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Things I want to learn

Recently, I realised there are so many things I want to research and learn, I had to write it all down. I wanted to share these with you today!:

📚 Thing to research:

politics

nutrition

investing

dog care/animal care in general

zero waste living

veganism

intuitive eating

solo travel

music and rhythm

herbology

map reading

fashion

home design

etiquette

bitcoin

taxes

🔨 Skills to try, learn or practice:

cooking

german

spanish

dancing

baking

gardening¨

digital art

photography

art (traditional methods)

yoga

programming

sewing

writing

mushroom picking

public speaking

makeup

photoshop

embroydery

czech sign language

laundry

hair styling

splits

blogging

Feel free to take inspiration and if you have more ideas please share them with me!

“A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.”

— Unknown

bellalovecoach ~ Instagram

Can you list some harsh truths that the general population (especially women) need to hear in order to improve? I feel like society likes to sugarcoat everything.

Family is a privilege, not a right. Men being allowed to cum inside is a priviledge and not a right.

Men can never DEMAND to women, they can only ask. If they demand, it's divorce time.

It is okay to marry richer/higher status. Marrying lower is just not a good idea for women. You need to always be upgrading and upgrading. Never settle.

Also, at the same time, be reasonable in your standards. The higher your standards are, the smaller your pool will be and the higher caliber you have to be to distinguish yourself.

For dating hypergamously, practice is KEY. Date date date date date date and GET OUT THERE. Mr Perfect won't be impressed by your low-experience awkard nerd ass.

By gaining dating experience you also learn to recognize yourself the red flags.

The higher the salary the more likelier he's a psychopath. Read up on psychopathy and other Dark Triad traits so you're prepared to counteract. If you're not sure about some man, next. Better be safe and save your skin than be a victim.

Your boyfriend working at MacDonalds or smoking pot is not him being "cool" he's being lame. He drives a rusty noisy corolla? Nah. This ain't cute. Get it together.

If you feel you don't deserve dating high value men, get the fuck off the dating pool, recenter it all on you, take a 1yr break and work on your glowup. Read about buliding self confidence AND WORK IT.

Never have children before marriage. Marriage is the legal protection of women. In case you separate outside of marriage he may be never required to help out financially with alimony. Marriage is protection for women.

Fuck the baby mama culture. See previous point. It just isn't cool, it's lame.

It is okay to prioritize career over men, and career first before founding a family. You MUST be seeking out for yourself FIRST before endangering yourself and putting yourself in a vulnerable position.

If you need to have a baby in order to keep a man, let him go. Bye.

The current dating market is heavily unfavorable towards women, as most men just don't know how to behave nicely. And this ain't our problem to solve in any way. Do not hesitate to be cutthroat. Red flag? Block, delete, forget and NEXT.

Fuck protecting men's feelings. Breakup when you don't wanna be anymore with him, say things honestly. They're already brutally honestamongst themselves, they can handle you being honest and asserting yourself.

Mantrums shouldn't make you comply, in ANY way. You need X, he doesn't wants, don't care, you need X or you gtfo.

You have to take accountability for your own actions on yourself and others, but do not blame yourself for EVERYTHING everyone does. That's what a PickMe does. If you got unhealthy body, this is not the fault of your mama if you're above 20. If you went broke, this is not the fault of everyone else if you went shopping excessively with that nice brand new CC card.

Being fat is not cute. Being skeleton thin is not cute. Get it together and strive towards actual wellbeing. Stop smoking cigarettes nobody might tell you but it makes you stink and gives off a bad impression. Same with excessive alcohol consumption.

Like said in the Teenager post, therapist stuff should stay at the therapist's office or your journal.

Live the lifestyle your salary allows you to live. You shouldn't be buying Prada shit on MacDonald's salary. If you want better stuff, strive to improve your salary. Going broke is just awful and not a nice personality trait.

Refuse to work too much you have zero life outside of work. That's exploitation and not being "hardworking". If you feel you can't ask that, read up about "boundaries". Currently, the market favors heavily employees so you have leverage for better. .

You should strive to be autonomous, you can't expect Mama or Friend to help you out everytime you're stuck. Prepare ahead, think of all possibilities ahead of time and ask for help when you're actually stuck. People get helping fatigue.

Do not just read about dating strategies or beauty stuff. Read up about news, science, culture and so on. Listen to podcasts, videos, read reference books, etc. There's a topic you wanna learn more about? Head to the librairy to get a good foundation.

To become a queen requires work, time involvement, energy, focus. You can't hope to become a queen just by scrolling on Tumblr and doing nothing else. Go workout, read, go out, etc. Have a life.

Life tips?

I’ll answer this question by echoing notes I’ve left for myself in my journal:

Eyes on the prize while you stop to smell the roses

You are loved, even when you don’t feel like it and even when those that love you don’t do it in the most efficient ways

Try not to take shit personally, everyone is just projecting

The success you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding

If he isn’t in awe of you, he doesn’t deserve you

Outgrow feeling like you have to play small to protect peoples feelings

The pain of self-discipline is better than the pain of regret

If you allow a man to feed you he has the power to starve you—be independent and have your own income and assets

If God puts rice in your basket, there is no point in wishing for soup—instead of wallowing in self-pity, make the most of your situation and excel

Fashion is for your everyday life, not just for big occasions

Your brain changes more in your twenties than at any other time in your adult life—whatever it is that you want to change about yourself, now is the time to do it by building good habits

Speed is relatively unimportant, forward is forward

Low self-esteem often leads to adverse self-fulfilling prophecies; break the cycle and build a strong sense of self-worth

The people who reach the greatest heights are not always the strongest, nor the most intelligent; they are the most responsive to change

Some of these are truisms I’ve found on Tumblr, some are quotes from books I’ve read, some are wisdom I’ve received from the people in my life, and others are things I’ve realized from self-reflection. This probably wasn’t the most organized but I hope it was still helpful! ❣️

Things You Don't Comment On:

- someone’s eating habits

- appearance issues that can’t be fixed there and then

- someone else’s “bad” decision if it can’t now be undone

- someone’s laugh or voice

- someone’s “unrealistic” dreams

- someone “not looking their best” in photos

- someone not wanting to do something and trying to subtly avoid it without making a fuss

- anything that you know will make someone self conscious or insecure unnecessarily

The Ultimate Law of Assumption Guide 🦋

Mental diet - only thinking thoughts and only having (inner) conversations that align with your desired reality.

How to trust that your negative thoughts are powerless: by understanding that your thoughts would cease to exist without you. You are not your thoughts, rather, you are merely the observer. If you have a negative thought, simply allow yourself to acknowledge its presence. Don’t try to fight it as doing so will only perpetuate it. Distract yourself by doing something you enjoy and it will dissipate in due time.

The psychological lifespan of an emotion is 90 seconds. If you experience a negative thought or emotion beyond this timeframe, you are the sole perpetrator via your thoughts and inner conversations.

Everything you experience is a part of the bridge of events. In the grand scheme of things, your undesirable circumstances are irrelevant. Your desires are a promise and if you truly accepted this, you wouldn’t allow your circumstances to sidetrack you.

Reasons you have yet to receive your desire: 1.) you think you’re keeping a mental diet but you’re still having negative thoughts disguised as imaginary arguments 2.) you’re constantly discussing your undesired circumstances and/or how you don't have your manifestation 3. You’re assuming you’re doing something wrong (always assume you’re doing everything right).

Where you place your attention is where you will see results. Where focus goes, energy flows.

As you--through the medium of imagination--assume a state of consciousness, the state begins to clothe itself in form, but you must be faithful to that state. You cannot oscillate from state to state—you must patiently persist in your desired state until it becomes an objective fact.

Revision: There is no inevitable permanence in anything. The only reason the past and present continue to exist is because they are sustained through your imagining them on some level or another. A radical transformation of life is always possible through man’s revision of the undesirable aspects of it for the past—although it is experienced in this world—dates back to imagination. To revise an undesirable scenario, simply imagine something more magnificent in its place; imagine it as you would have liked it to be for “man and his past are one continuous structure”. “The past and the present form the whole structure of man; they are carrying all of its contents with it. Any alteration of content will result in an alteration in the present and future.” and “If the past is recreated into the present, so will the revised past be recreated into the present.”

In consciousness / imagination, you already have what you want but you must trust in your imagination as it is more real than anything you see without (aka the 3D). Stop looking for evidence in the 3D for the most common cause of failure is failure to live in the end: “If you judge after appearances, you will continue to be enslaved by the evidence of your senses.”. Continue to possess it within and its possession without is inevitable.

Jealousy: Whenever you experience jealousy, remember that another person's success does not equate to your failure or lack. Positive things happening to others should serve as your reminder that good things are also available for you. A success for one person is a success for all as we are all one and connected.

Obsession: obsession is the result of a deep rooted insecurity and/or an overall poor concept of self. If you are obsessive over something--especially a person--you have fallen into the illusion that you must have this thing to be happy. You have forgotten that you are the only one who can create this feeling of fulfillment and happiness for yourself. Identifying what it is you believe your desire will fulfill within you and creating that feeling for yourself will allow your desire to manifest in a swifter and easier manner.

How to become the ideal version of yourself: Ask yourself what that version of you looks like; What do they do? What does their life look like? Now all you must do to become that version of yourself is think like that version.

Your desires are not greater than you. You are the only one who gives your desire purpose / value. Your desire is merely a thing…an inanimate object with no life separate from you. The only reason it seems so elusive is because you have placed it on a pedestal. Take your desire it the pedestal and stop treating it as though it’s greater than you. Your desire would literally cease to exist without you…not the other way around.

Whenever you experience negative thoughts: Remember that you have free will—you can choose to counteract those negative thoughts by choosing positive, constructive thoughts instead.

Stop checking the 3D to see if it’s conforming for when you do this, you’re attempting to change your outer reality instead of persisting in your inner reality. In other words, you’re dwelling in a state of lack rather than a state of wish fulfilled (abundance).

If your desire feels unattainable: if your desire feels unattainable, it’s simply due to your predominant focus being on doubts and failure rather than faith and success. Fortunately, repetition in your desired story can fix this.

Simple way to ignore the 3D: by focusing only on what you want.

What you desire is already done / created / true in another, parallel reality. Hence, you’re not ‘creating’ anything, you’re merely shifting to the reality in which your desire is already a present fact. All you must do to align yourself with your desired reality is mentally live there now .

Stop trying to rationalize everything by worrying about the how. Think only of your end goal and trust that the ‘how’ will work itself out.

Your inner dialogue = affirmations. Affirmations aren’t always prefaced with “I am” for your inner conversations are also affirmations. The inner conversations you’re having with yourself and other people are also reflecting in your outer world.

Quantum physics states that when 2 or more particles (or people) interact, their states remain linked regardless of distance, thus disproving the illusion of separation. Thus, every affirmation regarding your SP must reach them.

If you feel your manifestation is taking too long: your predominant focus is on the lack of your desire (the 3D) rather than its presence (imagination / 4D). Persist in your desired reality within and it has no choice but to appear without.

Despite your persistence, your 3D looks the way it does as a result of the state you fell into for it is merely reflecting your old states (hence, the time lag), but without your awareness, it will cease to be. In other words, refrain from thinking or paying attention to your undesirable circumstances and they will cease to exist. Despite what your 3D may look like now, your new thoughts (state) will shortly catch up.

Because your state produces thoughts in alignment with your desires, use your thoughts as a tool to measure which state you’re predominantly occupying.

Disregard any possibility other than the one you want and believe, no matter what. As long as you allow an alternative outcome to be an option, it will always remain an option. Choose to drive anything other than what you want out of your consciousness and saturate your mind only with that which you desire.

It doesn’t matter how you feel. Keep affirming / visualizing / whichever technique you prefer and your feelings will automatically change for your thoughts create your feelings.

State = thoughts, emotions, beliefs, attitude, reactions, and impulses. To change your state, experience in imagination that which constitutes your desired state.

EIYPO - what you feel and believe to be true about yourself and others will be reflected in those around you. If you feel insignificant and unworthy, people are going to reflect that by treating you as such. This is exactly why you’re encouraged to focus on your self concept rather than SP: when you improve your self concept, everyone (including your SP) will reflect that. If you feel worthy and attractive, your SP has no choice but to reflect that by treating you as such. People are merely messengers revealing to you what you believe to be true about yourself and others. If people are pointing something out, it’s because you are heavily focused on it. Think and speak about yourself in the way you want to be perceived by others.

How to stop waiting / checking for results: Think (affirm) as though your desires were already yours. Your desired reality is the only thing you should be focused on.

The moment you have a desire, it is done. The delay in the outer world is simply the orchestration of the people, places, and things necessary for the realization of your desire.

Once you start feeling natural / nonchalant about your desire, that’s when you know it’s close.

How to get rid of a third party: simply stop thinking about them. What you remove your attention from will eventually dissipate.

Stop giving attention to things you don’t want. If you don’t want it, it doesn’t deserve your time or energy.

How to get rid of resistance: The only way to get rid of resistance is through repetition & persistence in the new story.

By expecting / assuming something, you are only perpetuating it. If you expect / assume people always leave you on read, that will continue to be the case

To change your SP: if you want your SP to change, all you must do is change the way you think of and perceive them. If you’re annoyed with the way your SP constantly ghosts you, stop focusing on the ‘fact’ that they constantly ghost you and instead, focus on the version of them that’s communicative and loving.

How to let go of the old story: stop re-affirming it and stop allowing your old thoughts to creep in.

What to do if you’re not seeing movement: If you’re not seeing any movement, you’re simply focused on the lack of movement. This is a tell-tale sign that you’re living in the 3D (physical, perceivable reality) as opposed to the 4D (imagination).

Consistent thoughts = consistent results. Inconsistent thoughts = inconsistent results.

Think and speak as though you already had your desire and saturate your mind with that story. That should be the dominant, if not only thing, playing in your mind.

As eager as you may be to vent about it, repeating your old story isn’t going to make you feel better, but changing your thoughts to that of the wish fulfilled will.

You’re not creating, attracting, wishing, or hoping for your desire to manifest—you’re simply entering the state / reality in which it’s already a present fact. Every reality already exists now and all you must do to shift to / experience your desired reality is persistently dwell there.

What happens when two people are manifesting the same thing: trust that will win every single time. Your thoughts are the only thing that can allow you to ‘lose’ your desire to someone else.

Why things go ‘backwards’ : The only reason why things may go ‘backwards’ (aka why you’re not seeing progress or why your circumstances may he even worse circumstances than they were before) is because your thoughts and focus aren’t as persistent as they once were—when you were seeing steady progress .

“Die to your former self by yielding to other (favorable) states”. In order ‘die’ to your former self, you must enter a new state of consciousness, which will inevitably result in completely new life circumstances.

Your primary goal when manifesting shouldn’t be to gain something without (the 3D) but for your mental state to be aligned with your end goal. Rather than looking towards the 3D for ‘proof’ or ‘evidence’, you should only be looking within: Are you thoughts in alignment with your end goal? Do your inner conversations match those with the state of the wish fulfilled? Is your dominant focus on your desired reality rather than your current circumstances?

Persistence is the only way to get rid of resistance.

Rather than constantly focusing on the 3D, just persist. It’s okay if you don’t believe it or if the 3D is triggering you, but you must keep going. Remember that the 3D is irrelevant for everything is conforming behind the scenes: “An assumption, though false, if persisted in will harden into fact.”

When a desire comes upon you, immediately accept that it is done. It is already yours and God is nudging you to experience it.

Because the light of God within you is so strong and overpowering, your negative thoughts dislike you as much as you dislike them.

Your negative thoughts only have power over you if you believe them. If you can remain the mere observer of those thoughts and replace them with better, more positive thoughts, they will eventually dwindle and die down. Even if they do resurface, your awareness of who you really are will be so strong that they will no longer bother you.

Persist in reminding yourself that you are God. Anytime you’re feeling down or powerless, ask yourself, “What would God be thinking right now?”, “How would God act?” and do just that. Whatever you affirm to be true for yourself is exactly how your reality will unfold. Until you create a new story for yourself, you will only perpetuate your old, undesirable reality.

What you desire is already yours and there is nothing for you to do but accept your desires. Accept and feel the joy of fulfillment. Because your desires are meant to be, there is no reason to affirm the opposite.

Through your desires, you are able to catch a glimpse into your future that starts the moment you have that desire.

• 20th June 2021•

My self-sabotaging trait would probably be my inconsistency.

I have plans scheduled out for the day but it frizzles out on the third day. And I'm not proud of that.

I don't know if I burn out really fast or I'm just not willing to help myself. Like girl, get your priorities straight.

• 9th June 2021 •

I've been planning for a long time to post here. But I never got the courage neither the time.

However, my final semester exam just got over today. It was a breeze because we submitted online but am already dreading the results.

Now I have all the time in the world for me

- to ponder on what I should do next

- binge read books that I have collected

- work on my cooking skills

- study for my competitive exam

it’s the smallest habits. how you spend your mornings. how you talk to yourself. what you read. what you watch. who you share your energy with. who has access to you. that will change your life.