FRODO: I Can’t Do This, Sam.

From reading all the incel toned “bdsm” blogs out there it seems some basic advice is needed:

I always try 😏😏😏

There is nothing wrong with having an abuse kink, a trauma kink, a choking kink, or with getting high.

That being said, however, there are potentially harmful and inappropriate aspects of any / all of these which it is important to keep in mind for personal safety reasons.

Abuse and trauma kinks are in the realm where awareness regarding creating harm to another or self harm are things that should be monitored for to make sure that these scenarios are indeed kink explorations and not harm scenarios.

Choking is something that can go unexpectedly wrong very quickly because the harm in one scenario is not the same as another scenario. The experiences could be visually and experientially equivalent, while unseen damage is being done and this damage can go from ok to life threatening/altering harm without either person knowing it. Choking should never be done alone.

Getting high changes a person’s situational awareness and ability for risk assessment. Combining getting high with other kinks always creates potential for harm and as such always requires a significant amount of advance consent discussion.

Have fun - stay well informed.

Just to repeat myself

I've been seeing a recent influx of followers so now is a good opportunity to repeat a post I've made before:

This blog is not a safe space for nazis, trump supporters, right wingers, transphobes, homophobes or actual real life misogynists.

If any of the above describes you, kindly fuck off.

Anyone who is not a feminist is not practicing Dominance and submission.

Feminism (the understanding that all people are inherently entitled to equal rights and justice) is the ONLY mechanism by which a woman can participate in submission. Without a starting point of mutually recognized equality a woman is not capable of exercising submission, and she has only the ability to accept and accommodate her own abuse at the hands of someone who (it seems most commonly) was incapable of earning her actual submission.

Only poorly informed people promote or support one person having an innate and unearned right to hold power over another person.

I’m so happy I finally made a tumblr for accepting my place. I used to just look at so many good accounts but never follow, but I couldn’t stop looking. I’m still learning what I like and still consider myself a feminist I appreciate any help!

This isn’t difficult.

Women are equal to men.

Period.

If a woman chooses to give the gift of her submission to someone that does not make her unequal to him. It does not make her inferior. It only means that she has given, likely and appropriately subject to certain terms and conditions, consent to explore certain scenarios.

Even if those scenarios include degradation and objectification of her as lesser, she is never actually lesser.

It is an exercise in the suspension of disbelief so a certain energy flow is able to be experienced.

No matter how much she likes that energy flow or how constant or even permanent the desire to experience in it is. She is always actually and in all ways equal.

Kink misogyny is fun. Trump misogyny is fucking killing people and people who believe in it deserve to have their nuts ripped off

exactly this ^^^^

don't message me expecting me to be happy about the orange fucker and his supposed "policies"

I'm a submissive woman but being a woman will always take precedence over being submissive

The key here, is to choose the path you want your arousal driven adventures to take, and to then enthusiastically practice what you need to practice in order to bring that life into reality.

Edging with the proper focus, and purpose for practice is an essential part of this.

Be a good girl.

Identify what you want your life to be like.

Use consistency in edging and a goal oriented practice to help yourself manifest it.

If you’re ashamed of your kinks, you just aren’t horny and desperate enough to accept that you’re better off as a complete degenerate. More edging will solve that. Agree and obey.

[any reason for a limit is valid]