How To Make A Girl Squirt

Oh my god being told to "Bend over and show me".... Like leaning over the counter or the side of the couch and spreading my legs a little to hold my ass and thighs apart so you can see what a mess I am? That right there makes my brain melt

do you really want it?

One of the most common pitfalls I see in D/s dynamics, especially for submissives, is the tendency to focus too heavily on personal wants that don’t simultaneously benefit their Dominant. Don’t get me wrong, we all have individual desires in life-like that must-have book or a killer pair of shoes. But within the context of a D/s relationship, the essence of submission lies in prioritizing what pleases the Dominant.

True fulfillment for a submissive often comes from serving, fulfilling their Dominant’s wants and needs, and finding joy in the act of giving. When our focus shifts too far toward personal whims, it can disrupt the balance that makes a dynamic thrive.

Interestingly, I’ve noticed that many Dominants fall into the trap of over-prioritizing their submissive’s desires. They become overly focused on ensuring the submissive’s happiness, sometimes at the expense of their own. While this might seem like the ultimate expression of care, it can unintentionally lead to a dynamic where submission begins to fade. Why? Because submission, at its core, thrives on structure, leadership, and the natural flow of power—not on a Dominant constantly catering to the submissive’s every whim.

The key here is balance. A healthy D/s relationship is built on mutual compatibility and shared goals. Finding a partner who aligns with you fully. Not just in terms of D/s style but also in life goals, sexual compatibility, and long-term vision. This is crucial. When the foundation is strong, there’s less friction between the Dom and subs wants and needs, because they naturally align.

When a submissive’s wants already resonate with the Dominant’s, and vice versa, the dynamic becomes less about one person serving the other in an uneven way and more about mutual growth and fulfillment. That’s the beauty of finding someone who checks as many of your boxes as possible. It ensures that both partners are uplifted and fulfilled without compromising the power exchange that makes the dynamic so unique.

Ultimately, success in a D/s relationship comes from understanding this delicate balance and nurturing it. When both partners are on the same page, the connection deepens, the submission thrives, and the Dominant leads with confidence. And isn’t that what we’re all striving for?

BDSM can be done for the wrong reasons and if a submissive isn’t willing or able to engage in safe and consensually validated activity that expressly makes them feel successful and healthy in their role then they need to evaluate their experience more thoroughly and contemplatively.

That being said, the pushing of boundaries is an inherent part of bdsm practice. The point here is that if your participation is so significantly one sided that you are consistently failing to communicate about your own interests and needs while feeling harmed, that you are indeed being harmed. Either self-harm or partner abuse. A properly patient and supportive Dom who is trying to help you communicate and trying to help you explore your self-stated interests is not necessarily abusing you. One’s misuse of BDSM as a form self-harm can be a misunderstood element, an actively exploited element, or an element related to support, etc. within a BDSM relationship.

This is why using thorough checklists and then COMMUNICATING thoroughly through those checklists is so important. If a sub is not able to fully take ownership of their interests within a practice then they are not currently giving fully informed consent. Informed consent must include a full understanding of the complexity of self-harm as a component and pitfall of even the most healthy of BDSM practices.

When a submissive has potential self-harm elements that doesn’t automatically mean they should not practice BDSM, but it does mean they and their Dom need to openly discuss these challenges and responsibly navigate them within their practice.

D/s 101: If you call yourself a Dominant, don’t do this stuff...

You have adopted a title that should come with a giant heaping dose of honor, respect, and trustworthiness. 

1. Don’t make demands of submissive girls that don’t belong to you. You should know the difference between having the ability to control your own submissive, and how you should be treating all the rest that don’t belong to you.

2. Don’t talk intimately/woo other submissives behind the back of the one that belongs to you. All the time and energy you have to put into the submissive world should be aimed at your own submissive. If you want a different submissive, do the right thing, and break with the one you currently own first.

3. Don’t ditch submissives. How would you feel if the person you depend on for nearly everything suddenly went up in a puff of smoke, and was never heard from again? How would it effect your ability to trust someone else to take up the same role in your life? Stop ghosting, and ruining perfectly good submissives. 

4. Don’t cut your submissive out from contributing to your relationship. Yes, I know she put you in charge, but relationships evolve, and if you don’t attend to what she wants out of yours, your relationship is likely to evolve in separate directions. You can still be in charge, and listen to her wants and needs, I promise. 

5. Don’t ask someone you just met to be your submissive. It’s your job to inspire her to submit to you, by getting to know who she is, and showing her that you are the single most qualified man to be her Dominant. Don’t be lazy. Being a Dominant takes a lot of focus and energy. If you’re not up for that, go find another title to adopt. 

6. Don’t put your submissive on a shelf when caring for her is not convenient to you, and take her down off the shelf when it suits you. Submissives are human beings, and though some of them like to be treated like objects from time to time, they should not be ignored when you don’t feel like dealing with your relationship. If you don’t have to the time and energy to adopt the role of Dominant for someone, then don’t do it in a half-assed way.

7. Don’t compare your current submissive with past submissives. It’s not a competition. You should be making her feel like she’s the most important person in your current world, so don’t make her feel like she’s less than other submissives, or that you’re pining for something you no longer have, and feel you can’t have with her. 

8. Don’t skimp on the essential ingredients in D/s relationships. Don’t be that guy who limits your submissives safeword in any way. A safeword is the difference between consensual sex, and possible rape and abuse. Don’t skimp on aftercare. Let her know how much you appreciate all the control she continuously allows you to have over her, and how well she is performing for you. It’s the difference between a proud and happy submissive, and a sad and confused one. 

9. Don’t make unilateral decisions that your submissive is directly opposed to. You don’t get to decide your submissive needs a sister because it suits you to have a second submissive to play with, when it’s patently against her wishes. Once again, it’s her relationship too. 

10. Don’t lie to your submissive. It’s all about trust. It’s trust that inspires her to submit to you. It’s trust that inspires her to allow you to continue to hold her submission. One or two breaches of trust, and it all falls apart. 

JD🌹

Sometimes there will be elements of your practice while training that will include elements of conditioning.

Conditioned responses are perfectly normal. Part of a training practice.

Practice sometimes isn’t simply about repetition. Yes, practice can be about repetition and only about repetition in order to improve a skill. However, sometimes the development of a skill isn’t the only purpose of the practice. Sometimes improvement of the skill is important, but that improvement needs to also include a shift in the way you relate to and think about whatever you are practicing.

In order for a practice to accomplish those goals within your training, oftentimes it is important to change the way your mind relates to the thing being practiced.

That part is usually where conditioning occurs.

It might be conditioning to become more resilient to intrusive negative thoughts about what you imagine others might be thinking about you.

It might be conditioning to become more aroused from performing the activity itself.

It might be conditioning to express more appreciation or to express appreciation in a different way than you have previously thought was the best way to do it.

It might be conditioning to make access into your subspace through the practice easier.

There are a lot of different kinds of conditioning. Those are just a few examples that came to mind.

The point here is that acceptance of conditioning as an essential element of submission and that practice which includes conditioning is commonly an important element of training.

Enjoy it.

Just let it happen

80% of being a woman/cock doll is letting things happen to you. He asks for your phone number, you let him have it. He asks you on a date, you let him take you.

The difficult part comes after the niceties. It can be hard to let go, and let other things happen to you. It may help to consider yourself as a well, and he’s the bucket. You exist to give, he exists to take. If the well is dry, it can’t give anything. If it can’t give anything, it’s useless. (A bucket, on the other hand, will always be useful in any other well.)

He wants to come upstairs, don’t hesitate. Let him. He wants to take photos, let him. He wants your asshole? Well, what did you expect? You let him take you out, you let him do the nice things. Now it’s time to let him do everything else. Men are designed to want and you’re designed to give.

Hubby has been more demanding recently. When he bosses me around, I let him. This may sound like I’m topping from the bottom, but it’s not what I mean. I “let him” in that when he tells me what to do, I’ve actively tried not to resist. He half-jokingly told me to stop talking the other day. The old me may not have let that happen, snapping back with some remark, needing to have the last word to seem strong or witty. But I let myself be silenced, and it was like the endorphins rushed straight to my clit. I am a well full of willfulness that Husband is taking away, one bucket at a time. I’m happier because I let him.

We get so nervous over stupid things. What will other people think? Is this too humiliating? What if he’s just using me?

Let him.

Listen to that voice inside you that says “obey.” Being smart, talented, artistic- these are all good qualities, but they won’t be as important as your servility. You can cash in on them a bit, in that your loss of dignity will be that much greater, your fall, that much harder. But you’ll be simultaneously released from the pressures of being those things.

So when you think you have something important to say, and he decides to put tape over your mouth? Let him. Be grateful that he can see past what you think you need. Give in, let yourself be silenced.

Because when you let him, you can finally allow yourself to love, honor, and obey.

Xoxo Dbts

It's ok to have rape fantasies/kinks where you're the aggressor.

It's ok to have teacher/student fantasies/kinks where you're the teacher.

It's ok to have power imbalance fantasies/kinks where you're the one with more power.

It's ok to have predator/prey fantasies/kinks where you're the predator.

It's ok to have pain/punishment fantasies/kinks where you're the one inflicting the pain/punishment.

Your fantasies and kinks don't make you a bad person.

Safely exploring your fantasies and kinks through fiction or through role playing (either online or in-person acts) with other consenting adults doesn't make you a bad person.

Physical inferiority, where it is present, and the nature of being the receiving partner in sex acts / positions does not make a woman inferior to a man. Only dunces who can’t actually earn a woman’s interest otherwise promote that base level of idiocy. Essentially, men who promote that idea are the intellectual Bimbos among men.

It is natural for women to feel embarrassed when being fucked.

You get in a primally submissive position (bent over sticking your butt out or on your back with your legs spread in the air), someone bigger and larger sticks their cock in you and vigorously rails you, while you usually enjoy and get off on the feeling of getting dominated/owned.

You're inferior by nature, slut.

Getting a firm no from my Dominant after I’ve been getting a lot of leniencies lately is always a bit of a shock.

A surge of feelings goes through me at first. There is the surprise and then a bit of indignation and annoyance. I sit in bewilderment because I was most definitely expecting him to allow me to do what I wanted. I whine a bit and push to see if the invisible boundary will move some. It doesn’t. It’s rock solid. A no is a no.

All of the emotions associated with resentment start to fade and instead leave feelings of safety and contentment. There is still structure and lines I cannot cross. He is still in control and any leniency I’ve been given lately has been his choice. He can tell me no and I have to listen whether I like it or not…but deep down, I always like it. My submissive nature is always stronger than whatever little want I may have yearned for at the time. I feel settled.