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Your body must be rested and fed if you wish to be a pervert.

Signs of a fantastic Dom

We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom

They ask you about your day: They show compassion and actually want to listen about how your day went

They ALWAYS want to keep fields of communication open: Whether you’re in the middle of a kinky-as-fuck scene or you two are in a heated argument, the means of communication is ALWAYS open. Once you give your safe word, IT IS DONE

Aftercare is a top priority. No matter what this is for you in particular, they put a lot of emphasis on aftercare (cuddling, movie watching, bath time, etc.)

They aren’t afraid to scold you when you actually mess up. Sometimes we fuck up, both with our dynamics or we screwed up something at work or school. Doms will scold you, put also help cheer you up and might even offer ways to make it positive

Sex might be apart of the dynamic, but it’s not the focus. I get the fact some people get involved with other BDSM partners for the sole reason of sex, but outside of those VERY SPECIFIC DYNAMICS, sex is NOT the sole focus. It might be a fun “add on”, but it’s NOT the primary objective (penetrative sex or other forms of sex acts).

They are concerned for your safety, but don’t overdo it. They want you safe, but don’t take it to the paranoid level where they need to track every little thing you do.

They respect your privacy. EVERYONE has secrets (”skeletons in your closest”), even among romantic partners who have been partners for a long time, people have stuff they just don’t feel comfortable confessing every little thing in their life. A respectful Dom understands this and doesn’t need to go spying on you or attempt to invade your privacy (track internet history, track phone usage, track where you’ve been, etc.)

They trust you. A Dom who doesn’t trust you will purposely try to fuck up the relationship/dynamic, they will show severe jealousy, and other negative aspects. A Dom that trusts you will respect YOU as a person as well as you to keep your word on different things.

When disagreements happen, they use constructive language. There is not a healthy relationship on this earth that is 100% argument/disagreement free. However, whenever these do happen, it is NOT a “me against you” style argument (”I WON THE ARGUMENT”, none of that). It is done in a way with minimal accusatory/hurtful statements

They respect your hard limits. Doms know hard limits don’t mean “convince me”. They know to stay the fuck away from hard limits with a ten foot freaking pole.

Someone asked to see our contract.

Healthy relationships do not call for self abandonment, they are a unity of two individual people.

The Fake Dom Problem

How submissives are misinformed, misled and taken advantage of by people pretending to be a "real Dom".

I'm writing this, because I know from experience that there are many so called 'fake Doms' out there. These are (mostly) men who pretend to be a dominant in the BDSM culture, often claiming having lots of experience, while in reality they are simply men looking to take advantage of (often) young and inexperienced submissive females, who make an easy target to be taken advantage of due to their submissive nature.

A couple of things that usually stand out with fake Doms, is that they quickly assume the "dominant" role, or at least, what they presume to be the dominant role. Very often they'll have the submissive female refer to them as 'Sir' or 'Master', sometimes even from the start, even though no consent has been given, and the "Dom" knows little to nothing about the submissive in question.

They'll often quickly continue with online role play, start asking submissives what clothes they are wearing, or demanding they do as they tell, because they are the "Dom", and they (incorrectly) assume a submissive must always tell whatever a Dom tells them to do. This often leads to submissives being incorrectly informed, taken advantage of and being misled, sometimes even abused.

Often these are just men looking for sexting, or online role play, and have little to no experience or knowledge about BDSM or being a "real Dom". Some of them might simply be looking to get themselves off, or sometimes are just looking to score nudes from their victims.

A real Dom however will never start demanding things from a submissive, until consent has been given from both sides. A real Dom will never ask you to call them 'Sir' or 'Master', until you both have agreed upon it, and preferably not until you both know something about each other, what both of your desires and limitations are.

A good Dom will always first try to get to know a submissive first, to try and understand their needs, desires and wishes, as well as their limitations, current circumstances and hard limits. This is of key importance, not just to built trust, but also to prevent crossing the line and leaving the submissive with a bad experience.

So please, be careful when you meet a new Dom online. Make sure you get to know each other first. Don't send pictures until you feel comfortable. And my personal opinion would be, not to send any nudes or sensitive material, until you have both personally met each other face to face, so you know that he or she is the real deal and not a fake Dom.

Don't let yourself be fooled or pressured into things because some online Dom tells you to. A good Dom respects your limits and respects you. I know this might sound weird for those submissives that crave to be humiliated and degraded, but only someone who respects you can truly humiliated and degrade you the way you want to. After all, if there's nothing to be respected, there's nothing to humiliate or degrade.

If you have any questions, want advice or just want to talk, my DM is always open.

Let's create a safer and better place for both Dom's and submissives, with less fakers and more real people looking for the real thing.

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Feminism is the essential truth that women and men begin from a position of deserving intrinsically equal rights, power, and value. A submissive woman can choose to gift any amount of her power to another person if she wishes. This doesn’t change her intrinsically equal right to that power or to revoke that other person’a access to that power.

The only people presenting positions that differ from this general principle are inept and abusive men who lack the personal capacity to be worthy of a woman’s submission.

It really is this simple.

It believes this x feminist bitch was its feminist trainer in school

just some PSA's to subs:

hard doms really are like that. they aren't joking.

it's okay not to be into certain kinks. aftercare. ect. set the boundary.

babe, him being an online dom doesn't mean he's experienced. on that note, MOST doms are only online doms with no experience.

learn how to get yourself off. and never be scared to tell him how to.

there's someone into that weird thing you like.

oh, there's also someone into that deep dark one you'd never admit. trust me. it's literally fine.

hookup with other subs. trust me.

take care of your bodily health first.

ask for what you need. ask for it. if they refuse to give it to you. find someone who will.

EVEN AS A SUB. TAKE NO SHIT. DONT BE WALKED ON.