Aaa-bdsm-instruction - A Collection Of Instructive Thoughts

Edging is not a punishment.

It’s a necessity and an earned right. Edging enhances feelings, increases stimulation and promotes desire. It keeps you wet, needy, controlled and willing to do anything, just to have more of it. Edging helps train your dumb little mind, reminds you of who you are and helps reduce unwanted thoughts. Edging gives weight to your begging, your pleading and your tears. You need it and earn it, you learn from it and rely on it.

The real punishment would be to not let you edge.

Anyone who is not a feminist is not practicing Dominance and submission.

Feminism (the understanding that all people are inherently entitled to equal rights and justice) is the ONLY mechanism by which a woman can participate in submission. Without a starting point of mutually recognized equality a woman is not capable of exercising submission, and she has only the ability to accept and accommodate her own abuse at the hands of someone who (it seems most commonly) was incapable of earning her actual submission.

Only poorly informed people promote or support one person having an innate and unearned right to hold power over another person.

I’m so happy I finally made a tumblr for accepting my place. I used to just look at so many good accounts but never follow, but I couldn’t stop looking. I’m still learning what I like and still consider myself a feminist I appreciate any help!

The essence of Dominance....💜

Getting a firm no from my Dominant after I’ve been getting a lot of leniencies lately is always a bit of a shock.

A surge of feelings goes through me at first. There is the surprise and then a bit of indignation and annoyance. I sit in bewilderment because I was most definitely expecting him to allow me to do what I wanted. I whine a bit and push to see if the invisible boundary will move some. It doesn’t. It’s rock solid. A no is a no.

All of the emotions associated with resentment start to fade and instead leave feelings of safety and contentment. There is still structure and lines I cannot cross. He is still in control and any leniency I’ve been given lately has been his choice. He can tell me no and I have to listen whether I like it or not…but deep down, I always like it. My submissive nature is always stronger than whatever little want I may have yearned for at the time. I feel settled.

Vacuous and ignorant use of multiple fallacies is a typical form of self defense for those needing to pretend they have a biological right above others as a mask for their lack of ability to earn it.

The “bounces off of me and sticks to you” rebuttal from this oddly flailing patriarchy blog is just a little icing on the cake of the deflective and self absorbed dysfunction inherent in patriarchy obsessed nonsense peddlers.

Make it make sense…

at the risk of losing followers, i just wanted to say that it's a very sad day for me.

my following is 90% middle aged white men, and i hope you all hear me out: i like to fantasize about becoming a sex object, but i'm scared that some of you take it too seriously.

i am first and foremost a young woman. i believe that in addition to being somewhat attractive, i am smart, powerful, and on the same level as my male counterparts. for those of you who actually engage in a misogynistic lifestyle outside of kink, please do not interact with me. that disgusts me.

thank you. 💙

The real journey begins when you accept that many of your daily life’s elements are secondary traits of your life.

You are a submissive who has a job as a ______.

You are a submissive who lives at ________.

You are a submissive who married _________.

You are a submissive who does ________ for recreation and exercise.

Etc… etc…

You can of course choose things that take precedence. Like, you are a mother, sister, friend, wife, etc… but the truth is that the higher you elevate your own self understanding to reflect that you are a submissive above other things, the more enjoyable your life will be and the less you will have to think about how your life as a submissive fits in with the rest of your life and rather to witness how all of your other life activities are an extension of who you are as a submissive.

The clarity of this, regardless of how you ultimately balance it, is essential.

Yes Daddy 🤤💜

Aftercare

I’ve organized some of the things I need from aftercare (in person or long distance) into 4 components, and thought it could be helpful for others too! I’ve put some examples for each, but it will of course look different for everyone.

1. Physical Care/Needs -

Wiping away tears

Helping up from floor

Getting a warm towel

Soothing bruises

Getting a glass of water

2. Physical Comfort/Affection -

Gentle kisses and hugs

Holding eachother tight

Breathing with eachother

Cuddling and/or napping together

Brushing fingers through hair

3. Scene Validation -

“That was so fun/sexy”

“That felt so good when you ____”

“You were such a good ____ for me”

“I love the bruises/marks you gave me”

“Thank you for (carrying out some fantasy) with me”

4. Human Affirmations -

“I love you; I care about you”

“I’m so grateful to have you in my life”

“I always have a great time when I’m with you”

“You’re a wonderful/kind/etc person”

Mentioning a non-sexual part of your relationship that you like, or reiterating that you value eachother as more than just a sub/dom(me)

I think that this can work whether you have a deeper connection or a more casual play partner! I always feel best when all of these components are covered during aftercare.

These things can obv be done in person, and I think it’s also really important to give this kind of care when you’re long distance, even if it’s just through words after sexting… for example-

“When we were done, I would help you up and wipe away your tears, bring you a warm towel and make sure you’re ok. Then I’d love to cuddle, with your head on my chest, and give you forehead kisses while telling you how good you made me feel and how wonderful of a person I think you are.”

Thanks for reading! Be safe everyone 💕💕