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As someone who has lied to themselves about "it's okay, I'm okay", I can say this. Your personality will never satisfy all the people on this planet and you don't have to please everyone. Pretending to blend in with the gray mass is the easiest path you can take, but be prepared that you, like most of the gray mass, will devalue yourself.
You don't have to pretend, even with your relatives. Yes, it takes strength, but every person has the strength to say: "I don't want this"; "I think about this"; "I like this".
People just need to accept the fact that there will always be those who will dislike them, and there will always be those who will accept us as we are. And to do that, you don't have to change yourself and your personality, adjusting it to fit others.
You are you, and you are an individual among many, but your personality can shine like a flame of fire, or go out in a sea of grayness. The choice is yours.
Anyone ever get tired of acting and playing a role all the time? Acting like you're gonna find a partner of the opposite gender one day and marry? Acting like you want to do some 9 to 5 job for the rest of your life? Coming up with excuses for why you don't drink, why you don't go to parties, why you don't want children? Tiptoeing through conversations, careful not to upset anyone and their invisible preferences they believe are universal? Pretending you're fine, pretending you never have experienced trauma or mental illness, pretending your apartment is always clean and you always have everything together. Pretending you have "normal" interests. Lying to people. Every day, wherever you go. Lying to your colleagues, to your parents, to your family. Knowing that telling the truth would be even worse, if anyone would even believe you. I'm tired of this bullshit.