Aplatonic - Blog Posts

Ayo that looks so dang cool!

Imagine

I relate to this so much, especially the part about caring(?) about your friends, but not necessarily wanting(?) friendship (I’m not sure if I’m wording this right)

Being aplspec makes discussions about friendships in aro spaces so awkward like. Yeah I agree friendship should be given more respect and amatonormativity should be dismantled. Yes I care very deeply for my friend(s). No I can't relate to your experiences with friendship or wanting friends. You've lost me. Why are you talking about friendship as if everyone has and/or wants it. Hey. Whatever happened to allowing people to decide what relationships they want and what those relationships entail for themselves.

It's exhausting because aro spaces are often one of the only spaces that will respect my devotion and care (sometimes I even call it love, depending on how I'm feeling that day) for my friend, but friendship is also just treated like romance is everywhere else and no one even seems to notice. You're not gonna defeat amatonormativity with the power of platonormativity. Have you considered readjusting your understanding of relationship anarchy and questioning your own biases and assumptions about platonic relationships? I'm drowning in "use friendship as a substitute for romance" posts over here

(and it's like. I don't want to criticize people's love for their friends or anything like that. I'm just so tired of all the assumptions of having and wanting friends. They're everywhere in here and make me feel so estranged from my own community)

(this turned into a bit of a vent but it's okay to rb and add on)

Hi, I’m the one who asked this ask(?) and I have actually thought of identifying as either demiplatonic or greyplatonic in the past and after some looking into it I’ve decided that greyplatonic is the best fit for me between the two

So, I already know that I'm aromantic and that I don't experience romantic attraction like at all, but I'm not so sure about my platonic attraction. I know I love my friends, but I don't feel the need to befriend people when I first meet them. Rarely tho if someone approaches me first in the hopes of becoming friends and we talk and get along then I might think "hey this person is really cool I want to get to know them more". It usually take a while (tho not to long maybe a month or so) before I even consider someone a friend.

Would this be considered part (?) of the apl-spec?

that sounds a lot like demiplatonic definitely, but use whatever labels fit nicest for you

Alright, from the top guys!

Acespec = Asexual spectrum, from asexual, to demi, to ageosexual etc.

Arospec = Aromantic spectrum, from aromantic to demi to ageo and on.

Aspec: Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender spectrums.