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10 Reasons I’m a Submissive

(in no particular order)

1. Because his pleasure is my pleasure.

There are lots of things in life that bring me pleasure. A perfectly roasted chicken. Unicorns. Glitter. Tootsie rolls. Fairy lights. Getting an A+. A really good action movie with lots of explosions and guns and violence and goofiness. Debating ridiculous philosophical and political and other stuff with my best friends. Traveling. Getting the perfect messy bun. Literally, the list goes on and on and on.

But nothing brings me pleasure the way that his pleasure does, the way my Dom’s pleasure does. And I’m not just talking about sexual pleasure – I’m talking about all kinds of pleasure. Sucking his cock and taking it all the way down my throat over and over until he feeds me his cum and tells me what a good girl I am for him and getting to revel in the fact that I’ve given him such pleasure that he couldn’t help but cum brings me such tremendous pleasure. But you know what else brings me pleasure? Knowing how pleased he is when I serve him his favorite dinner. Knowing how much it pleases him when I fold his t-shirts the right way. Knowing how much he loves and gets pleasure out of watching me sing along (badly) to my bubblegum pop playlist while I wash the kitchen counters. Watching his face light up when I meet him with a drink and a smile when he gets home from work. Kneeling at his feet and leaning against his leg so he can pet my hair while he reads or watches TV and giving him the comfort of knowing I’m there, knowing I kneel for him, knowing I serve him, knowing I love him, knowing that I’m his with that very simple act.

And when it’s sexual? The way he chuckles when I’m tied to his bed and writhing beneath his touch and whimpering and begging for release? It makes me smile inside. The way it turns him on to deny me? It makes me even wetter. The sick and twisted joy he gets out of ruining an orgasm or denying me one? It makes my girl parts tingle and makes me beg even harder. If he didn’t get pleasure out of the things he did to me? It wouldn’t be the same. I get turned on because of his dirty words and his talented fingers and the way he fucks me until I can’t think straight, sure – but, even more, I get turned on by knowing how much pleasure he gets out of watching me whimper and moan and beg and cry and do what I’m told.

It’s all kinds of pleasure. Any pleasure I give him, any way I please him, any way I make his day better or make him happy or make things just a little bit easier for him brings me pleasure. It pleases me to make him feel good. It makes me happy to know that I’ve made him happy. It makes me feel whole and safe and happy and good to bring him pleasure. It lights me up inside. That’s why I serve him – because pleasing him is what makes me the happiest I can be.

2. Because I crave structure and I crave it from him.

I am a person who craves structure. No, I don’t just crave it – I need it. I do better with rules and limits and a schedule in place.

But here’s the thing – I don’t do well with following the rules and limits and schedule when it’s wholly self-imposed. I can create a structure to follow when I have something to answer to (for example: a job). But when I am wholly left on my own I struggle to maintain that balance and those limits and that structure. I do well with picking one thing to focus on and setting up the structure for that (for example: gym and diet) – but when it comes to creating a structure for my overall life I get overwhelmed and tend to withdraw to a day of procrastinating and ignoring the schedule that I’ve tried to put in place for myself.

I am a person who does better when I know someone else has expectations of me. I have such passion and talent and drive – but I struggle with figuring out where to channel all of that without having something to work toward. And my brain works at such a speed and in such a way that instead of being able to focus in on a few options or possibilities I just see all of the options and end up in a never-ending loop of everything I could do and not knowing which to pick. So having someone to help me wade through that, help me set in place the limits and parameters and structure to figure out how to focus that drive and passion and talent… It makes it easier for me to know how to order my day, for me to plan what to get done when, for me to accomplish things and go to bed feeling like I’ve been productive.

So I crave someone who is willing to take on the very heavy responsibility of helping me create a structure for my life and then holding me accountable when it comes to sticking to it. 

3. Because I don’t always do what’s best for me and when that happens I need someone I can trust to point that out to me.

It’s true. I have a habit of spiraling and, when I do, sometimes I can recognize it and set myself back on track and pull myself out of the hole. But sometimes I make a bad decision. And then I make another. And before I know it I’ve set myself on the path to a cycle of self-destructive behavior.

And then that happens, I need someone who can gently but firmly sit me down and talk me through it and help me set myself back on the right track. I want him to help me set limits. To help me set-up the rules. To, once again, help me create that structure - or alter the structure that’s already in place.

I need him to be my voice of guidance when I can’t guide myself. I want to know that he has my back. And I want to know that he’ll put limits in place for me when I can’t do it for myself. 

4. I need someone to hold me accountable. 

I am a people pleaser. I like to please people. And, true, if my mental health struggles and therapy have taught me anything it’s that you can’t live your life entirely focused on pleasing everyone around you. But having a set person in my life who has agreed to be in a relationship with me where he holds me accountable and gives me rules and structure and sets expectations for what he wants from and requires of me gives me a way to feed that people-pleasing need without going overboard and feeding my anxiety.

But it’s more than just feeding that people-pleasing need. It’s about being held accountable. It’s about knowing that if I say I’m going to do something or if he asks me to do something or if he sets me a task or a rule or what have you – that he’s then going to follow-up to ensure that it’s done and, if it’s not, that there are going to be consequences and those consequences are going to come from him.

It’s part of the structure that I need. And I don’t want to put this on someone who doesn’t want to provide that kind of structure or who doesn’t want to take on that responsibility – I’m looking for someone who gets a sense of fulfillment out of taking on that role. Who enjoys providing me structure, who enjoys holding me accountable, who enjoys leading me. Because knowing that he enjoys that helps me feel pleasure, helps me feel calm, helps me feel at peace.

I need to be held accountable. I need to know that there will be consequences for my actions. And I need to know that that accountability and those consequences will come from the person that I respect and trust most.

5. Because I want a relationship that’s a give and take.

So much of what you see on tumblr has to do with the Dom being responsible and taking on all the control and having to set in place all the rules, limits, and boundaries, and having to be responsible for the welfare of their sub and on and on and on…

But that’s not a real D/s relationship. At least not to me.

A real D/s relationship is about a give and take. Both (or all) parties take on responsibility. Both parties are responsible for watching out for the other, for caring for the other, for protecting and respecting and loving the other. Both parties are agreeing to act like adults, to handle disagreements with maturity and within the parameters set-up, to respect the limits and boundaries and rules put in place. 

Your Dom takes care of you, yes. Your Dom agrees to hold you accountable. Your Dom agrees to lead you and pleasure you and take on responsibility for providing for your needs. But you take care of your Dom as well. I am responsible for watching out for him, for making sure he’s happy, for ensuring that he’s reaching his full potential and that I’m helping him in whatever way I can. I am responsible for talking to him, for telling him what I think and how I feel and for making sure that I share my problems and worries and issues with him. I am responsible for remembering that he can’t read my mind. I am responsible for asking him if he’s okay. I am responsible for listening when he needs to share his problems and worries and issues with me. I am responsible for taking care of him. I am responsible for loving him and respecting him and being the best I can be for him.

Because when he agrees to take on the responsibility of being my Dom – I, at the same time, am agreeing to take on the responsibility of being his sub. Because the responsibility of a D/s relationship doesn’t belong to just one party – it’s shared between both of us. It’s a partnership, a team, a unit. It’s a power exchange. An exchange. Which means there’s give and take. And I want that. I want to give my partner as much as he allows me to take from him. Because that’s the only way that both of us can remain healthy and whole.

6. Serving gives me pleasure.

Serving him gives me pleasure. Making a home not just with him but for him. Making it pretty, making it pleasing, making it a warm and happy place to come back to every night. Making him dinner. Doing his laundry (but not the ironing!). Making sure his shirts are all hung-up in the proper place when they come home from the dry-cleaner. Bringing him his favorite drink at the end of a long day. Washing him in the shower. Worshipping his cock. Keeping our home clean. Making sure I pick up his favorite snacks at the grocery store. Making sure he remembers to grab a water before he leaves the house for the gym. Serving him in so many ways.

Doing the little things (and the big ones!) that makes his life happier and calmer and altogether just a little bit easier – that makes me happy. Knowing that I’m helping him and making it easier for him to go through his day makes me feel complete.

And I know a lot of people will read this and ask what he’s doing to make my life easier and happier and calmer – and the answer is this: he’s doing so much. He’s holding me accountable. He’s providing my structure. He’s giving me a healthy and safe outlet for fulfilling my needs to please people and to serve. He loves me. He helps me make sure that I take care of myself – and takes care of me when I can’t do it. He gives me just as much as I give him. In his way, he serves me too. It’s a different kind of service than I give him. But it’s still service. Like I said, it’s a give and take.

7. Because kneeling for him brings me tremendous peace.

I suppose this could fall under service but it’s such a distinctive act that brings such tremendous fulfillment and peace that I felt like it deserved its own number.

It really is that simple: kneeling for him brings me peace. Kneeling for him makes me feel safe. Kneeling for him is fulfilling. Kneeling for him is a privilege. Kneeling for him is calming and pleasing and a position of both pride and complete and utter joy.

I love kneeling at his feet. I love kneeling in front of him. I love kneeling in the center of the room so he can watch me. I love kneeling simply because it’s where he wants me to be. It’s like meditation and prayer and supplication all rolled into one. I enjoy taking a position of worship on my knees. I enjoy worshiping him. I enjoy bestowing that honor on him time and time again. And I feel so tremendously lucky every time he allows me the privilege of kneeling at his feet. 

It makes me feel safe, it makes me feel whole, and it makes me feel lucky to take my position at his feet. Because it is a physical, positional reminder of who owns me and it gives me the time to reflect on exactly why I picked him.

8. Because I don’t want to be in charge.

It really is that simple. I don’t want to be in charge. I am in charge of so much in my day-to-day life. I take on so much responsibility. I care for my friends, I care for my family, I feed the people I care about, I have tremendous responsibility in work, I am responsible for teaching new hires, I am responsible for providing advice on this blog (and yes, I am aware that is a self-imposed responsibility). And there’s more – so, so much more.

And when I’m done with that I don’t want to make decisions. I don’t want to have to make the rules. I don’t want to have to be responsible for what happens next. I want to be told what to do. I want to be told what is expected. I want to be told how to please someone and how to do it right. I want to submit myself to someone else’s control. I want to hand myself over to him and his decisions and his direction. I want that peace. I want that safety. And I want to end each day with that sense of fulfillment.

9. Sexually, I find far more pleasure in cumming for him than I do in cumming for myself.

Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I really fucking love to cum.

But cumming for myself just doesn’t give me the overwhelming sense of pleasure (emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually) as cumming for him does. When he tells me how to get there, when he tells me what to say, when he makes me beg and cry and whimper and scream and tell him all of my darkest, dirtiest, most depraved fantasies while I try my hardest not to cum without permission… When he makes me wait for it, makes me edge over and over and over, making me hold off… When he finally tells me to cum. When he finally gives me permission. When he finally tells me to let go… It’s unlike any other feeling. Because I know I have earned that orgasm. Because I know he’s allowing me to have that orgasm because I’ve pleased him so much that I’ve earned the gift of it. 

Orgasms are great. They really, really are. But orgasms are even greater when they’re a gift from him.

10. Because I love being told no.

I do. I love the reminder of who is in charge. Or who I have trusted with my welfare and my care and my pleasure and my safety. I love knowing that he’s paying attention to me. I love knowing that he’s watching what I do. I love knowing that he’s making sure I’m staying within the lines – because it reminds me every single time of how committed he is to me and to our dynamic and to the promises that we’ve made to each other. 

And I love knowing that he’s in charge. And that he knows he’s in charge. And that he wants to remind me he’s in charge. Because it makes me feel safe. And, tbh, it makes me pretty damn wet.

Something to consider and give a try a few times, usually with the support of your significant other.

Initiating Play as a Submissive

It’s not very common for me to initiate sex or play. That’s mostly because we have plenty of both as it is. My needs are met before I even think to go after them myself. 

But also, I’m not sure I’m any good at initiating. I’m good at subtle teasing and playfulness when I’m feeling needy. I’m good at having conversations where I state my needs clearly and directly (e.g., “I am beginning to feel like I will need a spanking soon”). But I’m not great at overtly initiating in a sexy way. With my ex-husband, I sometimes initiated sex by saying, “So how about you and me have some sex later?” That line had a 100% success rate, for the record. But yeah… I don’t have a lot of game. 

The other issue is that initiating play feels somehow wrong as a submissive. In my head, I know it’s not. In my head, I know that initiating is a suggestion, not a decision. But the bolder the come-on, the more uncomfortable it feels. Like I’m wearing someone else’s clothes. 

Still, sometimes I do try to initiate. I know he likes to see my hunger for him. He likes to see where my head is at and what I want. So the other day I put on lingerie and heels, then laid floggers and canes neatly on the bed. They were mostly—though not exclusively—my favorite implements. I’d never been so bold, and it made me nervous. Was it going too far? Would I earn a punishment for pushing a little too hard? I didn’t think so, but then again, this was uncharted territory. I was barely ready by the time he got home. 

We had a wonderful impact session, with deep, thuddy pain and enough tears to feed my sadist. But first, he started with something he knows I dislike. He started with hitting my pussy. It almost felt like punishment to me, but in a playful way. It felt as if he were saying, Okay, girl. You want impact? I’ll give you impact… It felt like a reminder that I should be careful not to forget my place. But when we talked after, he said that wasn’t it.

“I was saying, Okay, you had a good idea. Now you can let go. I will take it from here. Because I didn’t want you to be in your head about whether I really wanted it or if I was doing it for you.”

And truthfully, that is fair. A cornerstone of our relationship is that I am absolutely not in charge. I am considered a trusted advisor; he wants to know my thoughts and feelings and opinions. But the choices are his. And that’s exactly how I want it. Our power exchange is sacred to me, and I never want to do anything that could undermine it. 

I think this is why it’s so hard for me to initiate. Initiating is a bold declaration of my own wants. And in some respects, I need for my wants to come last. I prefer to express my wants indirectly—through porn I share with him or flirty “I was thinking about that time when…” comments. Laying it all out there (literally) feels like putting my wants first. It feels like stepping out of my place.

But when he started hitting my pussy, as much as I hated it, those concerns washed away. That action calmed my brain. It reassured me that his wants come before mine. And with that, I was able to let go and stay in the moment, rather than overthinking my own actions.

I’m learning to trust that the power exchange we’ve built is strong, and a few implements suggestively laid on the bed won’t be enough to derail it. I’ve been with some insecure Dominants in the past who never would have allowed it. But Monsieur has shown me time and time again that I can rely on his firm control. He makes decisions carefully and with purpose. Sometimes he says no, and sometimes he says yes. Either way, making the suggestion isn’t the same as taking charge. If he chooses to do something for me, it’s because that’s what he wants to do. It’s that simple. 

The more we talk about it, the more confident I grow in trying to initiate play. Now I’m even wondering if it’s time to step up my game. Maybe next time, I drop a crop in his lap and give him some raised eyebrows and a wink wink. That’s how you flirt, right?

How I became a good girl and stopped cumming

When I met my Master, he didn't know he was a master, nor did I know I was a sub. We had both been in vanilla relationships before. I toyed a bit with BDSM sometimes, but it never played a big part in my life. Neither of us had ever heard about denial.

To me, nothing in the world felt better than an orgasm. I had lots of them. Lots and lots. With previous partners I was annoyed with how fast they came (although I didn't complain). I always gave myself numerous orgasms after a partner had cum, because no one could give me better orgasms than me.

I met my Master online. The first time of our relationship we couldn't see each other often, so nearly all of our contact was online. That was hard, but we knew we were made for each other. The good thing about it was that we talked a lot. We trusted each other, and dared to share fantasies we had always kept for ourselves, because previous partners wouldn't have understood them. That's how our D/s relationship started. Over time he became my protecting Daddy and sadistic Master. Just what I needed.

The idea that my Master would control my orgasms turned me on. We agreed that I would cum only when he told me to, and whenever he told me to. I was able to cum by using my fingers, a toy, or just my thoughts. Even his words could be enough to cum. We both loved this game. I learned not to touch myself unless he told me to, which was both very hard and very hot. Sometimes he told me to cum 20 times a day.

But then he wondered what would happen if he would make me cum less. I was shocked. Cum less? What a terribly mean idea, it made me cum on the spot. Could he really do this to me? He could. I went from 20 orgasms a day to 20 a month. I was so frustrated and so aroused all the time. When he gave me permission to cum, it felt so good to finally cum again. When I didn't have permission to cum, it made me feel weirdly proud that I was able to edge and not tip over.

Then the time came that I wasn't happy anymore when he told me to cum. I only did it because he told me to, but I didn't feel like a good, strong, pure, horny girl anymore after cumming. It didn't feel good.

In the beginning I was very proud of not cumming for a week, a month (which seemed almost impossible!), a half year. It seemed a shame to cum again after such a long time. My Master sometimes asked me if I still was okay with this, and yes, I was, I was eager to be the best at not cumming. He never told me 'maybe I'll let you cum if you do this or that', and I was grateful for that. An orgasm would not feel like a reward. I prefer to have his cum as a reward (I guess this is what denial did to me). Nowadays he tells me he doesn't want me to cum anymore, and hearing his words 'just let it fade away, this is not for you' makes my edges even more intense.

The never-ending arousal is addictive, and my frustration from edging is a huge turn-on for my Master (and yes, also for me, though it feels so terrible at the same time). And oh gosh, what a submissive girl I became. My Master cums for the both of us, and I love it. Pleasing him is now the best thing there is, and because he learned himself to edge at a young age, he is able to last long, so I can enjoy him for a long time before he finally gives me my reward, his cum. It made our bond so strong. We were both easily distracted by others with previous partners, but we've been together for years now and still crave each other so much. We can give each other what we need.

When I started this journey, I couldn't find any information on what denial would do for me in the long term. Would it harm me? Would it do me good? I can imagine that more girls, women have the same question. I haven't cum for 5,5 years now. It didn't harm me at all. It made me strong, focused, confident, incredibly horny and submissive to my Master. And I like that a lot.

And my body became so sensitive. For example, before I started experimenting with denial, my breasts weren't sensitive at all. It's incredible how that has changed. I can edge by rubbing spots between my breasts, above my tailbone, on the top of my head. It's like having clits all over my body. I know, it sounds a bit strange, but it feels so good, and just imagine how much fun it is for my Master.

I let my Master control my orgasms, which meant that I had to learn to control myself better. Maybe self-control doesn't sound sexy, but it made my sex life better, and it made me more confident in other aspects of my life.

Do I think I'd still be able to cum? Yes, I do. I don't know what an orgasm feels like anymore (that thought arouses me), but I think I'd still be able to have one if I really wanted to.

But why would I?

I want you to order my food for me because I have a hard time making choices on a menu. I want you to spank me because I can’t get up and you won’t let me waste the day away in bed. I want you to give me weekly/monthly goals to help better myself and my craft. I want you to make sure I’m eating actual food and not just a cheese stick for breakfast. I want you to take me somewhere new, but hold my hand the whole night because you know how uncomfortable new adventures make me.

I always thought I was some weak, love sick girl because I wanted a guy to guide me and give me direction. I’m glad I know now that I want a man to push me to achieve my goals to become a better me. That’s a small snippet what being submissive means to me.

Being a social airhead

I said a few times recently that people around me, other than at work, considered me an airhead. Well even at work even if I’m considered as very efficient and knowledgeable in my field of work, I pass sometimes for an airhead especially with people that don’t work directly with me. Work is the part where the looks give the first impression.

Being a social airhead took me quite some time to master, it’s not something you can do in one day. It took me about two years to get to the point where I can even say acting (being) an airhead has almost become a safe place for me. It hasn’t really changed over time the way I do it, but I just fall in character very fast right now and yes sometimes it’s hard to get back to be smart.

In a social context looks and attitude can be a very efficient way to have someone consider you as an airhead. In general being blonde is a good start but to dress rather sexy gives a big plus. People will assume, most of them, that you are dumb. Then you just need to adjust the attitude a bit and there you go. That’s even easier when people around you ask you questions, by being vague you’ll give out the airhead impression to the people you are interacting with. Here are a few examples

People ask you about politics

A : Politics is so complicated (with an eye roll or a giggle)

They will assume you don’t understand anything about politics, but when you really think about it, politics is a very complicated subject if you want to discuss it in depth.

People ask you about travelling

A : OMG it’s so much fun, I love going to the beach (saying it very excited and bubbly)

People will assume you just like to party and wear bikinis. Even though you know you love hiking too, visiting museums, etc… By skiping the full subject people assume you’re an airhead.

People ask you about fashion

A : ‘start talking very fast’ about shoes, accessories, you favotire designers, etc…

People assume it’s your main interest and you’re a bit superficial.

People ask you about your love life

A : My fiancée is so great, I love him so much, etc… and add some details about sex life.

Then they completely assume your a bimbo.

General discussion

(ALWAYS answer the first thing that comes up in your mind, maybe add a little “ummm” before answering like you’re thinking really hard)

As I said it’s probably the same thing an actor does when they get into character, it usually takes me a bit of time to adjust to “play” airhead. With practice the time has dramatically reduced. To get into it, it takes me about 30 minutes… then I go deeper and deeper into my airhead space which I now call my “safe happy place”. For me it’s where all the worries vanish, where I’m just enjoying life in it’s purerest form. Not thinking about work or anything serious, no need to focus anymore, being very confused about simple discussions. It’s a very comfortable place to be. The only drawback about this, the longer I am in that “space” the longer it takes to come back up to normal. If I spend a weekend in that space it’ll take me a few hours to go back to being “normal”. A week, took me about a day and it was very hard I had to focus.

Do I have a trigger, not really, it just happens with the social context I’m in. If we go clubbing then I do drop into that space instantly. Sometimes Daddy asks me to go in that space, then it takes a bit more time. But there’s no trigger, I go in and out as I please usually.

One important thing, even if people sometimes call me dumb in my face I take it as a compliment. To me being dumb isn’t bad, it’s having less worries and being happy. Dumb = happy and I want to be happy in life.

Yes I’ll say it again I do really love using my brain and my job as well. I wouldn’t let go any of this except for maybe one thing. But I love my career at this point and I hope to climb the corporate ladder quite fast. Being very competitive helps a lot

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Daddy, I don’t feel like going to church. Can we stay home and I can just confess a few things to you that are on my mind?

Special room service

The things I think about when I think of M and her best friend.

mmmmhhhh

Come to my kitchen

Your collar

Princess, which collar do you want to wear to dinner and the theater tonight? The black leather one would look so good with your dress and your 5 inch heels.

Did you dress like this for me?

Daddy, will you play house with me or pretend I'm at your office. Or maybe Daddy will play grown up dolls with me.

Someone so beautiful needs someone to make her smile or give her memories that will always be happy.

I instantly fell in love. So many desires, fantasies, wants evoked.

Reminds me of Hungry Lips

Both deserve to be adored, complimented and cherished for their beauty and their courage to look their best. Any woman who would be willing be so beautiful and sexy should know how much it is appreciated.

Any of my followers, send me a message. I want to get to know you.

Sigma Male

I figured it out. I’m a Sigma Male personality type. Now I need to find the right lady who wants a Sigma. 

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Pouty little guide:

🌟Ok to start this off, EVERY LITTLE IS DIFFERENT! So that does not mean this post is relevant for every little!

💖you’ll notice your little is probably pouty and whiny and distant

💖ask them what’s wrong. They probably won’t tell you though. They might just whine and kick and turn away

💖at this point, some caregivers might just get annoyed or frustrated. That does not mean you can just walk away and leave them be. A lot of the time, your little is just looking for attention. Or if something is wrong, they want comfort

💖just cuddle up close to them. If they push you away, cuddle them harder. If they start hitting you, DO NOT jump to a punishment. Explain to them that being pouty is no excuse for them to break the rules. Tell your little if they do it again, they will be punished. But DO NOT harshly punish them. A gentle punishment is best because they are already pouty and you don’t want them even more pouty

💖ask them if they want to talk. If they don’t, just leave it be for the moment and hold your little close. If they do want to talk, sit them upright, maybe give them a stuffie or blankey, hold their hands, and tell them they can talk whenever they’re ready

💖I know I’m one of those littles that will say the opposite of what I want. If I tell my daddy to go away, I actually want him to pull me even closer and kiss my head and never let me go. I’ll fight it at first, but then I’ll give in because that’s actually want I want. I just didn’t want my daddy to know that’s what I wanted. If your little just keeps fighting it and gets even more pouty, let them go. Get them a stuffie or blankey to cuddle, fill up their favourite sippy or bottle with their favourite juice and set it next to them. Set their favourite paci next to them also. But DO NOT leave their side!!!!!!! Make sure you’re still there in case your little needs something or changes their mind about cuddles or talking

💖if your little let’s you cuddle them, pull them in your lap and rock back and forth. It’s a very soothing and comforting action that makes us littles feel safe

💖once your little is calmed down, maybe had a nap, ask them once more if they would like to talk about why they were being pouty. Communication and trust are the biggest components to a healthy relationship. If your little is comfortable with it, they will talk to you and trust you enough to do so. Just because they didn’t want to talk earlier, does not mean they won’t ever want to talk about it. Sometimes littles just need time to cool off before talking about it. Sometimes we just need comfort. Sometimes we don’t even know what’s wrong or why we’re feeling the way we do. So please DO NOT get offended or annoyed or upset or hurt or frustrated that we don’t want to talk, or possibly even cuddle

💖some littles also have mental disorders (ME INCLUDED SO DONT FEEL ALONE!) and we might be having a depressed episode or a panic/anxiety attack, or even just a mental breakdown. We don’t always know what’s going on in our head, so let us work it out, or help us work it out!

💖TO ALL CAREGIVERS: please please please understand that we ARE NOT always just mad or upset with you! Sometimes it’s the stuffs going on in our head or someone else, like a friend, causing drama. Sometimes it’s our disorders. WE DO NOT MEAN TO TAKE IT OUT ON YOU! And I believe I speak for all littles when I say this: we are truly sorry if we are taking it out on you!

💖number one rule of comforting a pouty little: NEVER NEVER NEVER just leave them there by themselves! Because that makes us feel even more upset because our caregiver doesn’t even want to deal with us. No matter how pouty we are, PLEASE DO NOT LEAVE US!

🌟I hope this helped! Either with helping daddies understand what to do, or helping a little put it into words for their caregiver. I know everyone is different so this may not have helped much, but I hope it helped at least one person!

🌟I’m not sure why, but it wouldn’t let me add the source. So this was made by me! @aliennxprincess

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Letting him pay, sets you up in the feminine role and him in the masculine role.

Makes him feel more like a man and successful and you can feel like he wants to take care of you.

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https://ayerslix.tumblr.com/post/186384897404 Nailed it.

It's simple really

1. Turn my mind against me with hypnosis and conditioning.

2. Turn my body against me with edging and denial.

3. Repeat 1+2 until I'm a broken, dripping, animalistic mess addicted to obeying you and begging to be used and owned.

4. Use and own me. (Don't hold back.)

5. Degrade and patronise me when I cum for you. Call me a good girl and a slut.

6. Repeat 1-5 forever.