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Self delusional misinformation like this is why everyone rightly is laughing at actual “patriarchy” promoting people.

Feminism is simply the assertion that all people have an equal right to choose the life they want for themselves.

Weak men who cannot earn a woman’s submission demonize things out in the world so they have something to blame other than themselves for their inability to develop good relationships that reflect the lifestyle they desire. That lack and subsequent lashing out are pitiful, really.

Feminism simply means a woman gets to choose what she wants rather than pretending that weak men have an unearned right to hold power over what a woman chooses for herself.

Some men will choose not to have children and work. Some women will, also. That equality in having self determination is feminism. Some men want a submissive wife. Some women want to be a submissive wife. Weak men tantrum all about like toddlers without their blankie demanding a submissive wife because these men lack the developmental milestones to earn that sort of relationship.

Make it make sense…

You go too long without practice and your mind strays deep into the shame of your failure to become better.

When the time comes for you to perform you lack focus, skill, and self control. The depraved pornographic imagery and stories your cunt craves embarrasses you in no small part because of instantly it makes you wet, and how easily it makes you cum.

You’ve watched women getting off on being drugged. Gangfucked in dirty public bathrooms. Toilet licking whores getting ass fucked while prettier women hold their faces in the piss water. Brides crawling down the aisle having been collared in a ceremony before her friends and family. You have watched women slap and spank themselves. Write words of self degradation on their bodies only to turn on their camera for an anonymous audience who encourages her to fuck herself on her bedpost in aroused desperation. Public displays of women enthusiastically obeying their owners demands that they hand over their panties to strangers. Orgies of people fucking in nightclubs for swingers. You have watched women suck and fuck horse cocks until they cum all over their faces and inside them.

You have imagined yourself lead, leashed by the collar to the center of a gangbang of strangers. Load after load of cum being dumped into your aching and well used ass and pussy. Smeared across your face. Swallowing for any that will allow you to show your sincere appreciation for being used.

You excitedly watch as subs find and leap into the deep hole that their masters help them into and you want it to be you. By the time your undisciplined arousal looks you deep into the eye your orgasm has abated and your shame keeps you in hiding from the truth until next your craven need demands the filth that pushes you into blissful oblivion.

Practice under direct training so you don’t have to do anything but skillfully obey and develop ever more accurate anticipation of what he wants.

Does he get off on you crawling and licking his boots? Don’t confuse the fact that you want to do something with a mistaken belief that it is because he wants it. So, you want to be told to crawl and to lick his boots. He provides that to you as an opportunity for you to use what you like as a way to get and stay turned on while showing him your utter adoration and fully undivided attention. That serving him with your attention, adoration, and arousal is really what he wants. He wants to push you through challenges while you prove you can maintain yourself.

There it is. There is the practice.

Whatever it may be for you, use that brainstorming as a template to figure out what to do, how to do it, when to practice it, who to practice with, and most importantly WHY.

Beg l, while being sincerely adoring of him and his patience, for your partner/owner to give you another lesson, another chance to learn, a deeper discussion. Beg for the training you so obviously need. The training that will open up the doors for you to experience the kinks that make you cum in your fantasies.

Follow through.

Train.

Practice.

Support your partner/Dominant/owner’s efforts to teach you, to guide you, to liberate you from the societal lie that your sexual identity is to be hidden away when in fact what should be done is this:

Develop it.

Celebrate it.

Appreciate it.

Share it.

Embrace it.

Empower it.

Explore it.

PRACTICE IT.

Become ever more of the sexually adventurous story that gets you and your partner off.

Go to swing clubs. Create networks of new friends by becoming the fun people who are consistent about being at events where you can grow and practice your kinks. Practice between parties so your confidence is high. Let your partner contribute to the skills you learn so you are pleasing to each other. Support their kinks by manifesting and embodying those you can accept and embrace, and expect support from them for your own.

No parties like that around? Host them.

Figure it out. Priorities demand you embrace the time it takes to invest in creating the sexual adventures of your daydreams.

Be patient and consistent while your partner learns how to lead you. Teach and guide them toward what you need as part of your communication and practice.

Become a successful source of education and inspiration for each other and those who will follow behind you.

More than all of that, though, grow your relationship by delving deeply and consistently into the communication and trust required of these adventures together.

Love is an adventure, and you are entitled to experience the sex life you dream up together.

The negotiations for what a sub wants really are the starting point for discussions.

Does the sub want to be owned?

How often do they want their state of being owned to be presented into their daily lives?

What nuances do they prefer for their own direct pleasure and what do they accept for the pleasure of their owner?

What does the sub need to experience and how often do they need to experience it for the ownership arrangement to be a fulfilling interest?

Do they want to derive their own direct or indirect pleasure from what they do for their owner’s pleasure? How often? In what mix of each? Is it every time they perform an act for his pleasure? Never? Half the time? Etc.

When they are not receiving direct pleasure how do they want to be made to feel while servicing their owner’s pleasure? Does feeling safe or feeling scared matter? Does feeling appreciated or discardable matter? Does feeling praised or denigrated matter?

Does experiencing certain traditionally “negative” social elements of service give them indirect pleasure such as feelings of objectification/degradation/humiliation/meanness/abuse etc… Do they require simultaneously supportive elements from your owner?

Aftercare is essential for both owners and submissives. Aftercare establishes a return to the relationship’s underlying grounding point. The neutral place where care for each other is the essential truth and from which each of you understands the roles you are choosing to play and can speak about them honestly.

Discovering what areas of life are and are not subject to ownership and submission is part of the journey. Sometimes there are things that you’ll want to add or remove. Trying things for a while and then shifting them to suit your goals as your experience grows and changes together is one of the most essential pleasures of practicing BDSM.

When I say I want to be a submissive little wife, this is what I mean:

I want to be talked down to, humiliated and babied.

I want to ask permission, be told no and have my wants controlled by my husband.

I want to be scolded and corrected and told how to behave.

I want to be put over my man’s lap and spanked like a child until I beg and cry.

I want to be owned and obedient in every sense.

I want to be his, to use and shape however he wants.

Aftercare. 💙✨

I know most people know what subdrop is, but for the few who don’t I’ll explain.

Subdrop is what happens to your body after you’ve drained your brain of all the hormones and chemicals that it released during a scene or session.

Meaning, after you‘ve come down from your high, you start to feel mentally and emotionally attacked from what just happened. You start to think all these bad things about yourself and how someone normal would not find what just occurred pleasurable in anyways.

That’s why aftercare is important. Showering your sub in compliments,food, cuddle sessions. Just stuff that will make them feel like you care and that you don’t judge them for enjoying what they like.

Another thing, I’m positive that most people don’t know is what topdrop is. It’s the same as subdrop but it affects doms/dommes.

I know some people will be like- “Doms/dommes don’t go through that, nothing like that bothers them.” That’s where you’re wrong.

Remember we’re all human so no one is exempt from feeling used or feeling disgusted with their actions even though they shouldn’t be.

Not many know this but being a dom/domme is exhausting. A good top plans physical punishments or sexual scenes down to the T so their is no room for accidents and after all that planning and executing said plan they sometimes feel bad for doing what they did or even feel used in a sense.

That’s why aftercare is important for both parties. Show them that you care and that you appreciate what they did. Reassure them that they didn’t hurt you in a bad way and that they only did what they did to help you grow. ASK👏 THEM👏 IF👏 THEY’RE👏 OKAY👏!! Especially right after a session.

That can be the difference between showing that you care or not.

AFTERCARE IS A NECESSITY FOR BOTH PARTICIPANTS!!👏💙✨

Choosing IS feminism.

Why are we cursed with such an ignorant population of men so desperate to control women that they reveal their stupidity on the topic of women with such relentless enthusiasm…

Vacuous and ignorant use of multiple fallacies is a typical form of self defense for those needing to pretend they have a biological right above others as a mask for their lack of ability to earn it.

The “bounces off of me and sticks to you” rebuttal from this oddly flailing patriarchy blog is just a little icing on the cake of the deflective and self absorbed dysfunction inherent in patriarchy obsessed nonsense peddlers.

Make it make sense…

The real journey begins when you accept that many of your daily life’s elements are secondary traits of your life.

You are a submissive who has a job as a ______.

You are a submissive who lives at ________.

You are a submissive who married _________.

You are a submissive who does ________ for recreation and exercise.

Etc… etc…

You can of course choose things that take precedence. Like, you are a mother, sister, friend, wife, etc… but the truth is that the higher you elevate your own self understanding to reflect that you are a submissive above other things, the more enjoyable your life will be and the less you will have to think about how your life as a submissive fits in with the rest of your life and rather to witness how all of your other life activities are an extension of who you are as a submissive.

The clarity of this, regardless of how you ultimately balance it, is essential.

list in your mind what you can manage, and direct your positive energy towards them

You can't be obedient only when you feel like it or only when it suits you. If you promise Him your obedience then give Him your obedience. Always.

When cock worshiping...

Your goal is not to make him cum. As much as you may love and crave that hot load on your tongue and down your throat, this isn’t about you or what you want, dummy. He will cum when he’s good and god damn ready.

When you’re cock servicing, it’s about providing him with a blissful reprieve from the stress of life. You know, all that stuff he takes care of so you you don’t have to… because you’re no good at it. It is beyond selfish to “go for the cum”. That ache in your jaw, the soreness in the back of your neck, that bit of headache that’s building, the hard floor under your knees… none of that is more important than you communicating your devotion to him by simply loving his dick, and the pleased relaxation he damned well deserves.

Don’t you dare cut it short. He determines if it’s a quick five-minute cum and go, an hour long warm up, or an all night marathon of cum after cum after cum. If he wants a mouth on his dick for two solid days, you either dig deep and dive in, or find a friend and tag team that beast.