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I didn't know there was a term for it. For me. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart ❤️
finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience
and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!
from Ace Voices by Eris Young
Got possessed to draw this with Gladiola (she’s an acespec queen), happy pride lol
Happy ace day everyone :3
🖤🩶🤍💜
I’m really glad we exist
Idk if it's like this for other queer millennials who weren't able to come out until they were in their 30s, but I constantly feel like the way I express my queerness has to get some kind of approval from a nebulous cosmic judge.
finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience
and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!
from Ace Voices by Eris Young
No, wait, because why is this literally me……
Aroace Experiences We Don't Talk About Enough (Infographic)
Icon Credits: hands with hearts - @blackholemojis face holding flag - @sammywammyclone paw - @paw-pride hug - @eldritch-emojis gem - @genderdoomed
Some @'s for reach: @our-aroace-experience @gray-ace-space @aroaceculture @acespec-ed @acexualien @cordwaner @asexualadvice @aromantic-diaries @aroacespecsafeplace @arospec-daybook
Reblogging because this relates to me. ❤️ (AroAce Spectrum)
"but aces and aros can be in relationships"
Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?
Yes, even demis
Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?
Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?
Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?
Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?
Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?
I made a design for Danny in my style, and had a lot of fun with it.
I found this on Pinterest and I shared it because I support ace and aro folks.
I live in America! I am a lesbian! I am aromantic and asexual! These mfs probably don’t even know what those things mean.
Take me! Take me fucking kicking and screaming! I am not going to stop! I don’t give a shit! You can burn my yaoi, but you’ll never fucking forget it. I hope you lay down at night and when you close your eyes all you can see is my face smiling back at you.
I will die laughing. I will laugh forever.
AND YOU WILL HEAR IT!
Commentary on aroace/lesbian “fujoshi”
CW: talk of porn (the good and the bad), sex, and gender. Pretty graphic language and imagery. Sex repulsed aroace people BEWARE.
I would like to start this off by saying I am an aroace lesbian. What does that mean? Simply - I don’t want sex, nor romance, but if I did, I know where I’d find it. I love WOMEN. All women. Any women. I also really like yaoi, and I’ve seen some minimal discussion about specifically women who love yaoi or BL, and I’d like to add my two cents.
Several people online seem to take “lesbians liking yaoi” as just a natural reaction to the overall market of fiction. That is to say, there’s not a lot of options. There is a side to yuri which appeals to women, yes. But the way I see it, it’s either magical girl or slice of life, or, written by a man. And most of the stuff written by men is porn - bad porn. Thus it doesn’t appeal to women who actually like women.
In the same vein there is hetero stuff, which some lesbian/aroace yaoi enjoyers say doesn’t appeal to them because the majority of it has a male/female dynamic that is skewed. Oftentimes the woman is portrayed as weak or perhaps just isn’t a correct representation of the lesbian/aroace consumer. So why even bother?
Anecdotal, but I have had this experience too. I have a hard time getting into any kind of hetero ship because the women are often unrelatable or worse - just uninteresting. I don’t like men, so why would I care if it was just some faceless dame and her super hot husband? I don’t give a shit about him.
I’ve found that I enjoy a lot of hetero ships from demon slayer. Some may find this contradictory because there has been some commentary on the usefulness or intrigue around women in demon slayer. I think the demon slayer women are very interesting, story wise and appearance wise, and they fit very well with the men I ship them with. That is to say - men in demon slayer are simps for beautiful, strong, independent women - and I eat that shit up.
Most hetero stuff, however, is victimizing the women. Knowingly or unknowingly. It’s sad that if I want to get my rocks off to Mitsuri x Obanai, I have to scroll through like eight pages of the same inflation, big tits big ass no tummy, fart porn all sourced from the deepest dredges of Apocrypha. In fact, most of the time if you have the balls to like a fictional woman enough to want to see her getting respectfully banged, the cisgender heterosexual gooner men have already beaten you to the punch - and now you see her with her face in a smelly man’s ass. (All real examples by the way)
So it’s not to say I don’t like yuri, or hetero, it’s just that if I want to see women getting railed - I’m very particular. As I should be.
Yaoi, some people on the internet say, sets the men it’s focused around on equal footing. Instead of the woman being the damsel or a plain sexual object, the uke and seme are usually just two dudes. Not to say there aren’t power dynamics in yaoi - just to say that those power dynamics don’t hurt my pride as a woman. It doesn’t victimize a girl for somebody else’s sick kicks.
Yaoi, at least the kind I read, also can have an element of one man (the uke) usually being pretty soft or feminine. Why? Well that’s a pure reflection of how I (and other people) view sex. There is the giver and the receiver, the top and the bottom, the dom and the sub. Not that those lines don’t get crossed - they do, all the time. But as good ol’ Tevye says about Anatevka… TRADITION! (Sorry. It’s 3 AM)
The way I see it, it’s a way of having that traditional dynamic (pretty soft bottom and strong handsome top) without victimizing a woman. I do the same with yuri ships - I absolutely love love love a stone top with a pillow princess. And also - and I say this with no sense of shame - femboys are cute. Women are the superior form. Soz. So it’s awesome to see a man invoking his feminine side. It’s not like it makes him any less of a man. No matter how many times my mom peers at my drawings of Cloud Strife and says, “She’s pretty.” It doesn’t change the fact that he is him.
Gender is a fickle thing. It comes and it goes. I used to have a very conservative view of gender, and even sexuality. I was a “gold star lesbian”, and wanted nothing to do with men (still do, irl). You know what changed me? You’re gonna laugh. My Hero Academia. Oh, did I say you were gonna laugh? I meant cringe.
It’s not what you think. Bakudeku actually traumatized me - not the ship itself but one story I read on AO3 that I now understand for the masterpiece of terror and grossness it is. I would drop it but I don’t want to draw any undue attention to it.
What changed my mind on gender was actually Tomura. It didn’t even happen on purpose, l didn’t see him and go, “Oh he’s pretty, let’s dump a little more estrogen into him”. I shipped him with Dabi, paired them off as two dudes gettin it on, and I was loyal to my m/m ships. I ignored the ones tagged “Trans Tomura Shigaraki” because my brain refused to compute it. But then… I ran out of male fics. Well ran dry. I was getting anxious. I needed my shigadabi fix and how to get it?
Well. Can’t be that bad for Tomura to have a pussy.
… huh. He’s cute.
Oh no.
And that’s how it happened.
Just like that, my worldview shifted. Proud to say I’m a lot more open to gender and sexuality, now. It’s sometimes hard to admit that I used to have such rigid views. It’s a bit embarrassing - but I was also 13. My Hero just gave me the push I needed to grow up.
I’ll wrap it up now.
If you’re a lesbian or if you’re aroace and you like reading yaoi - don’t feel bad. Don’t even question it. Fiction is fiction, we’re here for such a short time you might as well enjoy the things you consume, whatever that may be. It doesn’t make you any less of who you are. It might mean that you’re just a feminist. Or it might mean you have some issues with your gender you need to hash out. Or maybe it means you just like hot guys. Who cares?
Some people argue why lesbians and aroace people like yaoi so much. There are many different answers. I’m not really concerned with them, anymore, now that I’ve found my own. What does concern me is the amount of people who I assume are outside of fandom circles… never having heard of women (lesbian or not) enjoying yaoi or BL. Several reddit comments asked, “There are lesbians who like that stuff? I’ve never seen one.”
Lemme tell you, these people are missing something awesome in life. Yaoi written by women is like fucking crack.
funny story i was reading your bio and my heart genuinely stopped when i saw aro-ace exclusionist like. HELLO?? and then i remembered the start says DNI
thanks for the support man 😭😭
Of fucking course! I'm ace so I totally understand how frustrating it is to see others exclude us and aro people so I wanted to make it known that anyone who wants to exclude aro and/or ace peeps aren't allowed.
Has anyone considered that garu just might be ace flux and/or demisexual? I feel like that would explain a lot, and I would like to discuss this.
When you look up an obscure show and all you can find is character x reader s*ut and you just want wholesome fan art.
finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience
and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!
from Ace Voices by Eris Young
Happy Ace Week!
I'm Ace! Who else is?
Re-post!
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My online sibling is @panromanticturtle
Birthday: Oct 18!!!
I'm a minor, I do art and write. I have many hobbies and I'm happy to chat! My pronouns are She/her/they/them/he/him, but I'm also fine with anything else! Except it. I'm not a thing. :3 You can request art and or ask a question about me and I will host a Q and A. I'm Pan and Aroace. Also Genderfluid. I have a very dark sense of humor and I'm a bit odd. I can be a bit awkward and I love talking about hobbies and books, along with shows and general interests! I'm happy to do collabs a well. You can call me Opal or Quinn!
(Nebluromantic and Ansexual :3) (I have a tiny dog now as well. His name is Sunny-he's a hyper little thing. When I claimed him as my pet he was calm. :/ not now, adorable but cats are so much more laid back. XD)
I propose us ace folk call ourselfs danish nation.. it will be ours soon after all.
y’all
aro and ace are trending?? on the eve of pride month?? this year is for the aspecs for real
Happy Ace Week!!! 🖤🤍💜