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Damian Abused Tim and None of Yall are Talking About It

First of all, let’s define an abusive relationship. Okay? “Abuse” is not characterized by- say it with me now- age, gender, strength/size or otherwise more “common” depictions of an abusive relationship. “Abuse” is characterized by a- say it with me now- POWER IMBALANCE. Got it? Good.

Now, let’s examine Damian and Tim’s relationship to see if there’s a power imbalance with one simple question. Do they both have the power to redefine this relationship? In the case of Tim and Damian, the answer is no. An immediate follow-up to this question should be: who has the power to redefine the relationship? The answer is the more powerful side of the power imbalance, or, more often than not, the abuser. In the case of Tim and Damian, Damian is the one with the power to redefine the relationship. 

Why? Because a), both Tim and Damian’s adults (Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick) are unwilling to balance the relationship (giving them both consequences for cruelty, no favoritism, etc.), b), Damian does not accept anything Tim says- if Tim is polite, he’s being patronizing/condescending and it’s his fault, if Tim’s rude he’s being cruel/unfair and it’s his fault, if Tim’s indifferent he’s being cold/unfair and it’s his fault- as a genuine effort on Tim’s part, meaning only Damian has the power to change their dynamic.

Just because Damian is younger than Tim does not mean that Damian is incapable of being abusive towards Tim. It reminds me of a dynamic in which the “softer” one, e.g. a wife or in this case, a younger sibling, is abusing the “tougher” one, e.g. a husband or an older sibling, and the victim of the abusive is not believed because the “softer” one obviously can’t be an abuser. By excusing Damian’s actions you are practicing abuse apologism. This is Very Fucked Up and it is Not Okay. Just because DC seems to think it is okay and the majority of the fandom brushes past it, it does NOT MEAN that it is not abuse apologism.

I am not blaming Damian for any of this. No one has ever bothered to explain to him that his actions are wrong or explain why they are wrong. However, that does not absolve him of responsibility. Responsibility is not the same thing as blame. In this case, responsibility means an actual, genuine apology on Damian’s part. Responsibility means acknowledging it was wrong of him to abuse Tim, it means an actual change in behavior going forward, and, specifically for Damian, it probably includes therapy. 

Abuse apologism is not okay. I need people to understand that Damian was abusing Tim. There is no excusing or sugarcoating it. Damian. Abused. Tim. I need people to understand that. Yes, Damian can accept responsibility (and the ADULTS- Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick- need to accept the blame) but that does not change the fact that in the beginning, He Abused Tim. Yes, Damian can (and should) make a change, and that change should be reflected in his characterization, but if one were to write him in the BEGINNING he would still be abusing Tim. I am not demonizing him by writing this. This is not me bashing on the character. This is me defining his canonical behavior. This is me telling you all that Damian was entitled and spoiled and rude and cruel and ABUSIVE.

I need you to understand this.

reading teen titans 2003 fills me with unimaginable rage and i can’t articulate it but i feel like all the characters are just slightly… off. especially coming from YJ 1998. and i just??? it fills me with such RAGE. like towards the characters.

wdym cassie thought that tim was “on a trip with batman”??? huh??? was that not his RR year? year hell? huh??????? and bart is so serious. bsfr. that is not bart. and conner is just- ugh.

what the fuck even was teen titans 2003. and then damian shows up and its weird???

for some reason everyone is an asshole like- i’m fine with jason and i KNOW what happens when he returns. but watching it play out? he is a BASTARD. kill him. kill him with fire.

and i forgot how much of a BRAT damian was. wdym this is robin? light and joy and comfort? that is not robin. that is an assassin in a vigilante’s suit who thinks he’s entitled to things he is not, in fact, entitled to. why is he even at titan’s tower? he does not belong there. he does not- he- i- blegh. (he shouldnt even be robin but that’s an essay for another time)

and tim and damian interacting! what. damian is both too rude and too nice and its WEIRD. bc at this point was damian not still literally verbally abusing tim? (it was abuse. there is no other descriptor. they weren’t getting into fights, damian was abusing tim verbally and at one point physically. genuinely if you think damian’s general behavior was excusable at all do not interact with me because that is straight up abuse apologism and i will NOT-)

i just- i-

what. what was that?

i dont know the general opinion of it. but i just. it fills me with anger. everyone is weird and icky and ever so slightly ooc (everyone from yj 1998 at least.)

uh huh. I'm delusional. and we definitely did NOT read the same comics. because that was indeed abuse. that was verbal abuse.

damian took every oppurtunity he had to insult and demean tim. he did this specifically to tim, with the intention of causing him harm. that is abuse.

(please note that I am talking about Early Damian. like, when he first arrived at the manor. he character developed After This. this is even pre-damian-becoming-Robin.)

Damian Abused Tim and None of Yall are Talking About It

First of all, let’s define an abusive relationship. Okay? “Abuse” is not characterized by- say it with me now- age, gender, strength/size or otherwise more “common” depictions of an abusive relationship. “Abuse” is characterized by a- say it with me now- POWER IMBALANCE. Got it? Good.

Now, let’s examine Damian and Tim’s relationship to see if there’s a power imbalance with one simple question. Do they both have the power to redefine this relationship? In the case of Tim and Damian, the answer is no. An immediate follow-up to this question should be: who has the power to redefine the relationship? The answer is the more powerful side of the power imbalance, or, more often than not, the abuser. In the case of Tim and Damian, Damian is the one with the power to redefine the relationship. 

Why? Because a), both Tim and Damian’s adults (Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick) are unwilling to balance the relationship (giving them both consequences for cruelty, no favoritism, etc.), b), Damian does not accept anything Tim says- if Tim is polite, he’s being patronizing/condescending and it’s his fault, if Tim’s rude he’s being cruel/unfair and it’s his fault, if Tim’s indifferent he’s being cold/unfair and it’s his fault- as a genuine effort on Tim’s part, meaning only Damian has the power to change their dynamic.

Just because Damian is younger than Tim does not mean that Damian is incapable of being abusive towards Tim. It reminds me of a dynamic in which the “softer” one, e.g. a wife or in this case, a younger sibling, is abusing the “tougher” one, e.g. a husband or an older sibling, and the victim of the abusive is not believed because the “softer” one obviously can’t be an abuser. By excusing Damian’s actions you are practicing abuse apologism. This is Very Fucked Up and it is Not Okay. Just because DC seems to think it is okay and the majority of the fandom brushes past it, it does NOT MEAN that it is not abuse apologism.

I am not blaming Damian for any of this. No one has ever bothered to explain to him that his actions are wrong or explain why they are wrong. However, that does not absolve him of responsibility. Responsibility is not the same thing as blame. In this case, responsibility means an actual, genuine apology on Damian’s part. Responsibility means acknowledging it was wrong of him to abuse Tim, it means an actual change in behavior going forward, and, specifically for Damian, it probably includes therapy. 

Abuse apologism is not okay. I need people to understand that Damian was abusing Tim. There is no excusing or sugarcoating it. Damian. Abused. Tim. I need people to understand that. Yes, Damian can accept responsibility (and the ADULTS- Bruce, Alfred, maybe Dick- need to accept the blame) but that does not change the fact that in the beginning, He Abused Tim. Yes, Damian can (and should) make a change, and that change should be reflected in his characterization, but if one were to write him in the BEGINNING he would still be abusing Tim. I am not demonizing him by writing this. This is not me bashing on the character. This is me defining his canonical behavior. This is me telling you all that Damian was entitled and spoiled and rude and cruel and ABUSIVE.

I need you to understand this.

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had art block so i doodled my favorite OC

meet Anesidora Payne!

i love this addition so fucking much. because yeah. tim knows, objectively, that the batfam must hold some affection for him. he knows, objectively, that they are kind enough to tell him if he was ever unwanted. but he can’t understand it. he thinks that they “love” him and want him because he makes himself useful. he has to be useful, because if he isn’t useful, what is he? who is he? not tim drake, the boy he got everything he ever had by performing a function. the boy who made himself as useful as possible, as efficient as possible, so that he has a worth. so that he has value.

tim drake got everything he ever had by sinking his teeth into it and never letting go. he got everything he had by latching on tight, like a parasite, and pretending it was a symbiotic relationship until he made it become one.

hey. hi. so.

might be a little obsessed with Tim Drake. this is not new. what is new, however, is the idea of timothy jackson drake being raised as a shield.

you know how some children are raised as weapons? that sucks. but weapons have a use. they're sharp, they're dangerous. sometimes they're respected in some capacity. some people have emotional attachments to their weapons. a weapon is valued for the threat that it is simply by being. a weapon is valued for the damage it can do. and that sucks. but a weapon is valued, pretty much automatically, because a weapon has a purpose.

but shields? their entire purpose is someone else. a shield is worthless without someone to shield. a shield is used until it breaks, and then it's immediately replaced. a shield is valued as long as it's stable, as long as it takes the hits meant for someone else. a shield is valued until it takes too many hits and it breaks. no one will repair that broken shield. it's never going to be as stable as it used to be. better to just get a new one.

anyways. tim drake is a shield, not a sword. at first he was shielding his parents reputation. then he was shielding Batman, both his reputation and his health- mental and physical. and he never stopped. he spent a year with the league of assassins to protect batman. to rescue him.

and when he gets back from that year? he's shielding Bruce by taking the brunt of work at WE.

to conclude: tim was raised as a shield instead of a child and i can't stop thinking about it.

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