Aroace Culture Is Seeing People Talk About How Hot Your Favourite Character Is, And Feeling Deeply Uncomfortable.

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a few things that will now cause Jason extreme fear:

exercise

fear

loud noises

bright lights

fear

high temperatures

threats

low temperatures

being excited

sex

anxiety

stress

F E A R

and here's a fun fact: adrenaline actually causes the memory-making bits of your brain to be stronger, which means you have a clearer memory of exactly what happened to make you afraid

his pouty face lmao

Oh. My. God.

(to the person who made this mod, thank you for your service🙏)

So Damian and Jon spend over sixteen years together. Jon calls him “Dame” which means wife. Jon and Damian practically live there. Jon calls him honey. They are raising a child. Damian has a slightly offhanded joke that has sexual implications towards Jon. They fight constantly over nothing. Damian is a stressed asain mom to Jon’s deadbeat dad. The writers have to actively make them seem more like family because THEY ARE AWARE of it’s my two dad implications. They infer that they are together throughout the multiverse and that they will always share their life with the other. AND to top it all off they implied that they weren’t straight and had this offly intimate and romantic line to the other.

I feel a connection to jason todd’s character because I understand what it means to have all this anger stored inside you that stems from love. from wanting love. I think all hurt children do.

yes, it feeds and grows from your vulnerability and insecurity, its planted from the seeds of never having been given a consistently supportive community during the formative years of your life. and so now, you don’t know how to trust any form or expression of love even the slightest bit different from your own. it’s never trustworthy. you’ve never been able to rely on anyone’s feelings except your own.

you love so intrinsically. every connection you’ve made leaving a lasting mark on your soul. yet you can’t see evidence of your existence leaving the same mark on others. so you get angry. and you try to hold on to that hate born from love. your love is bright and blazing and passionate and slowly dying from a lack of fuel.

but what makes you the angriest is that you still love every single one of those people; the people who have left you, disappointed you, or abandoned you and yet the only thing you seem to want, to need is for them to still love you too. despite it all.

through the anger and hate and dreaded indifference, the only thing plaguing your mind is why you can never seem to make the people in your life who’ve told you they love you stay.

dick, giving the family a pep talk: everything you lose is a step you take

the family, nodding in agreement:

jason:

jason: hang on. wait a sec. did you just... quote taylor swift?

dick: ......what? no. no.

jason: no. no, you definitely did. that's taylor swift.

dick: it's not–... i didn't–

barbara: how do you know enough taylor swift to be able to quote her in your speeches?

dick, panicking: *points at jason* well how does he know enough taylor swift to be able to notice that i'm quoting taylor swift?

jason, on his way out: my lawyers will be in contact

tim, quietly: he doesn't even have a lawyer

Anyone else with this aroace experience?

I know the aroace community is not a monolith. I know we all have very diverse experiences. But I was thinking about how so many aroace folks had the "I think I'm bi or pan" moment because they felt the same/nothing for all genders.

I had the "I think I'm bi" moment too. But for me it was because I DID feel something for different genders. I felt incredibly strong tertiary attraction to boys and girls (this was 10 years ago and I was queer-sheltered so I had yet to meet an out nonbinary person), and bi felt like the right descriptor. I didn't have to "fake" crushes like so many aroaces. I just confused my squishes for crushes and blended in.

Even after I realized I'm aromantic asexual, bi still feels part of my identity. I relate to a lot of the bi experience. I feel strongly for several different genders, but I'm attracted to them differently. The way I'm attracted to guys is totally different than how I'm attracted to girls and nonbinary folks.

This is why the term "bi-oriented aroace" means so much to me. It describes my experiences with tertiary attraction perfectly.

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