You Can't Be Obedient Only When You Feel Like It Or Only When It Suits You. If You Promise Him Your Obedience

People. I’m not going to keep saying this.

When someone is being submissive? Giving up some control? You respect that. They are trusting you, relying on you. Don’t fucking betray that trust. Educate yourself, be respectful and keep them safe.

When someone is dominating you, remember! Their comfort level is just as important as yours. They are relying on you to communicate your needs and problems. Don’t suffer something in silence because you want to make things easy or better.

PEOPLE ARE NOT KINK DISPENSERS. People are. People. With lives and feelings and emotions. Give your partners respect, because they are giving themselves to you.

This is actually a too often undiscussed topic.

A lot of people don’t understand the importance of very fully draining every possible drop of cum from a partner. (I think this mostly stems from a lack of anatomical understanding of the orgasm.)

Yes, an orgasm can come and go creating a flash of climactic pleasure, however if the various glands/organs involved in orgasm are not drained there will be a persisting feeling of pressure and incompleteness of the orgasm that lingers with varying intensity depending on the amount of fluid left un-ejaculated in the glands and tubes of the reproductive system. For a truly complete orgasm experience to be achieved, the cock has to be continuously and intensely drained CONSIDERABLY beyond that first few waves of initial orgasm.

Getting to that point via vaginal or anal sex can be difficult especially if the vagina or asshole is not still a very tight sleeve around the cock during the orgasm. If you want to really give the best orgasm possible, it can sometimes require manual or oral stimulation to drain the cock after an orgasm from vaginal or anal sex. With oral sex getting to a well drained state of pleasure requires ongoing effort to draw all the cum from the cock, usually as a hybrid of oral and manual efforts.

This eventually leads to a state where the pleasure from being so well drained tips over and overstimulation forces you to tap out. If you are not frequently draining your partner until they tap out from overstimulation then you should try this more often and talk about it to see which your partner enjoys more.

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As an important and related tangent thought:

A lot of men (like myself) are attuned to their partner’s energy when orgasming and if the orgasm started from oral sex, if you reject swallowing and/or negatively react to having his cum in your mouth it is experienced as a deeply dysfunctional type of rejection. Experiencing this deep rejection is related to the partner not deriving sufficient personal enjoyment and pleasure from making their partner cum that their pleasure state doesn’t allow them to overcome whatever their aversion to cum is, and then this diminishes their role in the connection made during orgasm. It is replaced by a sense of them simply performing a perfunctory/indifferent/mechanical action for the orgasming partner. This feeling can be very emotionally disconnecting for the person who is cumming. It isn’t necessary to always drain every drop down your throat, but making a conscious effort to show enjoyment of having the opportunity to swallow some of their partners cum is encouragement that will lead to that partner being less hesitant and more excited about cumming when you do it in the future. Orgasms will be easier to elicit if you establish a sincere track record of being enthusiastic and thankful for their cum.

needing to suck him dry while he's writhing and moaning

just some PSA's to subs:

hard doms really are like that. they aren't joking.

it's okay not to be into certain kinks. aftercare. ect. set the boundary.

babe, him being an online dom doesn't mean he's experienced. on that note, MOST doms are only online doms with no experience.

learn how to get yourself off. and never be scared to tell him how to.

there's someone into that weird thing you like.

oh, there's also someone into that deep dark one you'd never admit. trust me. it's literally fine.

hookup with other subs. trust me.

take care of your bodily health first.

ask for what you need. ask for it. if they refuse to give it to you. find someone who will.

EVEN AS A SUB. TAKE NO SHIT. DONT BE WALKED ON.

When cock worshiping...

Your goal is not to make him cum. As much as you may love and crave that hot load on your tongue and down your throat, this isn’t about you or what you want, dummy. He will cum when he’s good and god damn ready.

When you’re cock servicing, it’s about providing him with a blissful reprieve from the stress of life. You know, all that stuff he takes care of so you you don’t have to… because you’re no good at it. It is beyond selfish to “go for the cum”. That ache in your jaw, the soreness in the back of your neck, that bit of headache that’s building, the hard floor under your knees… none of that is more important than you communicating your devotion to him by simply loving his dick, and the pleased relaxation he damned well deserves.

Don’t you dare cut it short. He determines if it’s a quick five-minute cum and go, an hour long warm up, or an all night marathon of cum after cum after cum. If he wants a mouth on his dick for two solid days, you either dig deep and dive in, or find a friend and tag team that beast.

The key here, is to choose the path you want your arousal driven adventures to take, and to then enthusiastically practice what you need to practice in order to bring that life into reality.

Edging with the proper focus, and purpose for practice is an essential part of this.

Be a good girl.

Identify what you want your life to be like.

Use consistency in edging and a goal oriented practice to help yourself manifest it.

If you’re ashamed of your kinks, you just aren’t horny and desperate enough to accept that you’re better off as a complete degenerate. More edging will solve that. Agree and obey.

Remember:

The first consent you must obtain is your own

[THIS USER UNDERSTANDS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DOM/SUB AND TOP/BOTTOM]

I’m not sure who to attribute this to, but it is this type of content we need more blogs to be posting