will. Scar Siblings for my nonbinary peeps.

I think it’s neat.

CW: Medical stuff under the cut

If I was going to say anything else it would be a note on said scars -

If you find your top surgery scars healed super thick and you find that upsetting, you can get them redone several years after your initial surgery and they will heal better the second time. (My insurance covered it as a “follow up operation” ymmv) (also no shame if you like your scars thick, that’s totally cool too).

The reason for this (to my limited knowledge) is because your first surgery is a much deeper heal. The cut went deep, and a bunch of stuff was removed, so the body had to heal all the way from the tissues to the skin all at once. Deeper cuts often end up in bigger scars.

However!! If you come back a few years later after the initial surgery has fully healed and settled (I think mine was 3-5 years? Not sure) and get the scars redone (they cut the scar out and sew up the unscarred skin on both sides) the scar generally ends up much smaller and less noticeable.

My first scars were big, ropey, and purple in some areas. They were very obvious and the keloids would hurt when I hit them by accident.

My second set of scars are much MUCH better. In some areas it’s hard to even notice them. They’re flat and the coloring is barely notable. I have one or two spots that are thicker but on the whole, the scarring is much less noticeable and less painful.

So just something to keep in mind if the look or feel of your scars bothers you.

Best of luck all my scar siblings!! (and wear your scar tape post surgery, it helps keep those scars flat and provides support to the skin so it doesn’t get shuffled about or pulled apart by movement and gravity and helps control keloiding)

Good to know, useful information for other people seeking a breast reduction for any reason!

Something I have learned as a cis person with big boobs looking to get a reduction that I’m passing on to other boob people looking for less or no boobs:

If you are looking for a breast reduction, for whatever actual reason, to get partial or full coverage by your insurance, start telling your doctor that you have back and neck pain. Your boobs are pulling you down and forward. It’s a struggle to sleep, especially on your back. Complain, complain, complain. They’ll probably prescribe other options, but keep complaining (and don’t actually take the meds if the pain is emotional and not physical).

Your insurance will be more easily convinced to cover breast reduction if there is a paper trail of physical pain. I’m getting mine in May of next year.

after spending years trying to fit into what society expected a trans person to be like and now finally coming to terms with being nonbinary and dressing feminine again, reading this post feels like a breath of fresh air

"The nonbinary afab who goes by she/her, dresses femininely, and uses a push-up bra when I—" when you what? What's wrong with her?

Is she not nonbinary enough for you? Is the way she experiences her queerness and how she presents not perfect enough for you? Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny, right? So why is she the exception? Why does she have to hate herself to appeal to your standards? Why is she any less trans—any less worthy of respect—cause it's "not visible"? Queer solidarity my ass. Don't spout this bullshit on Pride, man.