Wow, Seems Like This “first Impression” Thing Is Scientific, Known As The Halo Effect. So Conversely

Usually I didn't calculate: Today I just realised that I do at least 20-100 questions/day. Unless it's word problems then just 20 only. 😅 ⁣ I really hope I can make it for 'O' Levels—all subjects! 🙏 https://www.instagram.com/p/BvMOnxIn0SFMvVznk48pGcccVlSaBcK-M7CUKw0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=11oh1wvw8o9tj

I find this app #digime is so cool! 😎 It collects and organises all my data in 1 place, putting everything at glance 😍 Totally free.

Hahaha, was trying to casually stitch multiple recordings and photos that were poorly taken into one video, and it turned out quite well (to me)! 

I was exploring rooftops and hoped to have a peaceful dinner on the rooftops with the spectacular urban landscape. Things didn’t turn out well initially, as I was caught by a manager just a moment before the lift opened. Luckily I managed to circumvent him later by befriending a Bangla worker there and he guided me around with authority. 👈🏻– although it isn’t cool that way, but at least got free narration for the entire tour on the office building 😝

Kudos to those rooftopers out there. They are terrific. The whole process I was preoccupied with fear&anxiety… it’s like entering into a condominium as an uninvited guest and going into the ⛔️restricted area (both by policy and by law) 🚷👮‍♂️

How to dominate class politics?

Whether in class or workplace, it is inevitable that there will always be a struggle for power (specifically social dominance), regardless of whether you want it or not. Those who are unversed risk social isolation or marginalisation in their respective environments.

The problem of taking an apolitical stance is its potential to affect you, especially an impediment to your goals/achievements. Even if it isn’t the case, it needlessly increases your liability and competency, forcing yourself to be at the highest standard of conduct all the time. This is stressful and an unrealistic expectation because no human being is perfect.

1. Be fierce and firm

This is easier said than done. If you carry yourself wrongly, you may inadvertently portray yourself as something more unfavourable than expected.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to resort violence or act like a hooligan to create such perception.

First impression matters. This is scientific. Within the first 7-30 seconds, your appearance and actions are being fastidiously scrutinised to deduce your personality and characteristics. Whether it is accurate or not, we can always manipulate their presumptions to make them think the way we want them to… such as your strong eye contact, authoritarian voice and tall, open posture.

Cause a deterrence effect. Before anyone undermines you, take the first-mover advantage and unleash fury on them. Limit the scope of the victim(s) to the minimum and the audience to the maximum. It may seem pointless to just victimise 1 person, but its effect is far-reaching to the rest of the watching audience. This is human’s instinct to learn and adapt, to prevent such nasty incident from potentially happening on them in the future.

Exert your authority. Don’t stay quiet and give in. According to the broken window theory, for every compromise that you make, it diminishes the perceived fear you instilled and immediately expose yourself to subversion. Hence, eroding your dominance.

NB: Be as original as possible. It’s OK to re-use certain phrases/actions that you’ve picked up from elsewhere, but not re-applying them to the environment with the same audience.

2. Be charismatic

This is often overlooked when discussing this kind of topic. Charisma is power; leadership is authority.

Successful people are leaders; they have the ability to get people around them to help them achieve their ultimate goal. It’s not what you do; it’s why you do it -- that is what gets people behind you. They are able to articulate a compelling or captivating vision, and are able to arouse strong emotions in their followers.

Source: https://www.elitedaily.com/money/entrepreneurship/charismatic-people-successful

I’ve seen people who are ostracised due to their stern moral high ground stance. Their heartless attitude lacks empathy, which makes them more hated and excluded than those who are anti-social.

When many people like you (from any spectrum), you gain enormous amount of soft power (leverage). The leverage that you have enable you to easily seek help whenever you need and a biased defence when you are provoked.

In fact, if your charisma is high enough, you don’t need any leadership at all. Because authority comes from power, if you’re charismatic enough, you automatically have the influence of authority to the person in-charge.

3. Do not tussle with the authority/superior/in-charge

This is common sense. It’s suicidal to mess up with your discipline master or your boss  — generally anyone above you (seniors). Those people are in position to immediately act in reprisal, with guaranteed risk-free to retributions.

“A friend is better than a foe.”

Since so, it is worthwhile to make them your allies instead of adversaries, even if it is a need to be submissive/acquiescent to their unreasonable demands or unfair comments.

4. Pick the right side.

This is actually the least important, but it can be very effective if you’re affiliated with influential persons. It’s like a start boost, but you still have to build your image up from scratch, but you’ll have very high tolerance from the rest. They won’t pick on you often or as much as you would if you were alone.

Your initial affiliation is very important, and unfortunately, it’s very difficult to pick the best affiliation during the first encounter.

Remember, not everyone can dominate. There can only be 1 true dominant (can be shared) at any given time. If there’s already one, your best bet is to be the Second instead of having an endless conflict. Additionally, a defeat risks being shunned forever.

“War is expensive. Peace is priceless”

Disclaimer: This analysis is based on my personal experience in a harsh school environment. It may be different from yours and you need to apply the strategies wisely. Overuse or invalid use of strategies may have deleterious effects. You’re forewarned.

Building Better Backgrounds – Zack Krida – Medium

Approaches to stacking css background images on mobile for improved readability, using object-fit and ES2015+.

This post is so helpful. It covers the basic of CSS coding in order make a good, responsive website. 😃 I actually applied the newly acquired knowledge to my Tumblr blog and it works‼  😄

In the United States 🇺🇸, there are 2 sides of the aisle on the resolve of gun violence – gun deaths that killed tens of thousands every year or firearm injury that affects up to 70,000 yearly).

One advocates for more gun control (common sense), while another believes in more gun rights. The latter may sound counter-intuitive, but with proper research, I realised their belief is justified.

There is only 156 mass shootings in 2016, and a total deaths of ~800

Unlike the partisan narrative that some try to push, gun violence is less severe than how it is purported. This allows the Conservatives to dismiss statistics as “rubbish” and biased. Most of the gun violence deaths are suicidals, and mental health is a whole new category. Even if gun is banned, and a person determined to self-kill, it won’t stop the person from doing so.

Gun Right advocates also believe that more guns could be more effective in stopping mass shootings. For example, in the event of a rogue actor trying to carry out mass killing in the public, an armed Samaritan could come out to quash the shooter while waiting for police’s arrival. This helps to mitigate casualties and fatal deaths. Here are some real-world cases of aforementioned possibility.

As a result, unless guns are universally banned in the country and rigorously enforced, partial or compromises are ineffective and counterproductive to gun violence homicides or mass shootings.

Nonetheless, Gun Right advocates are also hell-bent on the solution of more guns to reduce gun violence deaths. Opposition would point to the success model of Japan and Australia of eliminating gun deaths by banning it and gun buyback programs to reduce firearms in circulation as their statistics. Unfortunately, Gun Rights also have their own statistics to substantiate their point.

If you look carefully, more guns ownership have no correlation to more gun deaths.

It is just the way of how we present the same piece of information.

Hence, that is why Gun Right advocates think to the contrary of the rest of the world and maybe this phenomenon is caused by the fact that criminals do not voluntarily relinquish their access to firearms and therefore an inadequate gun buyback or restriction program will instead put those law-abiders in greater danger. Gun prohibition is only effective in the long-term.

how many more fucking kids have to die in school because these selfish ass lawmakers don’t see the the importance of making stricter gun laws

My Apple Music 3-month trial is ending, and I’ve dedicated a detailed review to Reddit that the Internet is missing regarding Apple Music vs. Spotify. Although it isn’t very well-received by the Apple community, I hope it serves as a helpful reference to future users who are looking for advice whether it’s worth to give Apple Music a try.

I’m very disappointed by Apple Music’s missing of essential features and plagued with bugs/glitches.

Nevertheless, I’m glad there’s a strong case for me to switch back to Spotify now since by right I hate copycats and I feel indebted to Spotify because it gave me a chance to get into music with its free streaming service model.

I feel so proud of myself. 😆 What happened was that I had created a Tinder account to explore the then "new, trending social network" before it was closed down for <18yo users. It was viral in US among teenagers that's why. 😅 So Tinder disabled my account (they gave deadline when it wouldn't be available for <18yo, I was June I think) before I even deleted my account. This is actually a huge concern. They "disabled" my account, means it wasn't deleted just that I couldn't log in. I confirmed with Tinder if it was the case and the response was positive. 😮 The moment I received their response, I immediately requested them to delete my account. Few weeks later, they denied my request and said I can log in again when I'm 18yo to delete myself. 😠 I was so irritated. Met with such resistance, I recalled a law that I had read before regarding personal information. So I went to find out more and used the law against them. I formally issued them a legal request, to delete my account in pursuant to the Online Privacy Act. 😛 Few weeks later, they retreated and passively assented my request. 😄 I honestly love laws. I like reading laws. It's fun. 😋

“Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.”

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Humility pays off… but only in the long-term

Since young, all children are ingrained the common values of humility and integrity. What’s more virtuous than someone with inflated sense of self-esteem who constantly vies for recognition built with a wall of lies than a quiet, well-doing boy/girl?

“Sit down, be humble”

Unfortunately, such notion of true humility is mostly over especially in the Internet age. It’s so easy to “gain reputation” on social media nowadays. There’s nothing more satisfying than seeing the Likes/Loves/Views counter rapidly tickling upwards after every new post/video is made.

Thus, it fuels instant gratification and demands for more posts or fresh content to be made more regularly, which eventually erodes the value of humility in real life. (e.g. literal "updates" on Instagram) This is something unnoticeable that everyone overlooks when interacting on social media. This change of norm slowly aggravates into public request/demand for Likes/Loves on recent posts.

Other forms of inexplicit showing off include asking for advice/comments on the newly purchased accessory or item. Essentially, any action that calls for attention, whether deemed explicit or inexplicit, is sufficient to be labelled “showing off.”

It’s intrinsically recognisable, but unspoken

It seems to be widely misunderstood that just because someone doesn’t point that out, it means they don’t know or don’t notice. The reason why no one points out is because

It’s too miscellaneous. It’d backfire if the person is too picky on things that are too insignificant. And it’s hard to substantiate too.

Risk of social isolation. It’s quite foul to point out such thing to anybody. I’d personally also consider it as an act of hostility if anyone tries to point this to me, whether publicly or privately.

Friends' bias. (True) Friends will always respect and defend for one another. They would rather close an eye than pointing it out.

Generally, in most cases, they fall under (1). No one is that pernickety to point out such trivial matter.

Of course, it's possible that there are instances that go completely unnoticed. Nevertheless, they are still intrinsically recognised but can't be verbalised. That's the reason why ultimately real humble persons are recognised and commended as it's something rare.

So why should you be really humble?

Hmm, I can't thing of any practical benefit other than to gain even more reputation. 😆 This kind of reputation gain is actually more effective and prestigious, which means more enduring than the short-term, instant gratification.

The downsides of being silent about your achievements are…

You'll not receive any immediate flattery. It's all silent. Even though no one talks about it, but the positive image that you exhibit in their minds are cumulative. It's a kind of long-term investment. 😉

Your recognition may never be seen, forever. This is like gambling… becsuse there's no guarantee for the long-term "investment." You presume that they saw it, but they might not. They might be distracted or not be bothered to care about it at all. 😜

However, whenever anyone discovers your achievement by themselves, they would be more impressed and awed than you would show off to them personally.

So what should you do?

It's all about long-term and short-term reputation gain. If you choose humility, the best approach is be yourself. Don't carry any expectations in your mindset, just think it as your own characteristic and you'll eventually get used to resist the temptation of reward.

NB: However, at any point the mindset slips, and you try to vie for attention, no matter how inexplicit it seems to be, it's always intrinsically recognisable.