Sharing The Wealth

I think I'll use this line. It is a groaner but still a good one.

This is just plain good relationship advice regardless of certain words/lables.

10 ways to worship your Master

1.       Always kiss His cock after he’s fucked you or let you suck him off … tell him how wonderful his cock tastes/feels/looks, and how much you love it. … and say “Thank You Master”

2.       Be kind – it’s not all about rules, or play, sometimes take the time to watch him, get a sense of His mood, is He stressy? Is he tired? Try to be in tune with what He needs, and when you can make His life - better do so.  You can do lots of nice things – simple acts of kindness and goodness, bake a cake, litter the house with scribbled post it notes hidden in cupboards, in His wallet, in His favourite girlie mag or on the bathroom mirror. If he’s ill make him soup, bring him warm drinks before he needs to ask, bring Him a cushion if he’s been sat to long hunched over a laptop.  

3.       Be proud to be His. Stand for what you believe in. Call Him Master in public/ with vanilla friends – maybe not constantly, but when it matters. If you’re asked to go somewhere – say “I’ll ask my Master”. Your friends may think you’re jesting, but by the time they realise you aren’t you’ll probably find they’re pretty accepting.  Mine were. I always deferred on important decisions and asked them to ask Him. Every time you’re honest about your relationship it reaffirms the dynamic.

4.       Pay attention to what He likes – forget anything, but remember what matters to Him, His core values, his worries, His preferences, His favourite smells, foods, colours, fabrics etc.

5.       Don’t try to be an expert on His interests though.  I’m starting to realise that actually me and my Master are different. He is logical, and has a scientific, mathematical, right-brained man’s mind. I on the other hand, am typically left brained and artistic. I do not understand what He is talking about when he talks about physics. But it doesn’t matter – I enjoy listening to Him talking passionately about something. I don’t need to understand all of it, or how it works.  People so oftenly mistake showing interest with debating or firing inquisitory questions at the other person. It’s actually really nice that we are different – it balances us perfectly. I don’t try to outsmart Him on His topics or question Him.  I wondered if this might actually be a problem of where the bimbo-ideal and living it would give rise to a conflict of desires he might have, but He doesn’t need or expect me to understand.

6.       Learn role-appropriate-skills to make His life wonderful.  Being submissive is a discipline. It’s kind of like being a geisha. It is about (particularly for doll-types) aspiring to perfection. So presentation is everything – perfect self presentation, perfect home, perfect meals. Learn everything you can about home care – cleaning tips- cooking skill- sexual skills- beauty tips- massage tips- exercise facts-and do everything with grace and skill. Practice speaking nicely, moving elegantly and learn how to hold yourself and at what angles you look best. Learn to communicate effectively and appealingly – find out if He wants you to be explicit , or more subtle, to communicate using specific words or sometimes in your tone, your eye contact and body language, and learn to listen , active listening makes for better relationships. Take time to process his questions before responding.  It is nice to be unquestioning and the ideal of submission is surrender as an absolute not a semi-version but as a relationship its really important to comprehend what is being communicated to you , so even if you fully plan to agree – pause and absorb before moving on.

7.       Be useful to Him. In public do whatever He needs. Be His personal cheerleader, or right hand woman, his rock and confidente. Laugh at jokes you don’t understand. Don’t criticize Him even as part of general hen-crowd-man-baiting. Be near enough to him that you are by His side, but let him shine – don’t cling to Him and be in the way, be devoted and patient, serene and poised.  It’s ok to be a private performer and to put on a show when He tells you. But be what He needs when He needs it and understand that what is expected or desired may change based on environment.

8.       Make His life easier. He may get final say on things but don’t ask Him about everything, it can be exhaustive. Like home furnishings. I have pretty much always had the D/s M/s dynamic in all my adult relationships . Never, have I met a Master, or man for that matter that particularly cares about curtains.  From what I understand generally the topic is boring and you only make a pest of yourself running to Him with catalogues of fabric. If you know what colours He likes narrow it to maybe 3 options you think He will like. The same applies on other things that he finds dull or laborious – i.e. food shopping, anything He may need for health or self care.

9.       Tell Him things that you appreciate about what He does for you i.e.  patience, promoting your confidence, learn to see the things that go beyond “kink” (I hate that word so much).

10.   Believe in him. Trust him… believe in His dreams even if you don’t understand them…do everything you can to help him flourish towards his own happiness… offer to promote his restaurant, offer to help Him gift shop for children/women/relatives in his life, offer to promote his craft or art through social media, offer anything that you think is of service or benefit to Him. 

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I think about this kind of thing a lot. Put on something nice. I'm taking you out tonight. I promise you will have a good time.

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The Female Pavlovian Response

When dealing with animals, short, memorable commands such as “sit,” “stay,” and “come” are always best.

Do your traditional girl the same favour.  Instead of saying “come sit down next to me and relax,” try patting the seat next to you while saying, “sit.”

You’d be surprised how easily she complies.

-VIS

Do any of you remember the modern movie version of "The Taming of the Shrew"?

Thy husband is thy lord, thy life, thy keeper, Thy head, thy sovereign; one that cares for thee, And for thy maintenance commits his body To painful labour both by sea and land, To watch the night in storms, the day in cold, Whilst thou liest warm at home, secure and safe; And craves no other tribute at thy hands But love, fair looks, and true obedience- Too little payment for so great a debt.

  (The Taming of the Shrew; Katherine’s Final Speech: Act 5, Scene 2) 

Being a social airhead

I said a few times recently that people around me, other than at work, considered me an airhead. Well even at work even if I’m considered as very efficient and knowledgeable in my field of work, I pass sometimes for an airhead especially with people that don’t work directly with me. Work is the part where the looks give the first impression.

Being a social airhead took me quite some time to master, it’s not something you can do in one day. It took me about two years to get to the point where I can even say acting (being) an airhead has almost become a safe place for me. It hasn’t really changed over time the way I do it, but I just fall in character very fast right now and yes sometimes it’s hard to get back to be smart.

In a social context looks and attitude can be a very efficient way to have someone consider you as an airhead. In general being blonde is a good start but to dress rather sexy gives a big plus. People will assume, most of them, that you are dumb. Then you just need to adjust the attitude a bit and there you go. That’s even easier when people around you ask you questions, by being vague you’ll give out the airhead impression to the people you are interacting with. Here are a few examples

People ask you about politics

A : Politics is so complicated (with an eye roll or a giggle)

They will assume you don’t understand anything about politics, but when you really think about it, politics is a very complicated subject if you want to discuss it in depth.

People ask you about travelling

A : OMG it’s so much fun, I love going to the beach (saying it very excited and bubbly)

People will assume you just like to party and wear bikinis. Even though you know you love hiking too, visiting museums, etc… By skiping the full subject people assume you’re an airhead.

People ask you about fashion

A : ‘start talking very fast’ about shoes, accessories, you favotire designers, etc…

People assume it’s your main interest and you’re a bit superficial.

People ask you about your love life

A : My fiancée is so great, I love him so much, etc… and add some details about sex life.

Then they completely assume your a bimbo.

General discussion

(ALWAYS answer the first thing that comes up in your mind, maybe add a little “ummm” before answering like you’re thinking really hard)

As I said it’s probably the same thing an actor does when they get into character, it usually takes me a bit of time to adjust to “play” airhead. With practice the time has dramatically reduced. To get into it, it takes me about 30 minutes… then I go deeper and deeper into my airhead space which I now call my “safe happy place”. For me it’s where all the worries vanish, where I’m just enjoying life in it’s purerest form. Not thinking about work or anything serious, no need to focus anymore, being very confused about simple discussions. It’s a very comfortable place to be. The only drawback about this, the longer I am in that “space” the longer it takes to come back up to normal. If I spend a weekend in that space it’ll take me a few hours to go back to being “normal”. A week, took me about a day and it was very hard I had to focus.

Do I have a trigger, not really, it just happens with the social context I’m in. If we go clubbing then I do drop into that space instantly. Sometimes Daddy asks me to go in that space, then it takes a bit more time. But there’s no trigger, I go in and out as I please usually.

One important thing, even if people sometimes call me dumb in my face I take it as a compliment. To me being dumb isn’t bad, it’s having less worries and being happy. Dumb = happy and I want to be happy in life.

Yes I’ll say it again I do really love using my brain and my job as well. I wouldn’t let go any of this except for maybe one thing. But I love my career at this point and I hope to climb the corporate ladder quite fast. Being very competitive helps a lot

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Life goals!

Things that happened after I became a stay at home wife

1. I rediscovered my beauty. Suddenly I had time to take care of myself. No longer I had eye bags, I could exercise, do my nails, put on face masks. All of this may seem trivial but I was so tired and unhappy with my job and the travel time. I was this beaten up shell of myself just going through life without any care of what may happen to me. I have now time to love me and make me feel beautiful, I act beautiful.

2. My relationship with my husband is stronger now. Nothing says “I trust you” more than just let him take care of me and be my provider and now he is so much more protective and loving. He has always being those things and yet he managed to give more. I learned that when a man feels your trust and how you believe in him, he can not help but cherish you and treasure you, and I can never get tired of that.

3. He is doing so much better at his job and in his life. He gets home now only to rest, no more shared house chores. I remember him every day how great he is and that confidence goes with him everywhere, he had never been this strong and self assured and I cannot help it, I love him more for it. He loves my cooking and he gets it every day, if he’s tired I no longer drop dead next to him in bed, I make him some tea, I give him a massage. We have time to have sex, I want now to have sex (remember, I feel beautiful).

4. I have time to pursue my hobbies. I started this blog, I write poetry, I exercise, I cook new recipes, I’m learning how to sew. I started college again too, even though I’m taking it easy. Since there’s no need for me to work, I study just because it brings me joy, and there’s no need  to rush. I’ll get my degree but my priority is just to be happy. (He has to repeat this in exam season every time though, sadly stress can get a little hard to manage).

I know the most important part of my life, and the reason that we both are so happy is because we deeply love each other, not that I’m homemaker. We would be happy even if something bad happened and I had to go out to work again. There are also woman who find their job meaningful and I will not tell any of them to give it up.

However, if there’s a woman out there who can be at home, who wants to be at home but still is not sure about, talk about it with their partner, most man also want this. Life’s too short to not be happy.

How often do your nail's color coordinate with your wine? LOL