Who Else Mourning The Person They Could've Been If They Were Treated Kindly As A Child

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Me trying to explain to my friend why I felt fine an hour earlier and why I feel bad now (I have BPD):

crying and sobbing bc at the end of the day all i want is a partner who is sweet to me and thinks of me fondly

BPD culture is "I'm not jealous but what do you mean you have other friends??? You're my only friend, that's not fair."

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Am I not good enough for you?

I’m so fucking horny right now, god please I need hot and weird transgender sex rn or I might actually die

Jealousy is often portrayed as a toxic and/or abusive trait.

And I just want to talk about that for a minute, especially for those who struggle with jealousy because I think a lot of you might feel bad when you see those posts.

Jealousy itself is not inherently bad. Again, like with other emotions, the emotion itself is not bad. It's your behaviours that might become a problem. Jealousy is actually a really normal and common emotion. I feel like by constantly demonizing "jealousy" that people are less likely to get help for managing it when it gets out of hand for them, and this could be harmful to them in the long run.

For example, there's a difference between "How dare you talk to another friend! Clearly you don't care about me." and "I'm feeling a bit insecure. Could you please give me some reassurance?" There's a difference between pushing your partner to not have relationships outside of you, and communicating with your partner about how you can work together to make you feel less like you're being replaced.

Actions like not allowing a partner/friend to have other relationships because of jealousy, or blowing up at them because someone flirted with them or etc are not okay (I also want to say that if you've done things I've said are "not okay" in the past, that you aren't bad or beyond healing. You can learn from those mistakes and do better). But the emotion itself is not bad and there are healthy ways to handle it.

If you struggle with jealousy, you are not a bad person. You are not automatically abusive or anything like that.

just a little life update: unlovable!