The Heart Of Practice Is Building Trust So That Ever Deeper Levels Of Energy Exchange Become Not Only

One more time,

Feminism is the inherent truth that any woman who wishes to submit to a man has the right to do so and that she has an inherent, constant control over the state of that consent.

Anyone who pretends Feminism isn’t the platform on which consent is built is simply an abuser incapable of earning the consent of a woman’s submission.

Tumblr blogs are a public facing platform that is not an in-community space, and it is important (especially in today’s world of glorifying the idiocy of small men’s misogyny resulting from their inherent lack of competency and self development as men) that more effort be put into establishing a framework for successful community rather than solely exercising the escapism of in-community sexual fantasies.

Aftercare. 💙✨

I know most people know what subdrop is, but for the few who don’t I’ll explain.

Subdrop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it released during a scene or session.

Meaning, after you‘ve come down from your high, you start to feel mentally and emotionally attacked from what just happened. You start to think all these bad things about yourself and how someone normal would not find what just occurred pleasurable in anyways.

That’s why aftercare is important. Showering your sub in compliments,food, cuddle sessions. Just stuff that will make them feel like you care and that you don’t judge them for enjoying what they like.

Another thing, I’m positive that most people don’t know is what topdrop is. It’s the same as subdrop but it affects doms/dommes.

I know some people will be like- “Doms/dommes don’t go through that, nothing like that bothers them.” That’s where you’re wrong.

Remember we’re all human so no one is exempt from feeling used or feeling disgusted with their actions even though they shouldn’t be.

Not many know this but being a dom/domme is exhausting. A good top plans physical punishments or sexual scenes down to the T so their is no room for accidents and after all that planning and executing said plan they sometimes feel bad for doing what they did or even feel used in a sense.

That’s why aftercare is important for both parties. Show them that you care and that you appreciate what they did. Reassure them that they didn’t hurt you in a bad way and that they only did what they did to help you grow. ASK👏 THEM👏 IF👏 THEY’RE👏 OKAY👏!! Especially right after a session.

That can be the difference between showing that you care or not.

AFTERCARE IS A NECESSITY FOR BOTH PARTICIPANTS!!👏💙✨

The instructions are back!

CW: light degradation, some name calling, praise mixed with degradation. Not a hypnosis file!

I tell you what I want you to do each day of this week and how long at a minimum you should edge, and how you should do it. I won't ruin the surprises. You'll have to listen. As always, my messages are open, and I enjoy hearing from you. Have fun, and get edging!

Anyone who is not a feminist is not practicing Dominance and submission.

Feminism (the understanding that all people are inherently entitled to equal rights and justice) is the ONLY mechanism by which a woman can participate in submission. Without a starting point of mutually recognized equality a woman is not capable of exercising submission, and she has only the ability to accept and accommodate her own abuse at the hands of someone who (it seems most commonly) was incapable of earning her actual submission.

Only poorly informed people promote or support one person having an innate and unearned right to hold power over another person.

I’m so happy I finally made a tumblr for accepting my place. I used to just look at so many good accounts but never follow, but I couldn’t stop looking. I’m still learning what I like and still consider myself a feminist I appreciate any help!

Watch this video. Really watch it. See how she is challenged by this, and then so clearly feels pleased at having succeeded in providing this service to her partner?

Self degradation as a display of your commitment of service to your dominant partner can take many forms.

Some of the essential elements are:

That it be a task that poses some degree of challenge for the submissive to overcome in order to perform it. The greater the challenge the greater the sense of success and pleasure in having overcome it;

That the submissive performing the task amplifies their feeling of submission and their partner’s feeling of control/dominance when it is performed. Again, the greater the challenge the more rewarding the energy is from performing the task sincerely and successfully;

That it serves to support some value the dominant has, regardless of whether the submissive understands that value. Letting go of “why” is a big part of the trust necessary to overcome big challenges. Understanding comes from practicing together.

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Desiring to serve largely becomes an exercise in practicing the performance of challenging tasks that demonstrate commitment to service.

The dominant partner is going to explore having the submissive perform a variety of low rated and challenging tasks from their checklist because performance of these difficult tasks is how true submission and commitment to service can be most dramatically explored.

Feeling the energy flow as a submissive obeys through extreme challenges is often an intrinsic aspect of this family of kinks.

My good girl, my ashtray, I'm going to smoke my Cuban cigar, open your mouth, I don't want to see a tear fall, the consequences could be much worse, and remember to always thank me 🖤

Trolls are largely just poorly developed sadists with no real world consensual outlet to exercise their inept form of sadism so they attack others trying desperately to get themselves a dopamine kick. They’re addicted to it and social media companies are primarily built on profiting from systems that encourage and enable these trolls in doing it.

Being in my late 40s, having experienced what the world was like without the internet and with it, I truly still cannot fathom people! Would you actually be brave enough to say such horrible things in person? The sad thing is Trolls probably are just as horrible in real life. Let people do what they want and be who they want to be. They are not hurting you, so Trolls stop Trolling and go and work on your own serious issues. Try to just be a nice person. You will be amazed how your life will change.

It is important to understand that being a feminist simply means that a woman implicitly starts from a position of equality. Some women will then use that position of equality to choose to give some elements of their power over to a man. In the case of female submission this (a starting point of equality and the choice to give power to another) is in fact the only path to actual female submission. The narrative of intrinsic female inferiority is the narrative of weak and incompetent men who cannot earn the gift of a woman’s power.

I'm a feminist but...

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Edging is not a punishment.

It’s a necessity and an earned right. Edging enhances feelings, increases stimulation and promotes desire. It keeps you wet, needy, controlled and willing to do anything, just to have more of it. Edging helps train your dumb little mind, reminds you of who you are and helps reduce unwanted thoughts. Edging gives weight to your begging, your pleading and your tears. You need it and earn it, you learn from it and rely on it.

The real punishment would be to not let you edge.

Tips for faceslapping women

- Find her tolerance limit: First hit her softly and then gradually increase the force of each slap if you see she can take it. - Always make her close her mouth before the slap to avoid her teeth cutting inside her mouth during the slap. - Always hit her in the jaw. Never close to the ear (audition loss hazard), nose (bleeding nose harzard) or eyes. Any hit above the cheekbone (around the eye) will give her a black eye. - If you wanna slap her hard in one cheek, then is useful to support her other cheek with your other hand. This is done to avoid a strong “whiplash effect” on her head. -Avoid slapping her as a punishment/discipline. She has a fatty butt and some sensitive thighs that can be used for that purpose. Those are much safer to hit than her face. Use them. - Never slap her with anger.

A good slap puts a naughty girl immediately in her place. It makes her shut up immediately so it’s really effective against a back-talking girl. Normally it brings instant tears of submission. But it can be a severe tool, so it must be used with care.

Remember: Women are delicate beings and they are easy to break. Better play with your toys without breaking them… so you can keep on playing!

Cheers

;-)

Javier