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Happy St. Patrick’s Day! As a person of predominantly Irish American heritage, I’ve had many an argument w/ my more racist family members about the wildly inaccurate story they tell themselves in an effort to be victims and invalidate Black Americans’ true experiences of racism and the legacy of slavery. So just spreading a dose of reality today!

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one thing that really bothers me in the conversations about transandrophobia is how people imply that infantilization isn't a Big Deal.

The posts I've seen argue that being infantilized just hurts feelings and trans men/mascs just have to get thicker skin.

This is so incredibly hurtful for so many reasons. I want to think more on it and add to this post later but I just wanted to get it out there that the idea that infantilization is just hurt feelings and doesn't lead to loss of body autonomy and rights makes me want to scream

It's kinda funny how when some people see a person with it/it's pronouns they said that it's pronouns are "dehumanizing" but it's dehumanizing to THEM, It's that other person's pronouns not yours, if it's comfortable of using it/it's pronouns they let it be who it are! It may be dehumanizing to YOU but not to IT.

Love bombing is not a euphemism for "too much affection too soon," or "high desire for contact."

"Love bombing" is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.

Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.

And I know these days there's a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.

If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not "accidentally" abusing them.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.

Love bombing is about using someone's desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control and will feel disinclined to leave.

happy LDoV

wearing sky-colored shoes to hide from the devil. earth colored hat to hide from god

when the times get rough and I lose sight of the goal i just. reread “the orange” by wendy cope again & remember. that’s where I’m going folks. sooner or later, whatever it takes.

Friendly reminder that when you only talk about high masking and low masking, you throw autistics who can't mask under the bus.

We're not low masking, we DON'T mask.

This makes us no masking. Not low masking.

Hi, I'm sorry if you aren't the best person to ask but i cant find anyone else but is it ablest of me to avoid verbally communicating even if I have the ability?

Like I can talk, and it's not particularly hard for me usually, but I feel more comfortable not doing it usually, especially during the times it does hurt. I'm autistic but I don't know if that's the reason why, and I worry it's inconsiderate to not do it by choice since some people don't have one.

Sorry again

It isn't ableist. I've said it before and I will say it again, everyone deserves a comfortable way to communicate. And for you, if using a way other than oral speech is more comfortable, do that!

You deserve to be comfortable, and if that means using AAC, sign, etc. to communicate even though you are speaking. Do it. Somebody who reblogged one of my posts said this, and I think it applies:

"Its called an aid for a reason. You don't NEED a jacket, but winter will be a lot easier if you have one.".

Also, the more people who use AAC the more normalized and available it'll become!

See, while "gender is not inherently tied to sexuality" is true, I think it's a bit more complex than that. Often, you'll fond that society conflate gender and sexuality to the point that they influence each other, and that's important also to recognize.

My manhood isn't contradicted by my queerness, but I spent so many years feeling like I have failed as a man because societal manhood hinges on performing heterosexuality. It actually made me dysphoric to be queer because my manhood was already under scrutiny.

I've found that this is something cis queer guys and I have been able to bond over, though. Even though these guys are cis, their own manhood is just as criticized because of their queerness. They have been treated as lesser men or not even as men but gay men (derogatory). It's made me so much more aware of how fragile manhood can be if you base it on society rather than your own internal world.