Big Vibes Big Vibes!!!!! I’m Needy And This Is Absolutely Something Unreasonable I Want!

it’s been awhile and since someone asked for me to do this, I figured it would be fun to post this on my blog for now! I’m not sure how accurate these things are but it’s fun! :)

very important info!!! please take this kind of thing seriously please!!

Aftercare. 💙✨

I know most people know what subdrop is, but for the few who don’t I’ll explain.

Subdrop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it released during a scene or session.

Meaning, after you‘ve come down from your high, you start to feel mentally and emotionally attacked from what just happened. You start to think all these bad things about yourself and how someone normal would not find what just occurred pleasurable in anyways.

That’s why aftercare is important. Showering your sub in compliments,food, cuddle sessions. Just stuff that will make them feel like you care and that you don’t judge them for enjoying what they like.

Another thing, I’m positive that most people don’t know is what topdrop is. It’s the same as subdrop but it affects doms/dommes.

I know some people will be like- “Doms/dommes don’t go through that, nothing like that bothers them.” That’s where you’re wrong.

Remember we’re all human so no one is exempt from feeling used or feeling disgusted with their actions even though they shouldn’t be.

Not many know this but being a dom/domme is exhausting. A good top plans physical punishments or sexual scenes down to the T so their is no room for accidents and after all that planning and executing said plan they sometimes feel bad for doing what they did or even feel used in a sense.

That’s why aftercare is important for both parties. Show them that you care and that you appreciate what they did. Reassure them that they didn’t hurt you in a bad way and that they only did what they did to help you grow. ASK👏 THEM👏 IF👏 THEY’RE👏 OKAY👏!! Especially right after a session.

That can be the difference between showing that you care or not.

AFTERCARE IS A NECESSITY FOR BOTH PARTICIPANTS!!👏💙✨

oh what a wonderful life it would be to own a crane machine for such silly things! I would just wanna play with it with my own plushies but.. it would be a cute idea of how a dolly is picked out to be used by whoever won the game. so many pretty thoughts!

it sounds scary, but also.. yes please? it’s okay to have these kind of fantasies, right? it just makes sense to me that this is exactly how I need to be treated. it’s how I know I’m wanted <3

If you’re not willing to abduct, abuse, gaslight and obsess over me until I fall in love with you then I’m not the girl for you.

happy friends make me happy :)

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy

I tried to scroll past this. I really did

oh. I like this a very very lot.

So everyone talks about praise kink right? But I think there's something to be said for a reassurance kink.

"That's it, you're doing it right, darling, don't worry."

Any guidance through even the simplest of tasks.

"I'm here, I'm not going anywhere."

Feeling weight, like a hand resting on a shoulder or thigh.

Making eye contact and getting a smile and nod back that says, you're doing great, keep going.

Being hushed or swayed while receiving back rubs.

Being fully surrounded by their body while they say, "it's okay now, I'm here, you're safe."

someone who is so in control that they don’t have to be big and loud to asset their control and dominance. oh it’s something magic <3

TBH I’m so turned on by sweet and calm sadists.

Like, no matter how much of a brat you are no matter how much you cry and beg and struggle they just smile down at you and stroke your hair and continue doing whatever the fuck they want to do.

As someone who generally is very good at pushing people’s buttons and enjoys winding people up until they react, the person who just ignores it all and continues to completely and openly enjoy my pain and humiliation without feeling the need to so much as raise their voice? Very very hot.

consent is literally essential. without consent, no fun can be had. communication is key and if you can’t understand that then you should not be having this kind of fun.

Shit, are people really taking “men get pegged” as a serious measure of whether a guy is a Good Boyfriend or not?

I assure you earnestly. If your girlfriend tries to pressure you into doing that or insist that you must be afraid of being ~emasculated~ if you don’t want to, it is best to Throw The Whole Woman Away.

In general, like, what sexual acts you are or are not personally comfortable with has exactly fuck all to do with how feminist or progressive you are or whatever. Ffs.

It is a delightful meme but absolutely not an excuse to forget that men, also, get to make the rules about their bodies! and that is final!

if you wanted to smack it against my face a little bit too, that sounds really nice to please! <3

sometimes you just want a dick slapped against your tongue a lil bit 🤷🏻‍♂️

oh no! I’ve been called out!.. but also. if someone just wanted to keep me compliant and dumb, having something shoved in my mouth usually makes my head pretty fuzzy. <3

I love brats with oral fixations. Letting them push my buttons, tease me, letting them rile me up makes it that much sweeter when they say “make me” and I shove something - anything - in their mouth and watch them instantly melt and do whatever I say