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how im preparing for 2025⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍬💕

MY MANIFESTING LIST ;

every year i always make a list of the things that i wanna manifest in 2025, i dont always complete it in the first sitting bcuz i add onto it as the year progresses but i like to have a basic framework of everything that im manifesting in that year.

also along with my manifest list for 2025, i also create a 2025 vision board because it motivates me and reminds me of all the amazing things that im going to experience in 2025.

REFLECTING ON THIS YEAR ;

so in my notion i have a section called the 'monthly digest' where every single month i break down the 4 weeks of the month and everything that i did in them in relation to my goals. after every month i write a little summary.

so with that being said i have a LOT to go back to and reflect on so that i can see what i accomplished this year and what i can do better in the next year. this reflection system that i have is so helpful so i'll set one up for 2025 so that i can also have that at my disposal.

BREAKING UP THE NEXT YEAR ;

i break up my year into 4 quarters (each lasting 3 months) that way i can see my year broken up and i have a clear plan and i can be organized. quarter one (january - march) quarter two (april - june) so on and so forth. and after every quarter i do a little analysis.

something else that i wanna try for next year is giving myself quarterly themes. like for each quarter of the year i'll focus on a different aspect of myself, i think that could be fun…💬🎀

PREPARATIONS ;

im wrapping up some things like my projects, assignments and things of that nature so that i can go into the next year on a clean slate. furthermore im making plans for new years eve, and january and making sure that i've already set some things in motion.

all in all, with everything in motion and everything set in place im going into the new year INCREDIBLY confident 💕📔

Emily Brontë, from "Wuthering Heights," originally published in 1847

Been there done that tbh,

Chemistry tuition, one year older than me, didn't talk much but always stared at each other when the other was looking away, never had the opportunity to ask him anything else, but was sarcastic to him all the time

A year late he goes to college but his face haunts me till date.

Girls, use this little part of Tumblr to talk about him/her :) you can use comment section as well as reposting this.

I'll start <3

Sooo, this guy came to my chemistry classes last year, and one day he just talked to me, the thing is that he let me his notes (the class before that one I couldn't go) that really surprised since boys of my age aren't so nice I think (?).

Then minutes later he asked me a question, what really made me overthink was that he had his friends right behind him "why would he talk to me when he has people he knows just half step behind? That was weird"

And now, this year I do not see him that much but sometimes we see each other in the hallways, and he always (yes, I mean always) looks where I'm sitting :) Don't judge me, as a thought daughter and delulu person this makes me think A LOT.

But now seriously isn't it strange that he looks where I am and we always make eye contact? 😭

I wish I were brave enough to talk to him and just ask his Instagram, but I'm not, so I guess he will be just another crush I didn't talk to <\3

kate moss furcoat era

Girlhood things that I love

Getting my daily overpriced drink

watching Vogue Beauty Secrets while doing my skincare or makeup

taking pictures of everything

Scrolling through Pinterest late at night while listening to Lana

the everything shower

Celebrating small wins by going to cute cafes with my friends

Buying fresh flowers for myself every week

Obsessing with aesthetics and love

Writing in my diary

"We were girls together."

Going to bed with freshly shaved and moisturised legs

manifesting and making vision boards

Being a Victoria's Secret girly

adding ribbons and bows to everything

Buying everything in pink

being delulu

Doing my nails while watching Gossip Girl

Vanilla-scented candles and perfume before bed

Girls supporting girls and being a girl's girl <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

Doing calculus without having a math background is such a flex

BALANCE AFFIRMATIONS

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ʚ i embrace the beauty of imperfections

ʚ i am a magnet for positive energy

ʚ i am calm and grounded

ʚ i find balance in giving and receiving

ʚ i love my mind, soul and body

ʚ i am nourished and thriving

ʚ i trust in my inner strength

ʚ i find positivity in every situation

　　 ˚ . ✧　　 ˚

The Art of Showing Up for Yourself Every Day

In a world where we’re constantly pulled in all directions, showing up for ourselves is a skill worth mastering. It’s the subtle yet powerful act of prioritizing your well-being, setting boundaries, and building daily rituals that honor who you are. Here’s how to make it happen, one intentional step at a time.

1. Create a Morning Ritual That Sets the Tone

Begin with a simple, calming routine that focuses on grounding yourself. Think of five minutes of mindfulness, stretching, or even sipping your morning coffee without scrolling on your phone. This moment is about aligning your mind with your day—your time to check in with yourself.

2. Set Intentions, Not Expectations

Rather than piling on lofty goals, start each day by setting intentions—small, achievable steps that honor your energy and goals for the day. Intentions like “I will protect my energy,” or “I will be kind to myself” keep you connected to what truly matters.

3. Listen to Your Needs Without Judgment

Some days, showing up means tackling a to-do list; other days, it means giving yourself a break. Listen closely to what you need—whether it’s extra rest, time alone, or time to socialize—and honor it without judgment.

4. Invest in Small Acts of Self-Care

Showing up doesn’t require grand gestures. Simple acts like drinking enough water, making time for skincare, or organizing your space send the message that you value yourself. The key is consistency—building small moments that reinforce self-worth daily.

5. Embrace Gratitude and Reflection at Night

Each night, end your day with a few moments of gratitude and reflection. Acknowledge your efforts and appreciate the small victories, however minor they may seem. This habit builds resilience and makes it easier to show up for yourself again tomorrow.

Showing up for yourself daily is about building a life that feels both empowering and graceful. It’s an art form, crafted by listening to yourself, honoring your needs, and taking small steps toward the best version of you. So here’s to you, showing up with intention and elegance, every day.

💗🍰MANIFEST YOUR DREAM BODY💗🍰

💗If you want to lose weight or gain weight , do not focus on losing weight or gaining weight , focus on the weight which makes you feel good. Imagine , pretend , act as if you are already at your desired weight .

🍰FOOD IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WEIGHT GAIN , have you seen people who are extremely skinny but they eat like a horse? How do they maintain their weight despite the fact they eat so much ? These people have the belief that no matter what or how much they eat , they will not gain weight . Remember the story I mentioned in my post on appearance change ? Abdullah ate whatever he wanted and it did not affect him at all .

💗To manifest your dream body , live in the end . Will you complain about your dream body or praise it everytime you see it ? Complaining is never useful ( unless you are complaining about your desires ) . You will never change if you are always complaining about how you do not have your desired body because you are focusing on the old story . Whatever we focus on , expands. Whatever story you will focus on and repeat the most , it will become dominant and manifest . Focus on the new story where you have your dream body . Do not give importance to the 3D , your imagination is more powerful than the 3D.

🍰You can choose to workout and follow diets but change the way you think about your body first. Whatever assumptions you persist in manifests. Here is an example from Solar 's Guide !

" Example : I lose weight by constantly thinking " I am so skinny " and assume every time I see my body , it is skinny . This assumption will harden into a fact and my subconscious only knows that I am skinny. '

workout & stretch routines for your period

8 minute de-bloating stretch routine by gloria song

10 minute yoga for periods by hailey c.

12 minute slow workout for pms by madfit

15 minute full body workout for pms by ballet thera fit

15 minute pms/period stretch by mady morrison

15 minute period & pms stretch by mizi

20 minute lower back workout & stretch by bigsis

20 minute pilates to reduce period pain by pilatesbodyraven

20 minute period/pms workout & stretch by emi wong

20 minute yoga for pcos & hormones by akshaya agnes

20 minute yoga for your period by akshaya agnes

25 minute mat pilates for your period by pilatesbodyraven

27 minute low impact mat workout for period by cbc life

30 minute pms workout by bigsis

30 minute pilates for pms/period by eleni fit

30 minute period pain relief yoga by yoga with kassandra

30 minute yoga during periods by akshaya agnes

30 minute yoga for period pain & cramps by boho beautiful yoga

full body workout routines

with weights

30 minute full body dumbbell workout by bigsis

30 minute muscle up & fat down by bigsis

30 minute full body pilates style sculpt by madfit

30 minute toning & strength by madfit

30 minute full body strength by madfit

30 minute full body sculpt by madfit

30 minute full body dumbbell workout by madfit

30 minute all standing dumbbell workout by mizi

30 minute full body sculpt by madfit

30 minute sculpt & strengthen by fitbymik

30 minute dumbbell strength x pilates by fitbymik

30 minute dumbbell strength & pilates by fitbymik

30 minute full body build & burn by squatcouple

40 minute full body dumbbell workout by mizi

40 minute full body hourglass workout by olivia lawson

40 minute killer strength by growingannanas

45 minute cardio & strength by eleni fit

45 minute hourglass dumbbell workout by olivia lawson

45 minute full body strength by madfit

50 minute full body dumbbell workout by bigsis

without weights

25 minute kpop idol body workout by lena snow

30 minute full body fat burn by emi wong

30 minute dancer sculpt by madfit

30 minute small-space friendly full body workout by madfit

30 minute full body workout by madfit

30 minute full body hiit by madfit

30 minute full body hiit by madfit

30 minute stretch & tone by madfit

30 minute stretch & tone by madfit

30 minute full body hourglass workout by lena snow

30 minute full body sculpt by madfit

30 minute low impact full body sculpt by madfit

30 minute hourglass workout by mizi

40 minute full body build & burn by squatcouple

45 minute full body fat burn by emi wong

50 minute full body workout by april han

1 hour full body fat burn by emi wong

1 hour full body workout by mizi

1 hour full body workout by caroline girvan

1 hour full body workout by caroline girvan

workouts & stretches you can do in bed

* youtube channel dayana wang has tons of short bed workouts!

5 minute stretch by eylem abaci

5 minute yoga by yoga with kassandra

6 minute stretch by pamela reif

8 minute de-bloating stretch by gloria song

10 minute abs by emi wong

10 minute abs & thighs by emi wong

10 minute sitting upper body by emi wong

10 minute stretch by emi wong

10 minute sitting back workout & stretch by emi wong

10 minute stretch by emi wong

10 minute abs by emi wong

10 minute upper body workout & stretch by emi wong

10 minute stress & headache relief stretch/massage by emi wong

10 minute sitting arm workout by hailey c.

10 minute yoga by yoga with kassandra

10 minute yoga stretch by yoga with bird

10 minute yoga by jess yoga

12 minute full body by vicky justiz

14 minute full body by roberta’s gym

15 minute leg workout & stretch by emi wong

15 minute full body by hailey c.

15 minute legs by emi wong

15 minute lower abs by mizi

15 minute stretch by blogilates

15 minute yoga by boho beautiful yoga

20 minute abs & legs by emi wong

24 minute full body by roberta’s gym

30 minute yoga by yoga with kassandra

💗💋SELF-LOVE WILL SAVE YOU💗💋

💗Loving yourself and feeling good about yourself is so crucial. Self-love is the best love and it will save you. You will always have yourself and you are going to spend your whole life with yourself so it is not cute to feel bad about yourself.

💋Self-love is not believing that you are better than others , it is believing that you are not less than others . The reason loving yourself can be difficult sometimes is because you are seeking validation from others , you are giving too much importance to what others are saying and listening to their words as if they are facts. Opinions do not decide who you are , it is you. You decide who you are , you are the creator of your reality.

💋Self-love can make manifesting easy too. Of course , you do not need self-love to manifest. When I manifested my summer vacations to extend , I did not love myself or feel good about myself , after manifesting summer vacations , I was really happy but the happiness was temporary . After few weeks , I still attracted people who would make question my self-worth. If you develop self-love , you will evoke self-confidence and realize your self-worth. I have made two posts ( click me and click me ) on why you should treat yourself well and feel good about yourself. Self-concept and self-love will make your life easy. Also , when you know your worth , you will not give a damn about what others say about you and you will not tolerate mistreatment from others. At the end of the day , it is you , you decide your worth , your self- worth is intrinsic, no external factor can take it away. Read these posts to realize your self-worth- click me and click me !

💗Practice affirmations . Listen to songs which will make you feel confident. Do not listen to sad songs or watch sad shows or movies when you are depressed , doing so can make you feel worse. Practice atleast one self-care activity daily.

Enough of being the stan, let's be the star

🎀🍥TREAT YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED🎀🍥

( Yes your favourite it girl blog is back ! )

🎀How can you expect others to treat you with respect if you don't respect yourself ? How can you ever expect anyone else to enjoy your company if you don't enjoy you own company ? Ask yourself : Do you treat yourself the way you want other people to treat you ? When you do not treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, you can never change the way things are . Treat yourself with respect and others will follow.

🍥If you feel that you are not important or worthy , you will meet people who will confirm your assumption. As long as you feel bad about yourself, you will attract people who will not treat you well. To break this loop , start treating yourself well. Treat yourself with respect. Choose yourself. Put yourself first.

🎀Don't just read and scroll this post , start treating yourself well. Treat yourself like garbage and the flies will come , treat yourself like garden and the butterflies will come. To understand this comparison in a detailed way , read this post - click me !!

🍥Thank you for reading ! 🍥

all about mobility

what is mobility & how is it different from flexibility?

mobility is the ability of the joints to move through their full range of motion, while flexibility is the ability of the muscles to temporarily stretch.

why do mobility training?

there are many different benefits of mobility training, including:

increased flexibility

reduced risk of injury

improving joint & muscle health

improving range of motion

improving posture

gaining muscle strength

balance & stability

reducing pain & stiffness in the body

when should i start?

now! there’s a common misconception that you shouldn’t need mobility training until you are in your later years and your mobility starts to decline, but mobility training is useful no matter your age. in fact, the sooner you start, the less mobility & joint problems you will experience as you age.

how often should i train mobility?

mobility training is safe and beneficial to do daily, but ideally, you should try to train mobility at least 5 times per week for at least 5-10 minutes each time.

routines:

10 minute mobility workout by growingannanas

10 minute mobility for neglected joints by julia.reppel

15 minute daily mobility routine by julia.reppel

15 minute mobility stretch by growingannanas

20 minute slow mobility & stretch by julia.reppel

20 minute full body mobility warm up by leanbeefpatty

20 minute spinal mobility by julia.reppel

20 minute mobility workout by julia.reppel

20 minute rest day mobility flow by julia.reppel

20 minute pilates x mobility by julia.reppel

20 minute full body mobility by julia.reppel

25 minute full body stretch & mobility by madfit

25 minute mobility workout by julia.reppel

25 minute yoga for mobility by jess yoga

25 minute rest day mobility by julia.reppel

25 minute low impact mobility workout by julia.reppel

25 minute mobility workout by marie steffen

30 minute full body primal mobility by julia.reppel

30 minute primal mobility workout by julia.reppel

30 minute mobility yoga for athletes by charlie follows

30 minute beginner-friendly mobility flow by julia.reppel

30 minute mobility workout by fitness__kaykay

30 minute active recovery workout by heather robertson

30 minute core strength & shoulder mobility by heather robertson

35 minute yoga fusion workout by heather robertson

40 minute mobility & dynamic stretching by heather robertson

40 minute abs & hip mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core strength & back mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core strength & mobility by heather robertson

40 minute core & shoulder mobility by heather robertson

40 minute abs & mobility by heather robertson

44 minute core & full body mobility by heather robertson

my MOVEmber workout plan

start date: friday, november 1

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day 1: 30 minute pms & menstrual pain workout + 20 minute lower back workout & stretch

day 2: 44 minute core & mobility

day 3: 30 minute pilates

day 4: 30 minute walking cardio + 15 minute stretch

day 5: 45 minute yoga

day 6: 30 minute full body strength + 10 minute stretch

day 7: 35 minute pilates x mobility

day 8: 30 minute hiit + 10 minute stretch

day 9: 45 minute yoga

day 10: 30 minute pilates

day 11: 30 minute full body + 20 minute yoga

day 12: 40 minute mobility & dynamic stretch

day 13: 30 minute cardio + 25 minute yoga

day 14: 1 hour yoga & breathwork

day 15: 30 minute full body strength + 20 minute stretch

day 16: 30 minute stretch

day 17: 30 minute yoga hiit fusion

day 18: 45 minute power pilates

day 19: 30 minute hiit + 20 minute full body + 10 minute stretch

day 20: 30 minute yoga

day 21: 30 minute full body + 10 minute stretch

day 22: 30 minute hiit + 25 minute stretch

day 23: 45 minute yoga

day 24: 30 minute mobility & strength

day 25: 45 minute strength & cardio

day 26: 30 minute stretch

day 27: 30 minute slim leg workout + 15 minute slim leg stretch

day 28: 30 minute pilates core

day 29: 30 minute hiit

day 30: 1 hour yoga

Things that I simply LOVE 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

lacy bras and pretty lingerie

oatmeal and HOT coffee on rainy days

layering perfumes

putting notes and annotations in books

coming up with code names for the guys that we are talking to

writing letters to my friends even though we talk daily

making playlists for every occasion but its all just Lana

starting chats with "GIRL" to signal urgency

big earrings and too many bracelets

hosting brunch and dinner at my place

shitposting on main

trying a new makeup and actually liking the result

wearing sweats and a bra as my at-home fit

seeing results when dieting and working out

boy gossip after long days of studying lmao

posting ig stories and yapping

making tumblr gifs of myself

decorating for holidays way too early

going to the store and smelling every scented candle until I find the perfect one

same for the tea section. I love tea.

being asked where my clothes are from

when I smile at old people and they smile back

the feeling of your brain being slow and numb after a good study session

staying up to talk to my girls

doing my skincare after a day of not wearing makeup

floortime

having a cold and therefore not feeling guilty for being lazy (unfortunately, I am a workaholic)

tiktok tarot readings that feed into my delusions

these are just things that I PERSONALLY love, and if you get it, were besties. <3

my insta -> @ malusokay

daily check-in: november 8th

workouts:

full body: everyday full body pilates workout 10 min

arms: slim arms in 1 week - arm fat loss workout 10 min

abs: abs workout- at home total core routine 10 min

workout 4: 5km walk

posture & flexibility exercises:

lower back stretch: how to do a backbend fast! back flexibility stretches for beginners

step count: 11,058 steps

fasting:

stuck to my fasting window (12 pm - 6 pm): yes

notes: super easy to stick to my fasting today

water intake: 3 litres

weight: 56.7 kg (exam stress weight increase)

zone minutes: 20 minutes

supplements:

supplements taken today: b6, b12 and women's multivitamin

sleep quality:

hours of sleep: 7 hours + 40 mins

quality: fair

HOW TO CREATE AN ENERGISING MORNING ROUTINE

WAKE UP EARLIER. Waking up early looks different for a lot of us, and i’m not going to reccomend waking up at 5am for a lot of us. Whatever time you wake up now, I would suggest waking up 30 minutes or so earlier and see how you feel. 

If you feel like you really need those 30 minutes to sleep, then use it sleeping. Whatever time makes you feel like you are at the best, is the perfect time for you. It does take some trial and error to find this time, but it’s worth it. 

Another thing, I generally wouldn’t suggest waking up past 10am. If you sleep in a little too much, you do become a bit sluggish during the first hours of your day, but whatever works for you. 

SUNLIGHT FIRST THING. Going outside, a hot girl walk or simply opening your windows to allow the sun to come in helps our body to become awake. Natural sunlight is a sign to our bodies that we need to start the day. 

This also promotes a healthy rise in cortisol to support our mood, focus and energy. This natural increase in cortisol helps with melatonin production in the evening, which improves the quality of your sleep.

Exposure to unnatural light can disrupt this rhythm, so it’s best to stay away from any devices and turn off of your lights before and after you wake up. Ideally, an hour after you wake up, should be spent device-free. (aside from alarms or setting habit tasks) 

NO PROCESSED, CAFFEINATED OR SUGARY FOODS, before you have a proper meal. When we eat these foods before a nutritious meal, it can lead to a spike in cortisol and blood sugar levels first thing in the morning, which leads to crashing in the afternoon after the spike goes down. 

When we eat after we wake up, it stabilises our blood sugar levels and replenishes ourselves after our fast. If need to be, meal prep the night before so you can have a quick and easy breakfast. As long as it properly fuels your body. 

GENTLE EXERCISES. You’ve just woken up, so you don’t want to rush your body into something too hardcore until you feel like you’re fully awake. Gentle exercises could mean stretching, a light walk or if you’re feeling a bit energised, pilates. 

SET INTENTIONS. Set the theme for how you want to feel at the start of the day, during and end. It doesn’t have to be something productive, but a feeling that you want to achieve and maximise and use that feeling in what you do. 

For ex. In the morning, I want to feel calm. During the day, I want to feel productive. At the end of the day, I want to feel accomplished. 

SHORT TO-DO LISTS! To-do lists that are more than 3 major tasks usually are unmanageable. While you can break down those 3 major tasks, try to avoid having more than 3 major tasks. 

If you do have more than 3, consider moving them into a different date if its not urgent or cutting that task completely if its not urgent and unimportant. How you assess the urgency and importance of your tasks is up to you, as you know what productivity means to you. 

Remember the basics as well, such as hydration, mindfullness, and at least one fun activity in the morning. Thank you so much for the support, even while I was a bit inactive <3

5 Classics for girly girls 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Emily of New Moon

The bittersweet process of growing up and finding where you truly belong... The perfect read for the start of a new school year. After her father’s death, Emily Starr is sent to live with her snobbish relatives at New Moon farm. Thrust into an unfamiliar and often cold environment, Emily faces numerous challenges. However, as time passes, she begins to adapt and discovers the beauty in her surroundings. With the support of her new friends—Teddy, Perry, and Ilse—Emily not only finds solace but also discovers her own creative talents, helping her carve out a place for herself in this new chapter of her life.

“If it's IN you to climb you must -- there are those who MUST lift their eyes to the hills -- they can't breathe properly in the valleys.”

Jane Eyre

A true classic for all my fellow gothic-lit enthusiasts, Jane Eyre, reminds us that everyone deserves a love that consumes, challenges, and transforms the very core of your being, offering both profound joy and deep heartache (we love a good situationsship). Following Jane Eyre, an orphaned and mistreated girl who endures a harsh upbringing but grows into a strong, independent woman. As she takes a position as a governess at Thornfield Hall, she encounters the enigmatic Mr. Rochester, sparking a profound and tumultuous romance. Their intense connection is marred by secrets and personal demons, revealing the complexities of their relationship.

“Jane, be still; don't struggle so like a wild, frantic bird, that is rending its own plumage in its desperation." "I am no bird, and no net ensnares me; I am a free human being, with an independent will; which I now exert to leave you.”

The Secret Garden

Mary Lennox, a spoiled and neglected girl, is sent to live with her uncle after the death of her parents. Initially ill-tempered and withdrawn, Mary’s curiosity is sparked by rumours of a hidden, abandoned garden on the estate. As she explores and begins to restore this secret garden, she experiences a beautiful shift (glow-up era). The once gloomy and sickly Mary starts to bloom alongside the garden, rediscovering happiness, vibrancy, and a sense of belonging, making the story a heartwarming tale of growth and recovery.

“At first, people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then they begin to hope it can be done, then they see it can be done--then it is done, and all the world wonders why it was not done centuries ago.”

Pride and Prejudice

Truly a classic that has shaped my romantic expectations hahah... Elizabeth Bennet battles societal expectations and her own misjudgments in 19th-century England. When the aloof Mr Darcy (he'd totally be a ghoster in the 21st century just saying...) first crosses her path, their initial encounters are fraught with tension and misunderstanding. However, as Elizabeth delves deeper, she uncovers the complexities of Darcy’s character and her own heart.

“I could no longer help saying that I loved him. I loved him not only for his sake but for his own sake. I loved him because he was the only person who had ever really loved me for myself. I loved him because he had made me feel that I was worthy of being loved.”

The Little Prince

A young, otherworldly prince from a tiny planet travels across the universe, meeting various inhabitants and learning profound life lessons. His journey brings him to Earth, where he encounters a stranded pilot and shares his reflections on love, loss, and the essence of human connections. Through whimsical adventures and encounters, The Little Prince explores the importance of seeing with the heart rather than the eyes and reminds us of the value of friendship and innocence.

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched; they are felt with the heart.”

you guys asked for more academia/book stuff so I thought this might be a nice start, especially since I know that many of you are just getting into classics; these are all very much suitable for beginners!! <3

love ya ･:*₊‧✩

small things to improve your life 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

compliment people more often

pick up a crafty hobby

start to learn a language that you've always wanted to speak

take more photos and videos

watch movies, documentaries, shows, read, write, etc etc..

practice your makeup skills and try different styles

law of affirmation

start a blog (or just read mine hehe <3)

write essays on whatever interests you at the moment

make new playlists and update old ones

workout, stretch, go for walks

allow yourself to be bored sometimes; you don't have to constantly be doing things

talk to yourself with love and kindness

go thrifting and update your wardrobe

try new coffee shops and find your favourite one

embody the energy that you'd like to attract

dress up every day, you don't need a special occasion to wear your favourite outfits

decorate and rearrange your room until it feels like you

journal and write about your day, dreams, and ideas

manifest and visualise

reach out to your friends more often

visit more museums and art galleries

talk to the moon

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3

my insta: @ malusokay

love ya ･:*₊‧✩

🧁🤍THE BATMAN EFFECT🤍🧁

🤍Are you aware of the meme where people start identifying themselves as batman ? Turns out it is more than a meme. The batman effect means where you pretend to be character like Batman or Barbie to complete a task.

🧁In a University of Michigan a researcher , Professor Ethan Kross , he completed a study he completed with several colleagues where a sample of 4 and 6 year old children were invited to complete a boring task on computer . The children were instructed to work hard , keep it as long as they could and they were reminded the task were boring . To test their commitment to the cause , the researchers informed the kids that they could take the break whenever they wanted to play a game on tablet .

Group one - Researchers told them to ask themselves , " Am I working hard ? " while they completed the task.

Group Two- Researchers instructed these children to ask themselves , " is y/n working hard ? " .

Group Three - Researchers told these kids children to pretend they were a favourite hardworking character like Batman , Bob the Builder or Dora the explorer . They received a prop like a cape as a visual reminder to act like their character. They were instructed to ask themselves, " Is Batman working hard ? "

Result - Children in group one did not enjoy their task . They took most breaks and their motivation was poor. The second group did a little better . The third group or the Batman group worked harder , took fewer breaks and enjoyed their tasks more than others.

🤍The batman effect works for not only children but for adults too !! Beyonce has an alter ego " Sasha Fierce " , her alter ego allowed her to be confident . Adele also has an alter ego " Sasha Carter " , her alter ego was a combination of Beyonce's Sasha Fierce and the real music star June Cartar. Adele admitted that her alter ego helped her give her best to every performance during her breakout year. I believe even k-pop idols have alter egos , there are idols who are bubbly and shy in real life but on stage they are confident.

🧁The Batman effect helps us to reduce anxiety. Adopting an alter ego is an extreme form of self-distancing which involves taking a step back from our immediate feelings to allow us to view a situation more dispassionately. When you think of yourself as a separate identity , it is not you that has to perform the task , it is Batman . It can help you to build confidence, increase concentration , improve your emotional regulation and help you to gain self-control . Your alter ego has no limitations.

🧁So the next time , you lose your motivation to study ? Pretend you are Rory Gilmore. ( whoever you upto for study inspiration) . You feel you cannot do anything ? Pretend you are Barbie. You feel you cannot dance ? Pretend you are Michael Jackson.

💗🍰THE WATCHMAN AND THE CAPTAIN🍰💗

🍰The conscious and subconscious are not two minds , they are merely two spheres of activity within one mind. Your conscious mind is the reasoning or logical mind . The conscious mind has the the choice to choose. For example , you choose your home , books etc . You make all your decisions with your conscious mind.

💗Without any conscious choice on your part ,your heart is kept functionally automatically and the vital function of digestion , circulation and breathing are carried out by subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind accepts what is impressed upon it or what you consciously believe.

🍰Think of your conscious mind as the WATCHMAN at the gate. The chief function of your conscious mind is to protect your subconscious from false impressions . Your subconscious mind accepts everything and it does not have a choice to reject , it must accept your suggestions. You are like a CAPTAIN navigating a ship . The CAPTAIN must give the right orders and likewise , you must give the right orders i.e. right thoughts and images to your subconscious mind , which controls and governs all your experiences.

💗Be very careful to give your subconscious only those suggestions that heal , bless , elevate and inspire you in all your ways.

🍰Realize that you have the power to choose. Choose healthy and happiness. You can choose to be friendly or unfriendly. Choose to be joyous , co-operative , friendly , loveable and whole world will respond. Choose life ! Choose love ! Choose health ! Choose happiness !

miscellaneous study tips

do all readings, even the ones that are 'suggested' but not required. they were suggested for a reason.

get to class early. getting to class early gives you time to be prepared and ready to study. review your notes from the day before, lay out all your supplies, ask the teacher any lingering questions about the material.

your feet feel cold? put on socks. you feel thirsty? fill up your waterbottle and leave it beside you. make yourself comfortable whilst you are studying, or you will hate it.

if you can't find the motivation to get to work on something, force yourself to pick it up for just two minutes. you're very likely to continue.

if you're reading this I just want to let you know you look like a daydream