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Purity culture has a way of getting into fandom spaces with a strength that's genuinely concerning. Especially in these times we're living, where our very own existences are being threatened by powerful people creating laws based on conservativism and puritanism.

I find it ironic (and very telling) that we're so ready to clutch our pearls when it comes to sexual content, but not anything else.

Dead Boy Detectives fandom, I'm talking to you.

Why are we so scandalized by the mere mention of sex? By people writing or creating sexually explicit art? Why do we think that younger fans of the show are not ready to hear simple words describing sexual activities in a neutral way, or discuss sensitive subjects such as sex related activities?

When I see people being censored or criticized under this "protect the children" rhetoric, I ask myself:

How were these the same fans who watched an entire show which main themes are hate crimes, queer subjects, violence and death, and that also heavily presents sexual assault, family annihilation, colorful and frequent curse words and many more real life, serious elements?

If you are a fan of this show and you were able to understand and connect with even a portion of its canonical content, then I'd assume that you're ready to have a conversation about it, or watch others talk about it. And yet I continue to see people wanting to keep others from conversations that are not any more explicit or sexual or serious in nature than what we see in the show.

Do not lie to yourselves, are we really concerned about other people's safety? Or are we performing some form of shallow wanna-be activism?

Are we celebrating a (cancelled) queer show, or deciding that some queer experiences are more appropriate than others?

See the way our fandom trends reflect what's happening in our very real lives. Do not protect the fake values of conservatism, they want all of us just as equally silent (or dead).

i also think it’s so sad the way even the queer community upholds top/bottom, inferior/superior dichotomies because it genuinely interferes with people discovering and accepting their own identities. i have spoken with so many bottoms & pillow princesses who realized they were gay and then they expected sex to be enjoyable now that they were engaging in sex aligned with their sexuality, only to find they still felt uncomfortable during sex and they were like “maybe I’m not gay….” and when i asked about their experiences it turned out that they simply do not enjoy topping and when i told them “okay, so don’t top,” they were shocked by that because we apply moral value to giving and receiving acts of sex, in which givers are Generous and Good and receivers as Selfish and Bad.

Not to mention that bottoming IS still giving & providing a sexual act, which is enjoyed by the person topping. not everyone has to be a vers! There is no superior way to engage in sex!

deeply unlikeable and unpleasant female characters are actually so important for the ecosystem and also as a good litmus test over if a person is Weird about women or not

I'm maybe remembering to post this on the last day of the month, but here is an interesting fact about DC Comics for Jewish history month:

Harley Quinn canonically has a relative that was at the Holocaust.

When she accidentally came back to the past and came across Nazis, she recalled her and was filled with anger about her story on took that on the Nazis.

She kicked Nazis ass's to avenge her aunt (and also because they were Nazis and she hates them).

I just realized the girls vs boys ratio in the arrowfamily and I'm in shock-

Girls:

Dinah

Emiko

Sienna

Lian

Mia

Cissie

Jade (yes she counts).

+ Artemis in young justice. She's also very popular arrowfamily character.

I think Sin also counts as arrowfamily but I'm not sure.

So 7-9 girls depends on how you count.

Boys:

Oliver

Roy

Connor

And that's it???

I'm currently hyperfocusing on Lian so I started to think about the arrowfamily and I realized it.

That's so different from the batfamily where the female characters often don't get enough attention and are treated horribly.

Can people stop making Damian homophobic just because he's the "brat" child?

His best friends are bi and ace his aunt is a lesbian and his adopted brother is also bi. Some of the people Damian loves the most are LGBTQIA.

Damian was such a good ally to Jon during DC pride 2022- he was ready to fight homophobes in the parade! Mostly because he wanted to fight in general but still he was ready to kick homophobic asses. Very ally of him if you ask me.

Stop with the homophobic Damian jokes, if anything Damian would dislike everyone equally and not because of who they are.

In my eyes this take on him is a very poor understanding of Damian's character.

Edit: It might be just me but I saw "jokes" that made Damian homophobic, especially towards Tim, and it just makes me irrationally mad.

Edit 2: sorry to the arrow fam fans for mentioning Connor, I know the 2021 is a poor interpretation of him and not very in character. It's still canon, and the pride issue was nice.

Unfortunately I will not be able to finish the payneland fic I wanted on time to publish it on my birthday, however I will publish a snippet for now!

It's a fencing fic, because I'm a fencer Edwin truther, and the boys 100% fence as a game between them so my fic is based about that. Edwin tries to suggest fencing to talk about things and resolve the awkwardness that started between them after the love confession. It's not very long after Port Townsend.

I'm going to try to continue working on it to finish it on time but I'm at a bar on the beach that has loud distracting music to celebrate my birthday, I can't make any promises. However I will publish it tomorrow. Here is the snippet for now!

Charles was sitting on the desk, his legs on the chair, staring vacantly out of a window for the past few hours.

Edwin, who was reading a book on the sofa, eventually had enough of this new awkward distance between them and snapped, deciding he was going to do something about it, shake Charles out of it in any way he could.

.......

He tossed Charles his foil- a golden one with a left handed handle. Edwin’s foil was silver, matching Charles’ set. “Pick it up, we are going to fence.” He declared.

“What?” Charles looks up, shaking off from his thoughts and turned to his best friend, blinking surprised.

“I said, pick it up, we are going to fence. Frankly, I've had enough of your distant behaviour recently and I cannot let it pass any second longer. You cannot fool me, Charles Rowland, I know you, and after Port Townsend you have never made the return quite to your senses yet. So we are going to fence, and we are going to talk, in the way we do things. Because clearly something has gone wrong with you recently you refuse to let me in about.”

“Mate, there is nothing wro-” Charles started making himself force out a laugh in defence, but Edwin cut him.

“I have simply confessed to being in love, Charles, I have not been turned into a fool in all that regards you. I have known you for over 30 years, Charles Rowland, and I can tell when things are wrong. Yet you don’t come to me, although you are clearly bothered by me. Sometimes, I have to wonder if you still consider us best friends after all-” his voice break, trailing off.

“What? Mate, of course you are-” Charles rushed to defend against Edwin's words.

“Then talk with me, Charles. Fence with me, like we used to. Because I miss having my best friend around, and I don’t know what to think of you recently. Talk to me, please.” Edwin moves Charles’ foil on the desk closer to him, offering it to him again.

Charles took a few moments of thinking in silence before he responded again. They could fence, he supposes, he did miss them too, but- “Look, Edwin, mate, I don’t want to fight you- You are still pretty banged up from Esther’s house.” Not a lie, they both still had some traces of their iron burns. Esther’s house was still relatively fresh- they tried to bury it but the events of Port Townsend only took place twelve days ago.

Unfortunately, iron burns take an annoying amount of time to heal. Although not as bad now, slight traces of their burns still left.

They have been taking cases slower because of it, working on easy ones to start. Both of them acting more out of concern for the other than actually to themselves.

“Oh, you assume you would be able to get close to me?” Edwin teased arching his brow and Charles bit his lips, cheeks flushing slightly. Bollocks. Okay, his self confidence was hot-

Seeing him announcing it cockily and sure of himself like that ignited a fond and playful spark in Charles- he liked his overconfidence.

“I assure you, even in my lesser state I can still, as I believe they say today, ‘kick your ass’. You, on the other hand, have been shutting off from me for weeks, and I simply will not sit here and allow our friendship to continue suffering any longer. So please, fence with me again. Challenge me, if you will.”

“Edwin-” Charles gruntle sighing pretending to be rolling his eyes in decline, then he quickly picks up his foil going out to a surprise attack, a spark of mischief igniting back in him.

Adrenaline was flooding his ghost veins, in a good way-

He loved this. This was them. It just felt right.

Edit: fic posted! It's the most recent post below the pinned one on my blog!

WTF.

WTF WTF WTF.

THIS SHOW CANNOT BE CANCELLED.

IT HAS BECOME MY LIFE THIS LAST FEW MONTHS.

NETFLIX I SM GOING TO CHOP OFF SOME HEADS.

WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF?????????

BUT THE SIGNS.

THERE WERE SO MANY SIGNS.

WHAT???????

"Me? Oh yeah I'm lesbian I'm sure of that-"

* Jayden Revri as Charles Rowland comes in to my life *

...... Guess I'm bi spec.

(Fuck you Charles Rowland. Thanks for this mess again).

I don't usually do this but if you read webtoons please go read Tripp. It's on Webtoon website (unfortunately it's not updated on tapas) and it's criminally underrated!

It deserves way more love and affection.

The main character is enby! That's something rare to see.

It's about space it's fun and it's queer. The characters are really lovable the moment you get to know them, I really recommend.