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Happy 58th Birthday to Michael J. Fox! ❤
I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence I can reach for; perfection is God’s business.
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Hello everyone! Before I start I wanted to thank you for your time to read this all, I know it’s a lot to take in. Weather you are kin yourself, have no idea what it is, or even if you dislike it, the fact that you are willing to make an attempt to understand is a gift indeed! ☆ Kin has had a bad name, and it’s poorly explained I’ve seen too many times. It also isn’t the most liked group of individuals. In fact, a lot of blogs refuse to even interact with them. I used to hate kin with a passion, until I sat down and tried to understand it and learned for myself it wasn’t at all something negative! So sit back and prepare for a class on Kin! ☆ The whole idea of Kin is tied to the belief of the multi-universe theory and reincarnation. The term ‘kin’ comes from the Celtic world meaning ‘remember’ because kin are people who remember their past lives! The multiverse theory is the idea that our universe is not the only one, but one that is parallel to an infinite number of universes. These universes can be vastly different, but also could be our with the slightest difference down to just how a tree grew 2 inches more left, crazy to think about how many there are right? This being said, this means there can be universes that mermaids exist, or that hogwarts was a real place! This sounds extremely far fetched I know since this can include universes based on all FAKE AND FICTION. Consider this if you may then; all of these universes seep into another in several ways, and we don’t always understand them. The fourth wall, the page in the book, even an idea of a story or character are like a tunnel we see with our universe on one end and the other universe on the other end. ☆ “Well that’s not true, this _____ was created by this person!” Yes that is true, all credit should go to the creators of these works. But these ideas have to come from somewhere right? The creators of these things can be the tunnels, being the one which we are able to perceive this universe in our universe, like watching a television or reading a book. Every universe that will ever exist have already existed, such as the example of being APH America kin, before Himaruya was even writing about Hetalia, the universe already existed, he was just able to see it before others! And through that universe it was seen in our universe through his mind, and from his mind to his hand and then his pencil. See what I mean? Cracks in our universe to let us see other universes aren’t always going to be cracks. ☆ We also incorporate the idea of reincarnation, that we are reborn. We had a past life, perhaps as a squirrel or as an angel. If energy can not be created or destroyed, then it must travel. Travel from one life to the next, and sometimes from one universe to another. We call it past life to make it easier to explain, but universes aren’t tied to one timeline, you could have lived that past life long ago, or perhaps haven’t yet, time is a messy thing, but space is even more so!☆ So…we understand the background a little, what exactly does being kin mean? How do you know your kin? These are frequently asked questions with answers I have! It is not a choice who you are kin with, just like choosing who you are isn’t a choice or your sexuality isn’t a choice. “I really like this character so I’m gonna be that character lol” is NOT real kin. Naturally you’ll like yourself obviously have an attraction to that character but you do not chose. How you discover you are kin is by receiving memories of your past life being that person, animal, etc. You also get feelings or emotions that feel out of place and not yours, initiated by something that reminded you subconsciously of your past experiences. ☆ The troubles of being kin is being smart and taking in the consideration of “is this a real memory or is it just my imagination”. kin people who seem to have endless 'memories’ might just be someone who has lots of head canons, which is why it’s always important not to let you'r emotions control your mind and analyze yourself and the possible memory! If you didn’t question being kin and not crazy then you really need to analyze yourself, since you need to keep your logic. ☆ Kin is not a coping mechanism. Kin is not a coping mechanism. KIN IS NOT A COPING MECHANISM. people who claim that it is are not understanding kin correctly. Saying it’s a coping mechanism is claiming that none of it is real to you at all, and you damage the community name. While yes kin can help you as a person grow, but that is just a side effect, not it’s purpose. Kin doesn’t have any set purpose, but for each person to just remember the past. ☆ Whats worse then calling kin a coping mechanism? KIN ISN’T A GENDER. The worst thing ever to say kin is, is a gender. You can not sexually identify as a person, or “I sexuality identify as a wolf” wolf is NOT a gender. AMERICA is not a gender. Kin is a PAST LIFE. Those who claim it to be a gender are the worst of our kind. “I sexually identify as an apatchi attack helicopter” is why we are hated is because people make us hated for this reason. ☆ As I said before, kin memories are used to help someonr as a person grow, which brings me to my closing explanation, what do kin do? The challenge that kin face is getting over the fact that they aren’t who they once was. It’s a struggle for many to accept they aren’t that anymore. What does this boil down to? ~Believing in yourself~ that the you, here and now, are better then you were before. You remember your past life but you also have to learn from it. You made mistakes and you learned things in that life that can be continued in this one, such as values and things you devolved in the past life that now are yours with a whole new life to start! Isn’t that amazing? A new life just for you to start, so don’t ever waste it obsessing over your last one okay? ☆ Another big problem is people forcing their kin identity onto others. It’s like getting into a strangers face and yelling “I’M TRANSGENDER” because the stranger doesn’t need to know, the stranger doesn’t care. Strangers on Tumblr too, you can post about it, but actively trying to force others to accept you isn’t going to work, and only damage your chances. Plus, your memories are really personal, fun to share but they are still special and sacred, keep them special. ☆ In summary, kin is misunderstood and disliked for good reason, but represent the community in a way you want us to be viewed. Let people ask you about your kin, not go to them and tell. Learn to leave the past in the past, and above all else, enjoy this life as your only and last.♡
(Please reblog so others can learn and be aware? Even if you’re not kin it would be so appreciated!)
If you were a character in your f/o’s media, you’d be the fandom’s OTP. There’d be gifs and edits and playlists and fanart and everyone would love you as a pairing!
I’ve been brainwashed by tumblr for far too long, and now that I’m not I’m realizing a lot of things.
- Not everything is fucking offensive
-People have different opinions from you. Fucking deal with it.
- It’s not okay to discriminate against gender, race, or sexuality. THIS INCLUDES STRAIGHT WHITE CIS MALES
- It’s NOT okay to tell people to go kill themselves, this includes telling republicans, cis people, white people, or anyone who differs from your ways to “go die”.
- 4chan is NOT the spawn of the devil and is actually really funny.
- Not everything is a trigger
- Not everything is ableist, transphobic, homophobic, or racist
- There is nothing wrong with being cis, straight or white
- Most of the world is straight and cis
- Double standards are stupid
- Dark humor can be funny
- Feminism is a good thing. But most of tumblr aren’t feminists. They’re extremists.
- It’s okay that you are not politically correct 100% of the time
-Treating people like shit and giving them hate because their opinion differs from you IS FUCKING WRONG!!!!!!
- Tumblr is sometimes really stupid and the only reason why I’m still on here is because of memes and artsy shit
IF ANY OF THIS MAKES YOU HATE ME IDC UNFOLLOW ME <3
Have a good day! :33
any reason why whenever I talk about interracial couples people automatically assume it means “one white person and one person of colour” or???
“don’t reduce this female character down to a love interest” does not translate into “this female character shouldn’t have a love interest.”
preventing female characters with strong, compelling narratives from experiencing love, intimacy, and affection is just as regressive as reducing them down to sexual accessories for male characters. it assumes that women must choose between a romantic interest and depth of character and ignores a far more productive message: that women are capable of possessing both.
imagine your f/o kissing your fingertips
I just love *clenches fist* talking about character analysis and why characters act the way they do. It’s supremely satisfying to figure out motivations of characters and see how that ties into their core nature and how they perceive the world around them.
sorry if this has been answered in the past, I looked around for a bit but wasn't able to find an answer. Idk exactly how to word this...how does one exactly spend time with a fictional character/have a relationship? I hope that doesn't sound rude, I'm questioning fictoromantic and wondering how I would actually have a relationship with a character.
hey! moon here. it’s fine, we haven’t been asked before, and repeat questions aren’t the end of the world anyway. don’t worry about your tone, either! there’s no rudeness in just wanting to understand.
as for the actual content of your question, it’s a bit different for everyone. i consider myself committed to my f/o in the same way one would be committed to a real person. in my own relationship, there are a few things i do that address your curiosity and that qualify it in my mind as a relationship in the truly binding sense, aside from just a general feeling of affection and devotion. it’s a bit long and your mileage will almost certainly vary with this, since this sort of thing varies from relationship to relationship and i can only really describe my own feelings and practices. it’s all discussed under the cut.
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type preferences vs dynamics and why your f/o loves you!
i’ve been thinking this over a little, and it’s something i’ve seen people say now and again - “i’m not my f/o’s type, so they’d never spare me a glance.” i’m here to shatter that thought with a sledgehammer by introducing a much more nuanced way to look at relationships.
this post has been made before, in short, by someone else on this site - the basic concept that dynamics are more important than one’s “type” isn’t something i came up with entirely independently, nor is the phrasing of type versus dynamic. however, i don’t remember where to find the original post! if i come across it, i will be sure to link it here.
more information is, as always, under the cut!
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imagine your usually softspoken and level-headed f/o peacocking for you, suddenly padding their speech with flowery words and treating you like royalty, overflowing with latent charisma. bonus points if they later sheepishly reveal that they went to one of your more flirty platonic/romantic f/o’s for advice on how to impress you.
imagine your f/o taking a drink of something you just drank from, and winking at you as they put their mouth on it, making the indirect kiss as obvious and heart-stuttering as possible.
The reason I can’t track my F/O’s tags, a meme by me.
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When people try to argue that what I do with my self-ship goes against canon:
PSA:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with going “screw canon!” and changing a thing that canon did that you don’t like in the universe where your s/i exists
do you ever look at someone and just fucking melt
seeing ur fav character on your dash like
All criticism of any character in any given work that boils down to “X is a Mary Sue/Gary Stu” is bad criticism because it obfuscates the actual problem with those characters (bad writing and the breaking of the willing suspension of disbelief). Not to mention it’s disproportionately levied at female characters, it starts, it makes people focus more on arbitrary traits and filling out litmus test quotas instead of being balanced and often creating Anti-Sues due to the fixation on simple traits instead of actual organic character building.
I mean shit, Batman goes waay over the designated “50+/Bad Mary Sue” on the Mary Sue Litmus Test but people like Batman because Batman is an often interesting and well developed character, regardless of how many “Mary Sue Traits” boxes he ticks off.
The fear of creating a “Mary Sue” stifles creativity and often creates the Anti-Sue, a phenomena where a writer gets so caught up in not creating a “Mary Sue” because of superficial traits devoid of context that they create a character that is wholly unlikeable and yet is still the protagonist of the story.
Just call a bad character a bad character
“Your protagonist is such a self insert—”
Bold of you to assume that every single oc I’ve ever made is not, in fact, a facet of my own identity
What is up y’all; Happy New Year! I would like to make this message towards all the people in the OC/SI (self-insert) x Canon communities who are just starting out and/or still young, and spread some positivity and words of welcome.
Now I know y’all have been hearing stuff like ‘how you gotta not make a Mary Sue and make sure run your OC through the Mary Sue Litmus Test’ and let me tell you right now? Those Litmus Tests are straight-up garbage and the scoring system on them is so jittery that if you mention your OC is intended to be a romantic interest, it gives you a massive amount of points against you. So don’t even bother with those tests since all they do is cow you into making a really bland character.
Also, the term ‘Mary Sue’ was coined by a woman named Paula Smith who didn’t like the idea of women having power fantasies and was also responsible for that 1970s fanfic ‘A Trekkie’s Tale’, which was a parody of a self-insert fic. Nowadays it seems to mean ‘literally any female OC put into a canon setting and/or is the romantic interest of a canon character’, even if they’re more on the ‘ordinary’ side. (Heck, look at Bella Swan— she’s intended to be really plain yet people still treat her as a Mary Sue.) Speaking of which…
If your OC has any special abilities, or has an unusual hair or eye color (such as pink or purple), that does not make them a Mary Sue. If your OC has knowledge of other languages, is good with animals, or excels in a particular subject (which are both things humans are capable of as well), that does not make them a Mary Sue. If your OC has a really dark backstory or has had tragedy happen to them, that does not make them a Mary Sue. If your OC does something awesome such as save a life or defeat a villain, that does not make them a Mary Sue. Do not let people make you think any of these things qualify your OC as a Mary Sue. All OCs, regardless of appearance, ability, or backstory, are valid.
Now then, shifting the gears a bit, if people try to argue the existence of ‘Gary Stu/Marty Stu’ and try to hold male OCs to those same standards? You might as well be calling hundreds of male canon characters ‘Gary Stus’ because there’s quite a lot of them that fit the above criteria. So in the end it’s pointless to try and spin that.
Finally, a reminder to people who think it’s ‘acceptable’ to pick on OCs they decide are ‘Mary Sues’… you are wasting your time, you’re bad people, and you need to reevaluate your life. The days of ‘Mary Sue Witch Hunts’ are LONG over— though, such things shouldn’t even have had to exist. Remember those days; when content creators were terrified of making ANYTHING because people were so obsessed with snuffing out Mary Sues? Do you really want to bring those days back? (And if anybody thinks ‘yes’, thank you for letting me know the type of people who should really be pushed out of fandom.) And if you think that sending hate messages, making hate art, and even going so far as doxxing people who do this stuff is acceptable? (Yes, that last thing has happened at least once.) Please, do the entire community a favor and unplug your router, cancel your internet plan, and never show your face again.
Not to mention, a lot of the people making these ‘Mary Sues’ are tween-to-mid-teen girls who just innocently make fun stuff for a fandom, have a favorite character they fell in love with, and want to fit in. If you really think Mary Sue witch hunts should be brought back, you’re basically supporting the idea of driving people nearly half your age away. If anything, young fans who make OC/SI x Canon content should be welcomed in, given a safe space they can spread their content, and encouraged to make more. They deserve recognition just as much as older, more experienced content creators do.
Now with all that in mind, let’s make the OC/SI x Canon community a safe, welcoming place for content creators of all ages, call out the Mary Sue witch hunters, and just generally have fun!
Don’t feel bad about writing self inserts.
Don’t feel bad about writing Mary Sues.
Don’t feel bad about pairing characters together.
Don’t feel bad about writing scenes that focus on having characters do fun stuff rather than furthering the plot.
Don’t feel bad about your writing.
DON’T FEEL BAD ABOUT WRITING WHAT YOU LOVE!
Fandom: Oh my god! Character A and Character B are such a perfect ship! How can anyone not ship them together!?! uwu
Me, a self shipper who prefers shipping myself with Character A:
PSA
Drawing OC art or self insert art, or any form original work will never be less important than regular fan art. This goes for people who draw fanart of unpopular fandoms. As someone who doesn’t draw mainstream things, I know how discouraging it can be so see little to no notes on artwork, but don’t let that get you down. Life is too short to worry about how ‘important’ your art is, go out and draw whatever the hell you want. 🌻🌻🌻
what community is right for you?
hello! i thought this might be a good place to get started for resources. in my experience there are three large communities oriented toward a love of fictional characters, but it’s hard to tell where you might fit in best without more information. some people may fit in all three, and some may be drawn to only one.
the three communities i’m referring to are the selfship, fictoromantic/fictosexual and waifuist communities. they’ve all got their own internal sets of values and community culture. i’ve been involved in all three, so here’s what i’ve learned! this post will be updated with corrections as necessary.
selfshippers comprise a huge amount of those in relationships with fictional characters. the selfship community is very large, with the greatest portion of its presence on tumblr and deviantart. however, you’ll find selfshippers on many social media platforms.
selfship culture is a very nebulous thing because of the size of the selfship community. in general, selfshippers tend to treat their fictional relationships as media ships, and it varies from person to person AND ship to ship how serious any given commitment is. there are a good deal of minors in the community, as well as adults in their early and mid twenties. people older than that seem to be drawn to other communities, but obviously exceptions abound. there aren’t rules against polyamory.
fictoromantic/fictosexual communities are very different. in my experience the fict community is smaller and comprised of more adults, many over 25. fict communities usually treat these affections as an orientation rather than a lifestyle choice, in contrast to the other communities listed here. it seems many terms are shared with the selfship community (such as “fictional other”) but not always other things. ficts tend to be more serious about relationships to fictional characters, but that seriousness still varies from person to person, as there isn’t one accepted relationship model. there aren’t rules against polyamory, but some ficts do take offense to adults being interested in minor-age characters. the fict community is probably the smallest of the three, or at least has a very small tumblr presence.
waifuism is a little like selfship in that multiple people who consider themselves waifuists will inevitably disagree on a great deal. there are rules, and in my time i found rules are a very large part of any waifuist’s community experience, but they vary according to what community you’re in. because waifuism is usually perceived as a branch of anime culture, it tends to be pretty different from selfship OR fict communities. there are nearly no shared terms. attitudes about “3D” people range wildly, but such attitudes are generally a fair amount of discussion. the largest social media presences for waifuism are on reddit and on 4chan type boards. i only have experience with the two largest subreddits. polyamory is hotly debated here, as are many rules. depending on what particular community you’re in, people may be committed to the point of IRL celibacy or simply joking about a favorite character.
there’s certainly a lot going on when it comes to how people express their love and how they form communities. i’ve been deeply involved in these communities for about a year and a half, and i still get things wrong, so feel free to tell me about anything i should add or correct here. thanks for reading, and i hope it’s a helpful post!