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sometimes you need dialogue tags and don't want to use the same four
At the risk of sounding anti-intellectual, I think that college should be free and also not a requirement for employment outside of highly specialized career fields
Websites for Japanese Learners
! click on website name to be redirected !
all websites can be used for free and without subscribtion (thats why japanese101 isnt included)
-> apps for japanese learners (soon)
1. JLPT Sensei
study guides (N5-N1)
includes grammar, kanji, vocabular, adjective, verb and other lists for orientation when studying
free JLPT practice tests
2. Japanese Verb Conjugator
automatic verb conjugator
verb database
kanji database & kanji tester
over 180,000 example sentences with sound
3. Tanoshii Japanese
japanese-english dictionary (with stroke order!)
pratice games & interactive lessons (Kanji Mahjong etc.)
learning resources (japanese novel, textbook, magazine, movie recommendations)
4. Jisho
fast and smart japanese-english dictionary
draw and radical function apart from keyboard search
searching by topic and categories by adding #[topic/category]
JLPT levels, sentences, particles, counters, names included
5. Map Quiz
world map quiz in japanese
divided into continents and north, east, south and west
6. Japanesetests4you
free JLPT N5-N1 reading and listening tests
free JLPT N5-N1 vocabulary, kanji and grammar lists + tests
7. Shiritori Online
Shiritori (しりとり) is a popular japanese word game and is ideal to exercise vocabulary for japanese learners. 2 or more players take turns saying a word that starts with the last kana of the previous word. The game ends when someone answers with a word ending with -n (ん) because there are no words starting with ん.
it is up to the players whether all forms of a hiragana (kana and its diacritics; は,ば and ぱ etc.) are allowed or not (e.g やぎ -> きよう).
example: りんご (apple) -> ごりら (ゴリラ) (gorilla) -> らーめん (ラーメン) (ramen). The last person who said ramen loses because the word ends with -n (ん). Instead the person could have saidらま (ラマ) (llama) (e.g).
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Tarot Inspired Journal Prompts
Fool: what is something new you are doing or want to do?
Magician: what is a magical way to enhance my day? Or, how can I be more like the magician?
High Priestess: what are my thoughts on divination? What about intuition?
Empress: what part of myself do I want to grow/nurture?
Emperor: what part of my life needs me to take authority? How can I?
High Priest: what are my personal traditions? How is my spirituality unique to me?
Lovers: what relationships mean the most to me?
Chariot: what part of my life needs me to be more combative/ warrior-like?
Strength: what part of my life should I face with courage?
Hermit: what do I need to do alone more often? What do I need to do with others more often?
Wheel of Fortune: what do I think about luck, fate, and/or fortune?
Justice: when do I need to focus on legality vs fairness? Or, What may cause me to seek justice/retribution?
Hanged Man: what have/will I sacrifice for -x-? What am I never willing to sacrifice? What will I easily give up?
Death: what is something personal I want to end or change? What is something that will end or change no matter how I feel? How can I accept it?
Temperence: what part of my life needs more patience? What part needs more balance? How can I achieve both?
Devil: what is a primal desire I have? Should I grant it to myself? Why or why not? How can I get what I want?
Tower: what can I learn from the current or recent chaos/disaster in my life?
Star: what do I hope for? How can I get it?
Moon: what part of my life is best kept private? Why?
Sun: what makes me happy?
Jusgement: what part of me needs reflection? What is a fair assessment of that part?
World: what parts of my life have been fulfilled? What parts are still lacking?
Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with a FP?
Absolutely, yes! This is a list of how I manage that. Keep in mind that everyone is different and if certain things don't work for you, that's completely valid.
Please see this post if you aren't sure what a FP is.
One of the first things is that even though it may be uncomfortable, diversify your relationships! Have different people that you have different similarities with. For example, maybe you really love a certain show, well making friends in the fandom might be a way to have someone to talk to about that interest.
Focus on your own hobbies. It's important to try and find a way to be happy on your own.
Practice your DBT skills. There are so many different skills useful for different situations. Here is a page I am working on of definitions of different skills. If one skill doesn't work for you, please don't give up on DBT skills. I've tried a lot of different skills, and a lot of them don't work for me but some work really well.
Focus on keeping the relationship mutual. By this I mean make sure that you’re respecting their boundaries, consent and meeting their needs too (as long this doesn’t infringe on your own. If your needs conflict, that’s a bit more complicated and may require compromise.)
Teach yourself not to rely solely on them. It's important to work on things where you don't feel abandoned when they can't give you their attention. (This is where DBT skills are likely to come in handy.)
Work on your self-soothing. If your brain spirals that they don't care, work on curbing impulses associated with that(hint check out my urge surfing post here). Don't send them messages like "clearly you don't care!" Here are some tips for self-soothing that I've written about in the past.
Communicate directly. Don't hint at things. This can be exhausting, and frustrating to the other person. I know we feel awkward asking for things, but trust me that from being on the other end of this as well, I feel so much better if someone asks me directly.
Make sure your expectations are realistic. If you find your expectations are not being met, rather than getting angry at your FP try and step back and see if your expectations are realistic. If you determine they are, try and proceed with communicating with your FP when you're feeling calm.
Be willing to apologize and admit when you're wrong. This goes without saying, but people mess up. People make mistakes. And you aren't bad if that happens. But it's important to be able to acknowledge that and apologize to the other person without excuses.
This is not an exhaustive list by any means, but I hope this helps!
I was talking to my therapist about some anxiety symptoms --- "In my mind, I know I'm going to be perfectly okay, but my body doesn't listen and reacts anyway" --- and she recommended TIPP as strategies to keep in my toolbox of dealing with distress in the moment. I really appreciate having more than one option to try in moments of overwhelm!
Transcription below:
If you're feeling overwhelmed by anxiety or other strong emotions, TIPP is a set of techniques that use the body's natural physical responses to bring you back into balance.
TIPP stands for
temperature
intense exercise
paced breathing
progressive muscle relaxation
Temperature:
The body naturally lowers its heart rate in response to cold. If anxiety is making your heart race, try an ice pack, a cool washcloth, or a walk outside in cool weather, and it should help you calm down.
Intense exercise:
Anxiety is typically a symptom of your body going into fight/flight mode. If your body is coursing with nervous energy, burn it off with 10 minutes of jumping jacks, dancing, climbing stairs, or another cardio activity to complete the stress response cycle.
Paced breathing:
Deep, slow breathing from the belly can also help signal the body to come out of fight/flight mode. Try inhaling for a count of four and exhaling for a count of six until you feel more relaxed. (I like to hold the breath for a count of two between each inhale and exhale.)
Progressive muscle relaxation:
If anxiety makes your body tense up, try this. Start by squeezing the muscles in your toes and feet for five seconds, and then intentionally relax them. Move up to the calves, up your legs, and every region of your body to purposefully let go of extra energy.
When you're feeling overwhelmed, try one or more of these to see what works for you.
Honorific verbs
These are special verbs to describe the actions of people you respect. Here i will write the verb table as:
Verb = honorific verb (with the irregular conjugation if needed)
行く・いる・来る＝いらっしゃる (Irregular form= いらっしゃいます)
食べる・飲む＝召し上がる ー めしあがる
くれる＝くださる （Irregular form= くださいます）
する＝なさる （Irregular form= なさいます）
寝る＝お休みなる
みる＝ご覧になる ー ごらんになる
言う＝おっしゃる （Irregular form= おっしゃいます）
ーている＝ ーていらっしゃる （Irregular form= ーていらっしゃいます）
It’s important to note that this replacement applies to all compound verbs such as 勉強する＝勉強なさる
Because these are honorific verbs to show respect, you shouldn’t use them to describe yourself. Instead they may be used for a teacher or someone you do not know very well.
Some activities do not have specific honorific verbs, so instead we use either:
1) Using ていらっしゃいます instead of ています if the sentence uses ている。
Example- 先生は電話で話していらっしゃいます= the professor is talking on the phone.
2) Using お+ verb stem +になる
先生はもうお帰りになりました= The professor has already gone home
big masterpost of fun things to do this summer
hi :) i like to make a big list of things i want to do each summer, and i thought i’d share all the resources i collected this year with y'all in case you want to do any of these things too <3
learn a new language. 🦜
i’ve collected a bunch of resources for french, korean, and mandarin so i’ll be making separate posts for those languages. but here’s some of my favourite resources - most of them are based off of krashen’s comprehensible input theory which is why they are fun resources:
french: free grammar lessons and quizzes for all levels, watch french tv, read manga in french, a drive full of french books, a bunch of french culture podcasts, a list of french youtubers
korean: anki grammar decks for all levels, super in depth grammar explanations up to advanced level, a bunch of resources, reddit’s ultimate beginner’s thread, read korean webtoon, talk to me in korean
mandarin: a bunch of anki decks, grammar gamified, reading practice, chinese reading world, mandarin bean grammar points
japanese: core 2000 words anki deck, grammar gamified on renshuu
spanish: language transfer for spanish!
learn to draw. 🎨
this is more just a collection of art related resources. hope they help!
proko’s art library, a bunch of sketching and fundamental tutorials
the complete famous artists course
collection of art books and resources
alphonso dunn’s youtube channel
learn guitar. 🎸
i got a guitar last summer on a whim and have been having a really fun time learning it! here’s the main resource i’ve been using.
learn jazz piano. 🎹
similarly jazz piano is something i’ve wanted to get into for a while + improv. this person’s youtube channel is very cool!
write something and put it out into the world! ✍
i love to write and it took me a while to learn how to submit stuff to journals. hope these help you!
a bunch of resources on how to submit to journals
how to submit to literary magazines by doretta lau
publishing 101
chillsubs, an easy way to find journals to submit to
make your own video games. 🎮
by now if you follow me you know i love to make twine games. here are a couple of cool engines you can use for free!
twine, a text based engine
love
renpy or visual novel resources
bitsy
take a free online course. 🧠
coursera has a lot of options, which i really like. i took Yale’s the science of well being a few years ago and it was great!
make your own music or learn how audio software works. 🎵
audionodes is a cool free browser software that lets you do this without downloading anything!
learn about personal finance. 💵
i feel like it’s hard to devote proper time to learning about personal finance so a lot of us rely on learning as we go, but there are some good resources and tools online that are quick and easy when you have 5-30 min to spare!
PBS Two Cents youtube short vids about personal finance
wealthsimple personal finance 101 (short videos. nicholas braun is in them for some reason)
mint - free budgeting and goals software
edspira - more technical side of finance, accounting, etc youtube channel
New hobby: going on Twitter and responding to every doctor or medical/public health organization currently warning moms not to make homemade formula with this:
Give families a legitimate recipe. Their grocery stores are out of stock. Their food banks are out of stock. No pediatrician has enough to feed all their patients for weeks. Give parents an option, or they will find one themselves that you don’t like. Their babies are hungry.
Would anyone be willing to provide a comprehensive list of every day bills? Trying to budget at least theoretically before I leave home but I’m dumb and don’t want to be blind sided
This is an unposted overview of my planner last school year. Four more days, and I will be a 3rd-year college student🤞🏻
how i take pretty and efficient notes ☕️
*disclaimer: what works for me may not work for you! this is just a process i’ve discovered through trial and error*
math / science
if you’re like me and need color in your notes, here’s how i do it:
i write the header of the notes in a colored highlighter - no fancy calligraphy or anything
i use color for things like important symbols on figures or lines on a graph
to save time, i write the whole thing in pen/pencil first and go back and add highlights according to the key i made
i make a basic key i can stick to !! ^
for example, concepts can be highlighted, formulas can be boxed, examples can be underlined, etc.
whenever i go through example problems in my notes, i always write down the steps next to it so i don’t forget
when studying - i always make a small reference sheet where i write all the formulas / conversions / how to do certain processes from memory the day before the test
history
i use the cornell method! if you’re not sure what that is, here’s a link explaining
i also use colors as well:
one basic color for writing my notes in
one color for key concepts or events that come attached with a date
one color for key people / organizations / groups
this is just me because i do my notes digitally and like variety ™, but one color for every separate textbook heading (not to be confused with subheadings)
absolutely do not restate the textbook - try your best to put it into your own words
when studying - i’ve recently got into the habit of making an events timeline so i can easily reference them in dbqs or saqs, and just merely taking notes on the textbook helps me remember some random bits of information
click “keep reading” to see an example picture from my math notes :)
Keep reading
My Digital book library
Hey so I have made a google drive with a bunch of books in it. Right now it is view only, but you should be able to download the books onto your computer. All I ask is don’t “link to” your own google drive cuz then i think it actually moves stuff and I spent a long time setting this up. Thanks.
Link to Drive: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1BTXUPcCniydI1CIT90oNJ75naQVcIDcz?usp=sharing
Link to suggestion list: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1iABw52vkkJAmTkCX-n6KnL3_dBpooI0gYaT9qdit6vg/edit?usp=sharing
link to free pdfs
I’ve been collecting pdfs over the years and I put them all in this google drive folder. I divided them into literature and theory and then by language: english, spanish, basque, italian, portuguese, turkish, russian and french.
anarchism | black people & liberation | capitalism | colonialism (& gender) | disability | economics | education, pedagogy | feminism (& marxism, womanism) | health, eating disorders, fat studies | history, biography | imperialism | incarceration | judaism | leftism, antifascism | lgbt, sexuality, gender | linguistics | marxian economics | marxism | mlm/maoism | palestine & israel | philosophy, sociology | postcolonialism | psychiatry | psychology | race, racism | translation (& lgbt issues & colonialism) | turkey
last updated: 17 january 2021
Screaming crying because I hate every piracy guide I come across on here.
If you found this post through the "based on your likes feature" you can find my guide here! Reblog that version of the post please.
Language learners 🗣
Lesson: Speaking/Listening
The language tips that I provide are usually in English/Spanish however, you can still apply your target language in the examples below because my language tips are for everyone and all levels. So, let’s end our introduction and start learning! This exercise focuses on your listening skills and helps you add more vocabulary to your vernacular. Remember to speak in your target language the same way you would speak in your native language which is with a strong, confident pronunciation.
The 4 techniques:
Can you understand people who speak in your target language and can they understand you? If you are having difficulties with your listening, speaking, reading, and writing skills then follow this series to master your target language.
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Speaking:
Confidence is key when you are learning a language, and I have noticed that many language learners lack confidence, as a result it affects the way they listen and speak with others. To end this, stop being too harsh on your language progress. You are doing an amazing job and it is quite noble that you are learning a language that is not your native language!
If you are verbally speaking with someone then they can totally understand you! Stop asking people if they can understand you. If someone cannot understand what you are saying then they will tell you. In addition, this could be a protection mechanism because of a lack of self-assurance. Do not allow this bad habit to recycle. You can end this cycle by speaking without thinking about the opinions of others.
Are you purposely sounding like a robot or mumbling? If you are speaking in this way then you look silly. You are attracting more energy towards your cringe speech compared to speaking regular.
Are you actually practicing your speaking skills? There are many people who are upset about their listening and speaking skills but they are not physically working on those skills. Have conversations with people in your native and target language.
If you have a limited vocabulary list then that is okay. You can still practice your speaking skills by reading out loud. If you do not know how to pronounce certain words correctly then learn the alphabet, accent marks, and diphthongs.
If your language partner is selfish and doesn’t allow you to practice your target language or correct your mistakes then find a new language partner, have a conversation with them to declare a common ground, or keep them as a friend and not a language partner. You are in charge of your life and you need to take charge of what is beneficial for you.
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Listening:
Listen to people speak in your target language by either viewing movies, YouTube videos, television shows, commercials, and podcasts. The reason why I said “people” instead of “natives” is due to the individuals who speak your target language without being a native. Those individuals share a plethora of useful information, so give them a chance instead of judging their progression.
You need to practice your listening skills every day or at least a few times out of the week. If you are busy then change your phone’s language to your target language and create flash cards. You must practice your listening skills often in order to prevent listening difficulties.
The overthinking bug that rests in your head can influence you to translate a sentence in your target language word by word. In your native language, you do not do this.
Watch children shows and cartoons. Those shows and YouTube clips will allow you to listen to people speak slower and clearer unlike natives who are representing an older audience.
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Check out these posts!
Language learning master list
How to manifest
Learning a language with a busy schedule
How I am planning on going from A2 to B2 Spanish in 4 months
Month 1
I am going to try and work through a massive textbook that I have (here is the link). I’m going to learn the vocabulary using anki, and do all of the exercises, though I won’t write notes to save time.
After I have finished each chapter, I will have a conversation with my friend in Spanish, and write a page in my journal.
I will also listen to lots of Dreaming Spanish.
Months 2 - 4
I will listen to Dreaming Spanish, Intermediate Spanish Podcast, Notes in Spanish Intermediate, Españolistos and News in Slow Spanish (Spain).
I am going to shadow Easy Spanish videos.
I’ll use LingoPie to watch TV shows and films in Spanish.
I’m going to keep a daily journal in Spanish (which I will post on Journaly).
I’m going to have thrice weekly speaking sessions with my friend.
I’m going to read lots of fanfiction in Spanish.
I will also watch YouTube videos in Spanish.
I’m going to read El Mundo daily.
I’ll try to write an essay once every two weeks.
That’s my plan and I hope it’ll be enough. Wish me luck!
Do you like reading books? Can you suggest books that are easy to read in Spanish for beginners, or some movies?
Hi, of course! I hope some of these recommendations are helpful!
Books:
• Spanish Short Stories For Beginners by Lingo Mastery
• Short Stories In Spanish For Beginners & Spanish Short Stories For Beginners 2 by Olly Richards
• Easy Spanish Reader by William T. Tardy. This book is separated into three sections and the readings in each are followed by comprehension activities.
*All three of the previously mentioned books can be downloaded for free on https://z-lib.org
• This organization’s website has a few great picture books in Spanish that you can download for free. https://www.heifer.org/what-you-can-do/get-involved/schools/home-school-activities/books-and-reading-resources.html
• This website has a handful of great pdfs https://www.spanishplayground.net/spanish-books-for-beginners/
Movies:
• El Laberinto del Fauno (Pan’s Labyrinth) This is available on Netflix and I’d suggest watching movies with subtitles. If you’re able to, there’s a chrome extension you can download called Language Learning with Nextflix where you can have subtitles in both your native & target language
• I also suggest watching any movie you’re familiar with like if you love Disney movies you should find the Spanish version of them
Sorry I don’t have any true movie recs yet! If anyone has any other resources they know of, feel free to add them :)
Collocation anon here! I was referring to phrases that use specific words that just kind of “sound right” to native speakers but they’re different from what we would say. Like “tomar una decisión” instead of “hacer una decisión” when we would say “to make a decision” in English
Ahh okay gotcha
When I hear collocation I think "verbal phrases" or "noun phrases", words that kind of become joined to form a new word or phrase like compound nouns or specific idioms but okay!
I think a lot of times it comes down to people putting their existing grammatical knowledge onto the language they're learning.
It's very common to bring our own knowledge and experiences into learning so it becomes something you have to understand and break or recognize.
I personally struggle with formality because in English "you" is all we have, regardless of formality. When I say "you" I typically use tú as my first instinct because it's taught more than usted
That's sort of what I mean by bringing our frameworks into other languages
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Though I will say "to take a decision" is sometimes used more in British English and in some more formal contexts!
Every so often an odd-sounding literal expression will have a British or older English antecedent... or ancestor is maybe a bit more accurate.
There are times when I'll be hearing something in an English drama and I'm like "ah that makes sense now" connecting something in Spanish.
It's not a collocation but for example aquí is "here" and acá is "here", but acá is a direction word and it could be "over here" or "nearer"... in older English it is understood as "hither" like "come hither" is directly ven acá "come here / come over here"
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I think an earlier more confusing one is llamarse for names.
In English we're so used to "I am" as in soy but you hear me llamo Ana or me llamo Marco for introducing yourself.
It reads as "I call myself" literally
Another big one is when people want to use qué instead of cuál
As in "What's your name?" in Spanish is ¿Cuál es tu nombre? literally "which is your name?" ... not that qué isn't understood, but the implication is that you obviously have a name, so which one is yours?
Same thing with surnames, phone numbers, addresses (and email addresses which are "electronic addresses")
This also (to me) kind of makes more sense in an older feudalistic society. In Catholic societies people tended to take names from the Bible or the names of saints or angels. And not everyone had a last name, so it was like "Which house do you belong to (if any)?" so there's a bit of a historical aspect there too, especially when surnames could be given by place names or cities, or by geographic terms. It got a bit messy.
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People also struggle with reflexives and body parts when it comes to autonomy of body parts
As in me lavo las manos is literally "I wash myself the hands", and that makes sense in most Western languages, even German, that particular construction
In English we say "I wash my hands", we don't often use reflexives like that, so people who are learning reflexives with body parts like "I wash my face", "I shave my legs", "I brush my teeth", "I comb my hair" are very tempted to use the possessives
In Spanish the reflexives mark autonomy already, if it's "I wash myself" or "I shave myself" or "I brush/comb myself" then it couldn't be anyone else's body parts.
You could say something like "I wash her face" but that's a direct object one subject acting on another... not reflexive where the subject and object are the same. In Spanish me lavo la cara is "I wash MYSELF" so I am doing the washing and I am being washed, it's just la cara that's the thing being washed... but in Spanish grammar, your body parts ARE also you, which makes sense
But it's a little confusing for English-speakers because we phrase things differently in our grammar
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The other one that trips people up a lot is gustar in the context of "to like". We say "I like" as if it were a simple verbal construction
In Spanish with the indirect object me gusta(n) comes out as "it pleases me" or "they please me"
Don't even get me started on "I like you" which is me gustas literally "you please me"... and "you like me" te gusto literally "I please you"
That trips a lot of people up and, honestly, same. To me it feels weird and unnatural to phrase it that impersonally because I'm so used to treating it like a direct object in English
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Oh gosh let me think there are a lot, and not just idioms, but I find a lot of the main issues I personally have are prepositions:
enamorarse de alguien = to fall in love with someone [lit. "to fall in love OF someone"]
soñar con algo/alguien = to dream of something/someone [lit. "to dream WITH something/someone"]
parecerse a algo/alguien = to resemble something/someone [lit. "to look like/to appear TO something/someone]
Prepositional verbs are really difficult
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A few could be like special verbal phrases like ponerse or echar(se) when used with actions. The verb ponerse has a lot of uses but it's often "to become" or "to set to", and echar(se) literally reads as "to fling (oneself)"
But for example:
ponerse a llorar = to burst into tears
echar a perder = to waste / to go to waste
For English-speakers we would be tempted to use reventar "to burst", but literally ponerse a llorar is like "to set oneself to crying"
echar a perder comes out a bit weird because it's "to throw to loss", and we'd be tempted to just use the simpler verb forms malgastar "to waste" [lit. "to spend badly"], or desperdiciar "to waste"
echar a perder can also mean "to spoil" or "to ruin", which most English-speakers would take arruinar "to ruin"
Other times echarse comes out in like "to take a nap" or "to lie down" depending on the region, where it seems very literally "to
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Now I will say there are a few verbal phrases that translate a bit differently literally depending on your intention:
1. beber café = to drink coffee
2. tomar café = to drink coffee
Both of these are correct grammatically and linguistically, but in a conversation they come across differently
beber as "to drink" reads as more of the function
tomar as "to drink" [where it literally means "to take"]; if I read tomar café or especially tomar un café I interpret it as "to have a cup of coffee" which can include the idea of relaxation or enjoyment
The same exists with "water", "tea" or any kind of alcohol or shots. It can imply literally "ingesting", but it can and often does imply some kind of enjoyment, usually like private relaxation or public social engagement. There's a bit of an unspokenness in there.
I kind of think of it similar to how comer with food can read as mechanical like "to eat/feed", while comerse with food is often what native speakers use for something you are eating for more than just nutrition. In English we kind of say "to have" for this, like "have some cake" instead of "eat some cake"
tomar also gets used in other contexts where it can be "to take in"
tomar (el) aire = to get some air, to get some fresh air
tomar (el) sol = to sunbathe, to bask in the sun
In these cases, specifically tomar el aire I would say there's a bit more of an emotional component where it's not just "to breathe" like "to take in air"
It's similar to tomar un respiro which is "to take a breath" but it could also come out like "to take a break". If I read tomar el aire I kind of get the impression that someone is either just enjoying some time by themselves, or they're overwhelmed and need a break but it's more of a translation thing I suppose
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The most confusing collocations are the expressions with hacer, tener, and dar because they're so common:
tener hambre = to be hungry
tener sed = to be thirsty
tener X años = to be X years old
tener gracia = (for something) to be funny
tener suerte = to be lucky
tener miedo = to be afraid/scared
tener razón = to be right
tener que (hacer algo) = to have to (do something)
tener calor = to be hot (internal feeling)
tener frío = to be cold (internal feeling)
tener sueño = to be sleepy [lit. "to have sleepiness" where el sueño could be "dream" or "sleepiness" or "drowsiness", and in some cases could be understood as a noun "sleep"]
Especially because tener means "to have", and we interpret ser as "to be". Age is a big confusing one for English-speakers obviously.
But again, older English, tener razón sounds a whole lot like "to have the right of it", though it literally is "to have reason" so you can make some connections here and there
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hacer is probably the most idiomatic of these in that it can be extremely confusing when you're first starting out to see "to do/make" used with weather
hacer calor = to be hot (weather)
hacer frío = to be cold (weather)
hacer viento = to be windy
hacer fresco = to be chilly
hacer sol = to be sunny
Not to mention when hace/hacía can be used as "ago"... like hace dos años que no te veo "it's been two years since I've seen you" / "I haven't seen you for "two years"
Literally that's "two years it makes that I don't see you"
The idea of "ago" trips people up a lot
Also connected is llevar in the context of "to spend time"... llevo muchos años estudiando español "I've been studying Spanish for many years"... Literally "I carry/spend many years studying Spanish"
You could use he estado estudiando español por/durante muchos años but it's a little wordier
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dar can be difficult because it means "to give" but in some cases can be "to strike" or "to hit (against)"
dar pena = to make someone feel bad/ashamed [lit. "to give pain/sorrow/shame"]
dar miedo = to be scary [lit. "to give fear"]
dar asco = to disgust, to repulse [lit. "to cause revulsion"]
dar a luz = to give birth [lit. "to give to light"]
darse prisa = to hurry, to rush [lit. "to give oneself haste/hurry"]
dar las 12 (doce) = "for the clock to strike 12"
If you're reading Cenicienta "Cinderella" al dar las doce is like "at the stroke of midnight"; we have to remember that dar here is likely referring to the action of "hitting" a bell which would ring out the hour. When a clock "strikes" or "chimes", that can be done with dar but we tend not to think of a physical strike
dar en el clavo = "to hit the nail on the head"
darse con alguien = "to run into someone", to meet someone (often by chance), to encounter [lit. "to hit against (with) someone"; it carries a literal meaning like "to run into", and darse con algo might mean "to hit up against" or "to run into (a thing)" often a wall or an obstacle]
dar en el blanco / dar en la diana = to hit the bullseye [lit. el blanco here is not "the white" it means "the target"; and la diana is "a bullseye", most likely related to Diana, goddess of the hunt in Roman mythology; just like in English it could be to literally hit a bullseye like archery, or it could be "to be right" or "to get it right"]
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This one I think does make some sense but nos vemos is often translated in the future tense; it comes out like "see you" or "we'll see each other soon", but literally it's "we see each other"
It can be a bit hard to explain but present tense can be short-term future
Secondly, nos vemos gets translated a bunch of different ways as a default goodbye - "see you", "see you later", "see you soon", "bye" etc. so that also doesn't help
But many languages have this kind of reflexive notion, sort of like Italian arrivederci where literally that ci is an "us/we" marker for reflexives in Italian
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And there are others I could list and probably will when I think of some to put in a list as a reply
Red flags for Love Bombing:
The person doing it is someone you met recently (days, weeks, month ago), or they recently decided they want to get closer to you
They decide that you’re perfect (friend, relationship partner, peer, employee, student) before actually taking the time to get to know you
They talk about you as if you know each other for a long time, and make statements about you as if they’ve known you forever
They talk about plans they have for you; they’d love to be closer, travel together, live together, meet you more often, some will even talk about marriage or some kind of partnership early on even though you’ve only met recently
You get a LOT of positive attention from them, to the point where you don’t feel the need to get positive attention from anyone else, and you end up giving your full attention to them
You feel like this is the person you’ve been waiting for, someone who sees everything good in you, you consider them special and feel flattered and grateful to finally get the attention you lacked for all this time
They always seem to say the perfect things, drop perfect lines you’ve been waiting to hear, to the point where it can sound like a movie or very idealized version of reality
You feel intensely reassured about your worth, your appearance, your value, your actions, your pain, it causes a rapid change in your daily feelings about yourself
You enjoy your new perception of yourself, but it’s completely tied to this one person who created it for you, and you don’t feel special or interesting or important out of that relationship, your identity is now tied to what they feel about you
You get the sense of ‘this feels to good to be true’ but you dismiss it because you don’t want to be suspicious or anxious about one good thing that finally happened to you
Their promises get overwhelming to the point where it doesn’t seem like they could possibly deliver them but they give you a chance to indulge yourself in daydreaming and wishful thinking and you hold onto that
You feel tied not only to this person, but to the future they’re promising, and even if you don’t know them for a very long time, you feel intensely about wanting to keep them in your life, do anything to not lose them and to keep the relationship as is
If you believe in soulmates, twin souls, or any new age spirituality, this person will feel like your destined one, or they might even suggest it themselves, that they were sent by an entity to 'fulfill you’ or 'destined for you’
Your life changed from how it normally was to the point where you feel like you have a life 'before’ and 'after you’ve met them’, you even kind forget who you were before them, as you find it’s painful and lonely life you don’t want to go back to
With time, you get anxious about their perspective of you changing, because it would shatter everything good you’ve started to think about yourself because of them
It’s very hard for you to think about them critically or in a negative way
If they started thinking badly of you or started mistreating you, your heart would break
Love bombing is a manipulative tactic of getting someone attached and dependent as quick as possible, and it’s done with over-the-top attention and affirmations, future faking, mirroring, and creating an idealized version of you without actually getting to know or understand you. The promises, feelings, gestures, imagined future and compliments are not real, they’re there so you would be invested enough to ignore any other red flags, to forget to context of the relationship, to bond to the point of not leaving even if it develops into abuse.
If you’ve fallen for it, do not feel guilty; this is designed to get your defenses down and to make you feel fulfilled to the point where your reasoning turns to mush and you grasp that break from being devalued and neglected all of the time like it’s a lifeline. It’s often impossible to resist the strong emotions and relief at being offered, however fake, positive attention. Previous victims of abuse, neglected children, mentally ill, autistic, or in any way vulnerable members of society are very susceptible to this, because they’re often the ones starved for attention and will not question the kind of attention they get because they need it too badly. Whoever uses this tactic is aware of this, and is ready to dangle affection in front of you in order to trap you into abuse. You are not responsible for falling for it, doing this to you is criminal. This is what a start of an abusive relationship looks like.
legitimate fucking lifehack: discord server literally just for yourself to keep track of stuff over devices. links. reminders and checklists. all neatly divided into categories. search function and dates. why didnt i do this earlier oh my god.
A collection of masterposts
Hey people, I wanted to share with you this project I’ve been working on the side for a couple of months now: I made a Google Drive with doc files filled with lnks to all the masterposts that were collecting dust in my drafts. I went trough 200+ posts and collected links of all kinds of posts, sites, and other useful stuff.
This is the link: X
In there you will find different Google docs filled with links to masterposts about each issue. I also copied and pasted images/text of posts that weren’t masterposts for direct reading. The most important thing that I did was checking almost every link in each masterpost (around 90%) and making sure the majority of the links still worked to this day (27 Jan 2021). This way you know all these links are usable, and in addition I wrote next to every link if the masterpost is more or less still working. I tried to use as link the original post, but if that wasn’t possible I linked the post in my own blog.
Each doc I compiled talks about certain issues, but if you’re not finding what you need do look in other docs, as there are a ton of different links in other docs that might lead you to what you need.
There is also a link to another collection of masterpost made by byeletchachki that I stumbled upon while making this (in HTML format, download it to access it), and a folder of other Google Drive collections, full of other interesting stuff that you should check out.
I’m planning to expand this by adding my personal TTRPGs collection, maybe some Mobile games installers, and in general other stuff I might love to share with you all, so do check it out every now and then to see if there’s something you might like. Also do message me with suggestions of other masterposts/files you think would be interesting to add! It might take some time if this post blows up but still, I’ll try to check and add everything ^-^
P.s. I did not check what each blog of each masterpost/post talks about, don’t think that because I linked their blog I support them, I just took the posts at face value
I don’t know if medieval European history is interesting to anyone else, but I’m building a Google Drive folder with books I’ve found on that topic, feel free to check it out here! Mostly western Europe right now but I’m going to read more Byzantine stuff moving forward.
Lost and Found Library
Hey Tumblr, decided to share a fun google drive I have with you all. I came across a thumb drive full of ebooks maybe two years ago at college? And before turning it in, I converted all the files to a personal google drive.
Let me know if this link still works, but have at it. I love the variety the OG owner accumulated in their library.
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/138xQNM5WEJ4_YrlPY7-tYC1wr4hpFftX?usp=sharing
My Digital book library
Hey so I have made a google drive with a bunch of books in it. Right now it is view only, but you should be able to download the books onto your computer. All I ask is don’t “link to” your own google drive cuz then i think it actually moves stuff and I spent a long time setting this up. Thanks.
Link to Drive: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1BTXUPcCniydI1CIT90oNJ75naQVcIDcz?usp=sharing
Link to suggestion list: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1iABw52vkkJAmTkCX-n6KnL3_dBpooI0gYaT9qdit6vg/edit?usp=sharing
Drive w/ DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) Books
I thought I’d share some DBT books that I’ve found in case anyone finds them useful! Click here for a small Drive folder of 8 books (will add more if I can find more or if anyone has recommendations!)
If you don’t know what DBT is: DBT stands for dialectical behavior therapy and was initially developed to treat borderline personality disorder (BPD), but has also been used for other mental illnesses. Personally, I’ve used DBT for anorexia, generalized anxiety disorder, depression, and OCD with therapists, so I know it’s at least used for those disorders. DBT was first developed by Marsha M. Linehan, a psychologist who has BPD herself, which I think is interesting and important since in my experience, it can be difficult to find clinicians who can actually relate to the experience of having a mental illness. One of the best things about DBT in my opinion is that you can do it yourself! My personal experience in DBT has mostly been as a patient in formal hospitalization or partial hospitalization settings, but it’s very adaptable, so I think it’s great if you are unable to access therapy or other resources.
There are four basic modules of DBT: mindfulness, which is based on accepting one’s present situation without judgement; distress tolerance, which focuses on developing skills to get through intense emotions or crises without resorting to self-destructive behavior; emotional regulation, which emphasizes recognizing and adjusting emotions; and interpersonal effectiveness, which focuses on communication skills with others. Personally, I find distress tolerance and emotional regulation the most helpful, but everyone’s different!
Hey, if you’re broke like me and you can’t find good free resources on how to make/improve your art, I made a google drive of 22 different art books ranging from simple drawing books to specific mediums/subjects. I converted them all to PDFs because epub files suck lmao.
Here’s the link: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-fyjLc8hKlP4KkLJix_R31bB8YHuKaUl?usp=sharing
The names are vague so google doesn’t snipe me on sight but the titles are in the PDF. There are some with ads and I’m not sure how that happened so sorry about that, you can just scroll past them. They’ve all been scanned and are virus free. Shoot me an ask if you have any problems.
Guys please check out this google drive folder full of amazing PDFs that sociologist anon set up, there is so much good reading in here
There’s stuff on black feminism, disability, transgender history, sex & consent, and so many other things, it’s genuinely just so much holy shit please just look at it
