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Being Bigender- what it’s like.
I know there are already a few posts about being bigender and what it means, but I kind of wanted to make my own so I could share some of my own knowledge and experiences on being bigen.
Bigender: The Definition
Bigender is a gender identity described as being two genders- either simultaneously [both genders at the same time], fluidly [switching between the two] or partially [sort of like being a percentage/amount of each]. It falls under the nonbinary umbrella and is one of the many multigender identities out there, one of the more well known ones in fact [genderfluid probably being the most well known].
Q- Do the two genders have to be “Girl and Boy”?
Absolutely not. This is probably the most asked bigender-related question that I know of, and I’d like for it to be known that the two genders you experience do not have to be binary. A bigender preson could be a combination of a binary gender and nonbinary gender [example: girl and agender] or two nonbinary genders [example: androgyne and neutrois]. Bigender is not defined as only being man and woman.
Difference between Bigender and Genderfluid
Bigender and genderfluid may share some similar aspects, but the main difference is that bigender is just defined as being any two genders, and it’s not a requirement to be fluid between them. Genderfluid is shifting between multiple genders, which doesnt have to be limited to two or only binary genders. These can overlap and can used simultaneously as a label if you wish, but essentially these are very different identities.
Q- If you’re bigender, are you trans? Or half-trans or something?
Y’know, that’s just up to the bigender/nonbinary individual to decide. I don’t consider myself trans, and for a while I didn’t even consider myself nonbinary. I’m not cis, and I relate a lot to transgender experiences- so sure, I could technically consider myself trans. But it’s not something that appeals to me as a label, so I don’t really use it. You can just be you, and you don’t have to be a part of the trans community or even in the nonbinary community if you don’t want to.
You can also have surgery/ name change/ go on hormones if you’re bigender btw, it’s alllll up to you.
Presentation
And another thing- no, you do not have to present/dress like both of your genders to be bigender. Or switch between clothing or whatever. You can present however you like- clothing doesn’t dictate your identity in any way. It’s just fabric. Wear it however you want!
For example, I prefer to only present as masculine.
Q- Do you have to be 50% / half of both genders to be bigender?
Nope. If the genders are not felt simultaneously or fluidly and are instead felt partially each, then the metaphorical “percentage” can be anything. A bigender person may feel 60% one gender and 40% the other, or someone else may be more 70% and 30%, and then sometime they can even be 10% or 90% or even 1% and 99% and etc, etc, etc.
If the amount of gender experienced can be at any percent, what’s to stop me from calling myself demigender instead of bigender?
[Demigender- feeling partially, but not fully a gender. Common names are demigirl, demiboy, etc.]
The truth is, similar to how [bi]sexual/romantic, [poly]sexual/romatic and [pan]sexual/romantic all overlap, and it’s really up to the person to choose which label they prefer, it’s up to the bigender/demigender individual to choose what they’d want to call themselves, because these terms CAN* overlap as well.
*ALSO. IMPORTANT. Demigenders don’t necessarily only experience two genders. A few people have corrected me on this mistake- demigenders can also experience more than two or even only experience the one gender they feel the most, without needing another gender to fill up the metaphorical space. It’s just defined as experiencing mostly but not entirely a gender.
Q- Do you have to have separate sets of pronouns for each gender, or even two chosen names?
Nah. This isn’t a requirement. You can be bigender and have as many or as little names or sets of pronouns as you want, and they don’t have to “match” your genders either. A boy/girl bigender could use only one name and use they/them, or an agender/boy bigender could be using two names and she/her + he/him, or neopronouns, or etc. The combinations are endless, so it’s up to the individual to figure out what they want.
And again, the names do not have to necessarily correspond with your genders by society’s standards- by which i mean you don’t have to have a “boy” name or a “girl” name or a neutral name unless that’s what you want.
They/Them
They/them (at least in the English language) are definitely considered THE neutral pronouns and like the go-to to use for anyone. And they usually are, there’s nothing wrong with that- it’s good to use on strangers, people you don’t know the pronouns of, or people who just prefer those pronouns- all very good situations to use them in! However, I’d also like to point out- as I don’t see it pointed out much- that it is not applicable to those who you know the pronouns of and they don’t include it in their list of pronouns/ express that they don’t like it used on them. It’s not a good way to get around using pronouns you’re uncomfortable with/ don’t want to make an effort to use either. It’s not a good alternative to someone’s neopronouns, or multiple/fluxuating pronouns, or just to use on anyone who doesn’t want them used. Just don’t.
This applies to every gender identity, not just bigenders.
Q- If I’m bigender, how does that affect my other orientations? Should I consider myself bi, gay, etc?
Unfortunately, currently popular lgbt+ terms [especially in relation to sexuality or romantic orientation] are not really suited for nonbinary people. There isn’t much of a way to describe our attraction unless you’re pansexual/romantic or aroace, so there isn’t really a good answer to this, other than you’ll have to figure out what sounds best to you. Like, what would it mean for a boy/girl bigender person to consider themselves gay [not just as an umbrella term]? Would they be only interested in other bigender people, or would that mean they like both girls and boys? See, there isn’t really a perfect solution. Personally I call myself asexual and pan grey-aromantic, which means that I feel no sexual attraction and rarely feel any romantic attraction, but if I do it can be to anyone regardless of gender. I feel like this covers me pretty well, so it’s up to you to make do with whatever terminology you have available [or if you want, just make your own]!
What it’s like being bigender
Well for starters, no two bigender people are the same, nor have the same experiences. I am probably the most stereotypical form of bigender- I’m boy/girl, I use he/him and she/her pronouns, and I even have two names, in fact one is a “boy” name and the other is a “girl” name. As much as I’d like to share alternative bigender stories, I can only tell you mine, so keep in mind that this isn’t the universal truth for all of us.
For me, I’m simultaneously both of my genders- I’m not 70% one and 30% the other, nor am I fluid between the two. At all times, I feel 100% girl and 100% boy. “Isn’t that the same as androgyne?” somebody may want to ask [maybe]. Well, no. In the form of a visual, pretend there are two tinted lenses [say, yellow and blue] and stacking them on top of each other makes green, while still being separate physically. Androgyne would be more like just having a green tinted lense, without needing to stack anything.
Anyway, how is it like? My insight to being bigender in the real world is well, kind of uneventful, as I’m extremely closeted and don’t intend to come out any time soon. Most of my experiences happen internally. I sometimes get annoyed that people use only one set of pronouns for me, because although I don’t mind he or she, I would still prefer for them both to be used at about the same amount. [I try to even it out by playing games where I get to choose to have my other pronouns used]. I feel comfortable using any binary-gendered terms for myself [ex: queen, king, brother, etc] and it’s funny to me when people “correct” themselves after saying something that isn’t usually associated with my agab [because I don’t pass]. I can relate to a lot to both female and male experiences. I get uncomfortable when people tell me I’m just one gender [ex: calling me just a boy/girl, repeatedly]. I do have dysphoria, both social and physical. I plan on getting surgery someday. I actually only discovered I was bigender last summer, so less than a year ago. That’s my story.
Canon bigender representation in the media [That I know of]
There is none, lol. Zilch none. Multigender people often get thrown under the bus when it comes to any rep, and the most we get is the occasional genderfluid character [Magnus Chase, Adventure time, some animes]. Although, I guess you could consider BMO from adventure time bigender, as BMO has fluctuaites between she/her and he/him pronouns in the show [but I think the writers confirmed BMO as genderfluid, not bigender]. And Marco Diaz from Star vs the forces of evil HAS been sort of coded as bigender, but in the newest season the writers seem to have completely butchered that and it’s kinda a train wreck right now so. Idk. Anyways, even if this was official confirmed-by-the-creators canon, then they still stick to the stereotypical binary bigenders and although that’s very relatable to me, I’d like to see more diverse bigen characters. So that’s my insight on that.
If anyone knows of any actually canon bigender rep then hit me up lmao, I’d really love to know about it. I might make a list.
Q- How can I write a bigender character?
Read everything above, so you at least have some standard knowledge about it. If you have additional questions, my ask is always open and you are also free to message me privately. I’ll be glad to help anyone out who has trouble with this, or anything bigender related really.
Only SOME of the other multigenders that are similar/relate to Bigender [for those who may want to know more]
Trigender- Like bigender, but experiencing three genders instead of two
Polygender- experiencing multiple genders but not all.
Pangender- same thing but as all genders [this however, does not include genders that aren’t within your experiences, because there are some genders that belong to indigenous groups and cultures and more that can only be used by those who belong in those groups. Pangender has gained some controversy because of this, so remember that it never includes anything one can’t claim.]
Demigender- feeling partially but not totally a gender.
Genderfluid- being fluid between genders [can be any genders, any amount of them and for any amount of time]
If you feel like I need to change anything about this post, then I’m open to suggestions/criticism as I’m never satisfied with what I write and am willing to make changes as needed!
Ayo that looks so dang cool!
Imagine
Reblog to give a trans girl a really cool sword
GAY
If pride rqs are a thing- can I throw Bi-gender Hunter your way?
YAAAYYY hunter!!!! :DD
Ok but I’m still not over THE TITAN BEING BI-GENDER HDHDJFJFJ. Like I knew The Owl House was amazing, but I didn’t know it was this amazing. It’s just, I’ve never seen a character in a show before be multigendered, and as a gender-fluid person it’s nice to see a character that’s not just one gender. I don’t know, it just means a lot to me. Anyways, I love King and his silly bi-gender dad <3
Is she bigender?
Reason: It wouldn't have saved her but I think it would've made him happier
i love you transgenders i love you queers i love you creatures i love you xenogenders and those with neopronouns i love you gender nonconforming folk i love you!!!!!!!!!
update to my last post- i think im all 3- and maybe some others???? call me a boy, girl, both, an enby or somethin else, give me masculine or/and fem compliments, whatever
im always neutral/aporagender, but my boygirl energy fluctuates, so one side might overpower the other one day, or maybe the boygirl energy might feel low one day and i just (mostly) feel neutral/aporagender the next
tl;dr:
are you a boy or a girl?
im the whole package but bought from wish.com
where are all of the other bigenders I’m so lonely :’(
Quick what’s the current bigender flag
so uh, since it's non-binary day (I think idk I just saw it go around on Twitter) i made some mp100 mob plushie icons (since i can't find those anywhere I'll just make them myself) for all my non-binary peeps out there. I love all of you and all of you are super valid!! (have a transparent one just in case i missed some flags)
(reblog/like if you use any of these!)
half has been finished
(now for the rest)
added:
bigender, trans, alloace, lithromantic, aroallo, and genderfluid
Already there:
aroace, aromantic, asexual, cupioromantic, nonbinary, bisexual
I am a girl. I am a girl because everyone my whole life has told me so. I am a girl because I wear skirts and dresses, because I like talking about boys with other girls. I am a girl because I wear bras, and need tampons, and need to shave my legs every week. I am a silly younger sister, and a caring older sister. I am a girl because my body chose to be a girl, and I love being one.
But I want to be a boy. I want to be muscular and strong, and to have a flat chest. I want to shop in the men's section for button downs, and shorts with large pockets. I want someone to look at me and think "He's so handsome." I want to own Nerf guns, and climb trees while scraping my knees. I want to be a mischievous little brother, or protective older one. I want to be a boy. But I am not. Because I am a girl.
Sometimes I want to be a mix of the two. I want to be a boy who wears skirts and high heels, and doesn't feel like any less of a man. I want to be a girl who intimidates and works long days to provide for her family, and who is still seen as a woman. I want to go a long time without washing my hair or shaving, and still be called Miss in the grocery store. I want to wear makeup and curl my hair, and still be told what a fine young man I am. But I cannot. Because I am just a girl.
Sometimes, when I am alone, I will take off my clothes and look in the mirror. At my body, who chose to be a girl. (Though I do not hate it because of that choice. It did not know that the soul that lived inside of it would not match.) And I will say to myself "I am a girl", and for that second I will be. Then I will say I am a boy, and I will become one for that moment. Sometimes I will say " I am a boy and a girl." and I can be both. Other times I will say "I am just a person." And my concept of gender will fade for that moment.
But after, the words will fade and I'll put my clothes back on. And I will be just a girl again. Not because I chose to, but because that is what I have been told my whole life.
I am a girl because everyone has told me so, and they will never see me as anyone else.
(This is my experience as a multi-gendered individual. I do not speak for anyone in the community except myself. People have different experiences with gender and sexuality. Nothing is universal. If you want to understand someone, ask about their own experiences. Don't presume. Make sure to take care of yourself.)
me if you care
Why does the bigender flag look like ice cream? Vanilla strawberry mint ube flavored looking bitch
So I personally don't like the non-problematic Bigender flag's colors so like any normal person I made my own 💪🏽 (Sorry if it looks to much like another flag just lemme know! also you don't need to give credit unless you want too :P) Also this is my first time making a pride flag like ever so feedback is very cool if that's a thing people do when sharing pride flagz
hey you!
yea you!!
your gender’s looking great today!!
whatever you identify as
however you prefer to present yourself
however you look
it looks great on you!!!!
Happy Pride! 🏳️🌈
To celebrate Pride Month before it ends, I decided to have all of my beloved Hazbin OCs to show their colors!
Vendova (left) - Demisexual Panromantic
Lan (middle) - Bisexual
Kai/Ro (right) - Bigender (she/he) asexual biromantic
Can you make some blinkies for nonbinary people and include them on your tdov celebrations too? We are still as trans as transmasc/transfem x
Omg I can't believe I forgot to include us HELLO?? I'm literally a demigirl .·°՞(¯□¯)՞°·. (under the nonbinary umbrella, which is under the trans umbrella yada yada)
Anyways, here's some more gender identities that fall under the transgender umbrella as blinkies for tdov!!! (*˘︶˘*).。.:*♡
Two different versions cuz I was feeling silly OH AND!!!! ↓↓↓↓↓↓↓
Bonus:
As usual, f2u if you credit + reblog 💚 og post here