Im Your Emotional Sponge
im your emotional sponge
i met a girl from Bandung, named Tami. We had a good convo (i think good here bc she could absorb my feelings)
"you are a very emphatic person. Be cautious it can be your own weakness".
Somehow it's true.
And also I expect a person can respond to me as much as I do to them effortlessly. Her name is Kharis, I owe her an apology. I used her to be my emotional sponge bc she fell in love with me. it never be wise to take her for granted. I was toxic to her. She's a pure soul and deserves love (hopefully she finds someone who treats her right). If we ever meet again in another life, i won't mind being her soulmate.
let's go back to the main topic. being an emotional sponge to others means you have the skill to acknowledge their feelings. im unlearning that everyone's feelings matter since in this cruel world, boundaries should exist. you should be able to distinguish whether things are tolerable.
i am completely done with accepting that being compassionate is not a sin. i have to put in "right" amount, dont I? wont blame my placements (yes, my sun - moon - risings are all water signs), this is something i can manage to.
Here a good tip for an emotional sponge like me:
"Visualize A Glass Wall
There are a number of techniques that you can use to keep other people’s energy separate. One technique includes visualizing a glass wall between yourself and the other person. The glass wall allows you to see the other person’s emotions. However, the emotions are not able to penetrate the wall. When they hit the wall, they bounce back to the other person, not to you. You can see and acknowledge the feelings, but you do not absorb them. This technique can work in large crowds as well. You can picture yourself surrounded by a glass wall as you move through the crowd. Although you may notice their energy, you do not have to take it on as it cannot get through the wall."
Please check here if you need guidance: https://keirbradycounseling.com/empath-and-absorbing-other-peoples-emotions/
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Subuh2 overthinking
the problem is I'm craving for men's attention... I always see myself as a whore.
Being surrounded by men makes me feel secure and...wanted
Alongside, people who do not reciprocate my feelings are more attractive than those who do otherwise.
I'm that ungrateful girl as I'm still seeking other men (or women) while I have one who is willing to accept my true self.
the issue here lies between I need external validation and i love being the center of attention
I love it when ppl say I'm pretty, a good kisser, the goddess on the sheet, a motherly figure, smart or independent. they define my self-worth. however, it comes to my subconscious mind that - sadly - I'm attempting to fit men's conventional standards. You can guess where I lead to be? yes, that pick-me-girl type
Been aware that my childhood has shaped me into what I am today and fixing is a loooooong journey. i dont make any improvement yet. it's so fckin hard to be consistent and disciplined. see? im still struggling.
in reality, I really understand the reason why I was cheating or seeking other opportunities is to find security. my birth chart said that I can grow if I have been in a stable environment. stable here means in a secure place literally - figuratively. yet, i can confirm this is 100% accurate.
how can I create this safe place on my own? everyday, i have battles to win for
how can i be independent?
how can I stand up for myself?
how can i stay loyal and be grateful for what I have now?
do I feel enough?
Sedang asyik menikmati keseloan Yogyakarta, tiba-tiba dapat kabar Bendungan Hilir (Benhil) terkena banjir. Tingginya sudah sepaha orang dewasa.
Berbagai skenario muncul di kelapa eh kepala. Dari skenario kos tergenang sampai skenario yang akan terjadi saat saya tiba di Jakarta. Konon, Benhil kawasan langganan banjir, jadi, tidak heran lagi. Tapi momen Jakarta banjir di awal tahun ini cukup mengundang reaksi gaduh. Banjir kali ini juga "menular" ke Bekasi, Tangerang dan Bandung. Pada tanggal 1 Januari, teman ayah menelepon bahwa ia harus kembali ke Bekasi dari lawatan di Yogyakarta karena banjir di rumahnya sudah mencapai 20 sentimeter. Tak lama kemudian, sahabat saya mengabarkan bahwa kompleks perumahannya aman dari banjir, namun tidak di area kakak iparnya. Kakak iparnya harus dievakuasi. Kabar ular yang ikut berenang di Bekasi bukan isapan jempol belaka karena tak jauh dari sana, sudah ditemukan ular-ular kecil berenang bebas santuy.
Tak kalah pentingnya adalah sorotan media perihal kebijakan naturalisasi sungai yang dianggap gagal. Singkatnya ada perbedaan pendapat antara Anies Baswedan dan Badan Nasional Penanggulangan Bencana (BNBP). Menurut Anies, titik hulu menjadi fokus penyelesaian masalah (ini sebelum banjir terjadi). BNBP tidak sependapat karena permasalahannya bukan di hulu atau hilir, melainkan hulu dan hilir. Dua titik itu yang harus diselesaikan bersama-sama.
Saya sebagai penumpang di Jakarta hanya bisa berdoa, semoga banjir di semua titik bisa surut supaya kami bisa beraktivitas lagi. Ya meskipun menurut BMKG mengatakan bulan Februari dan Maret puncak-puncaknya hujan, tapi semoga kita berada di lindungan Sang Kuasa. Aamiin.
i need cuddle :(
Kebahagianku hari ini sesederhana mencium aroma apel di kamar mandi.
Childhood Memories
Dulu aku pernah ikutan lomba Bahasa Inggris pas SMP, terus aku nanya2 ke temenku gitu kan. Lalu dia bilang,
"Vic, kamu nanya ke aku yg mana sainganmu lho?"
Aku merasa naif.
Sekarang aku merasakan hal sama. Aku nggak suka ketika aku harus berbagi dokumen yang sebenarnya klien kita sama. Aku nggak mau dokumen itu digandakan sama orang-orang yang gak berkepentingan
I was praying my period would come faster, therefore I should not be fasting.
Today God has granted my wish. Not the period, but I'm not fasting due to my health issue. I suppose I am catching cold right now. A bit upset because this is not my prior intention.
Sayang, aku hanya ingin menyayangimu secara sederhana. Aku ingin bebas lepas mengungkapkan betapa aku mencintaimu. Tanpa harus takut akan masa depan.
Percayalah sayang aku sedang melawan keraguanku. Aku sedang berusaha untuk lebih percaya diri. Aku yakin pantas mendapatkan ini semua. Tolong tunggu sebentar. Tolong. Aku akan berusaha lebih keras lagi.
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She/ her; A quiet one with loudest mind. Uttering any thoughts and recounting.
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