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I notice that I‘m scared to even speak about this issue sometimes. I feel like a coward. Idk what to do about it, because I can’t just keep quiet when I hear people just straight up deny transmasc oppression. But I already know their reaction. They will not take me seriously. They will twist my words. They will double down and ignore the evidence. Even when I show them literal statistics of SA in transmascs, somehow that doesn’t matter.

The "read another book" crowd when you suggest that maaaaybe whipping girl doesn't hold up all that well in light of the author's endorsement of trans radical feminism:

You will never buy your legitimacy by selling out trans men

You will never buy your legitimacy by selling out trans men

You will never buy your legitimacy by selling out trans men

You will never buy your legitimacy by selling out trans men

You will never buy your legitimacy by selling out trans men

Laws being written: we are going to start dropping rocks on biological women if they wear pants and on anyone with a penis if they wear a dress

Leftists on Tumblr dot org: this could only be talking about trans women. It doesn't say men anywhere in that text. If they were targeting trans men, the government that thinks all trans people are delusional pedophiles would SAY trans men. Now stop donating to trans charities they dont help because I said so.

what the fuck

5.) If your Tumblr feed is more queer focused then you will see forcefemme content everywhere with multiple dedicated blogs pushing their kink content onto otherwise SFW posts, which,

A.) is not very consensual of them when I was under the impression that even force femme ought to involve consent in the same way that CNC is CONSENSUAL non-consent and not just sexual assault for funsies

B.) if trans mascs started doing the above with trans masc we would be fucking DOGPILED

I can't take the whole discourse around people going "forcefem is better than forcemasc because it's subversive! People who like forced masculinization are just STEALING from forcefem!" seriously because of these 4 points:

1. Forcefem started with cis men who enjoy being feminized as a from of humiliation, and they make up the majority of practitioners today. Yes, it's also really important to the transfem kink community and it brings many people gender euphoria, so that's great! But... you really can't steal a kink. There's no kink plagiarism. You're not getting kicked out of Kink University for enjoying similar themes.

2. It's not your business what other trans adults do in the bedroom/kink spaces. What causes dysphoria for you might make someone else euphoric. Don't yuck my yum or whatever. Just block the tag if you don't like it, we're all grownups here. I have both tags blocked bc they make me dysphoric, but you don't see me throwing a tantrum about it.

3. Imagine doing this with any other kink.

"Spanking is better than waxplay because it's subversive! You candle-lovers are doing painplay all wrong!"

"Bondage with handcuffs is way better than bondage with ropes, because when you use handcuffs you're RECLAIMING that from cops! Rope bunnies are just coping because their kink doesn't mean anything!"

4. The people who spend all their time arguing online about kink discourse probably aren't getting laid, anyway.

So it's really not as pertinent to their lives as they think it is.

i think words like transandrophobia and transmisogyny are useful in theory, but in practice they drive division and end up harmful to the wider trans struggle. (explanation in simple words at the bottom)

i think it can be useful to have words to describe different flavors of discrimination we face depending on how we are percieved by society. the problem occurs when these words stop being treated as descriptors, and instead get used as labels.

i'm sure you've seen the TMA/TME discourse. TMA = transmisogyny affected, TME = transmisogyny exempt. in practice, these terms are used as "trans women and fems" (TMA) and "everyone else who is trans" (TME). there's a few problems i have with this.

first, as a transneutral person, i would be labeled TME. but the group of drunk dudes who chased me down screaming that i'll never be a real woman, they don't care about that. they see me, a trans person, they assign their own interpretation to my gender presentation, and decide to intimidate me based on their interpretation. i have faced transmisogyny many times, despite some tumblr users insisting i am exempt from it.

second, it puts people back into a rigid binary. as a nonbinary person, i'm well aware of how restrictive and oppressive binaries are, and this one is not any different. even if it's repackaged as trans-friendly, it still denies many people the entirety of their experience and only allows a little, specific part of it.

and third, i simply do not think that any of us in this community are exempt from transmisogyny. in my experience the difference between experiencing transmisogyny or transandrophobia is what the other person percieves me as. if you really wanted to call someone exempt, make it cis people - but also keep in mind that not all of them are. think GNC people, butches, drag queens, the list goes on. i find it difficult to call these people exempt, even if they aren't trans. and i acknowledge that if you're read most of the time as your binary gender (as in you pass, but i strongly dislike that word), you will face much more of one flavor of opression than the other. but taking the experience of only binary trans people who are read as their gender and calling it universal is incredibly exorsexist. most of us will have experienced both.

all these flavors of discrimination, transmisogyny, transandrophobia, even exorsexism and intersexism, it all stems from the same narrow bioessentialist understanding of sex and gender as strictly binary.

in conclusion, i think words like transmisogyny and transandrophobia can be useful to describe experiences with different flavors of anti-trans bigotry. however some people have started treating them as a strict binary of affected-exempt, and that is not rooted in reality or helpful. i'm inclined to say at this point, these terms create infighting instead of being helpful, and make us forget that the root cause of all the discrimination we face is the same.

explanation in simple words: transandrophobia (discrimination against masculine transness) and transmisogyny (discrimination against feminine transness) can be useful words to describe own experiences. but some people use these words to divide trans community into boxes. i think that is not good. it makes us forget we all want to fight transphobia. makes us fight each other instead, and that is not helpful.

Aside from the compulsion to claim historical trans men as women for feminist history, I've also noticed attempts to neutralize trans men into non binary figures.

Of course, language surrounding non binary identities in the western world is relatively new, so someone from the 1800s might have had some long winded way of saying they were non binary.

But take the case of Megillus from Lucien's writings in Ancient Greece, who will say "I am entirely a man" and still have people being like, oh they're just a confused little girl product of restricted language. There is no way they really mean it when they say explicitly they are 100% a man. Obvious example of non-binary identity.

Obviously non binary people deserve to see themselves in history, but like...c'mon...

Just something I've noticed in my research into trans men of the past

Please stop forgetting nonbinary people!

Theyfab isn't a transmasc-specific slur. It's always been used against any nonbinary person assumed to be AFAB.

Though the AGAB of nonbinary people is nobody's business in the first place, it bears repeating that not every AFAB nonbinary person is transmasculine, just as not every AMAB nonbinary person is transfeminine.

These bigots aren't just transphobic towards trans men/mascs, they're exorsexist as well. We'll be stronger if we stick up for each other and push back against them together!

No one is ever actually in trans men's corner. We're freaks and stupid little girls to the right. We're gender traitors to the left. If we say anything, we're sexist, misogynistic liars, at best. White trans men eventually die from su*cide. Trans men of color die from worse. And then we're erased from history - any impact on the world rewritten as having been done by cis women. The feminist movement seems to have moved backwards and trans men are now excluded except for being the safe punching bag. We'll eventually disappear and shut up though, not because we're were told to our entire youth or after we transition to the wrong kind of man, but because we're tired.

I'm tired.

Taught to diminish ourselves as little girls, taught to diminish ourselves as trans people, when will trans men be allowed to speak for ourselves. To tell our own stories.

"Trans men don't suffer as much because they're always forgotten and erased. So they don't have it as bad" I mean can you really argue that we are forgotten when you actively push us out of conversations and tell us we don't matter? Do we really not have it as bad, or do you just turn the other way when we are raped, beaten, brutalized, and murdered? Why is it always framed in a passive way, that we are just erased as if by accident, when we are scrubbed from history? Buried entirely or otherwise portrayed as women?

Why is our erasure discussed like there's nothing to be done about it, when all it takes to change that is to start listening to us?

Genuinely, there is nothing wrong with a trans guy headcanoning a female character as a trans man. We’re allowed to have our headcanons and see ourselves in our favourite characters. It is not misogynistic and it is not erasing women. That is the exact argument that TERFs use about real life trans men taking away real life women or lesbians or whatever it is they’ve been fearmongering about, so don’t start spreading that shit around fandom spaces like it’s progressive.

This doesn’t just happen in fandoms either, we literally never get to claim anyone as a trans man. Every time there’s historical evidence of trans men existing, we have to always assume that maybe they were actually a woman who was just “escaping” the patriarchy because god forbid we ever point out that they were most likely a trans man. If we do, then we get pushback over “erasing their womanhood” but what about their transness? Why are you allowed to erase their transness in the name of feminism? I agree that female historical figures deserve more recognition, but not at the expense of taking historical figures away from us. We can have both. We should have both, because both are marginalised people who deserve representation. We’re not taking anything away from you, so why the fuck should you be able to take representation away from us.

Trans male headcanons are not anti-feminist. They’re not erasing a woman to make way for a man. They’re representation that a marginalised group of people deserve to have, because we already have so little in the first place. Why are you physically incapable of viewing trans men as different to cis men when it comes to our experiences with oppression.

i cannot believe that in 2025

there are people on bluesky who proudly put on their profiles being "baeddel" like, that shit didn't work here in the 2010s tumblr (where it originated), so why the fuck are you trying to make it come back, lmao

actually i wouldn't be surprised if this-certain-group of trans ppl on bluesky are actually all baeddels but just not saying it out loud.

seeing them all still talking about "cissexual" privilege when refering to other TRANS ppl, the classic "you are trans but NOT REALLY trans like me", im just gonna say, be careful with this kind of thinking.

for context:

Medium

Let’s Talk About Bæddels

A comperehensive retrospective on Tumblr’s movement to make gender essentialism “trans-friendly”.

no, being "baeddel" is not good AT ALL. please, don't let anyone tell you otherwise bc, holy fuck, just read the whole thing and be wary. it's pretty much TERF rethoric, only trans version (also known as TIRF), lmao

i found out about this whole "baeddel" around the end of last year, and it was like "woah what the fuck??????" i had no idea this kind of shit happened. please, read it in full 😩😩

"Privilege to be feminine" genuinely just sounds like bitterness and jealousy that our bodies inherently have traits that they covet that they think we are "wasting". Which would be transphobic as fuck if trans mascs did it to trans femmes, so idk why it's seen as acceptable to trans femmes to say that kind of stuff to trans mascs other than this misguided idea that somehow "choosing femininity" is inherently a more radical gender to be. Like when TERFs decided the most radical sexuality to have was political lebnianism.

You know. As though your gender and sexuality are things you get much of a choice in.

Transandrophobes need to start telling us where our privilege is instead of just telling us that we have it.

Like, actually, we don't have it. Nobody told us where to pick it up from-- is it at some kind of kiosk, or what??

'The number of trans men getting killed is so low so clearly trans male murder is not as bad of an issue as trans women murder'

'So trans men aren't getting reported as being killed?

'Exactly!'

'So are they alive?'

'...? '

'Because if they're not being killed/targeted at the same rate as trans women then there should be more of them?'

'...'

'...there are less recorded alive trans men aren't there?'

“oh it’s so misogynistic to headcanon female characters are transmasc”

wrong! more trans men and mascs in fiction, and every time you complain i forcemasc another fictional girl. i’m taking Sakura from Naruto next.

the fact a lot of trfs are MLs is further proof Marxist-Leninists are just fascists trying to redirect socialist efforts away from destroying the bourgeoisie

being a trans man means you grow up being belittled and mocked for the way you were born and being told that the way you were born means you're stupid and and less artistic and less funny and your interests are cringe and you're not as capable as other people

and in if you say 'hey it's actually fucked up to treat me like that' then they say 'sit down and shut up and listen to the men. we know better'

and then you come out

and you get belittled and mocked for the way you were born and being told that the way you were born means you're stupid and and less artistic and less funny and your interests are cringe and you're not as capable as other people but this time it's because 'haha men are so lame and cringe and dumb'

and in if you say 'hey it's actually fucked up to treat me like that' then they say 'sit down and shut up and listen to the women. we know better'

and you are not allowed to point this out because then a significant number of people will lose their convenient punching bag

someone will say “JK Rowling doesn’t affect trans men” and then you look at their blog and they’re not even british like cool so you have no idea what it’s actually like to live in this country as a trans person and your opinion means nothing to me

So much pointless LGBT+ discourse could be avoided if people just stopped assuming they knew everything about the oppression OTHER identities face.

For example, if you’re nonbinary, you can absolutely talk about the struggles you’ve dealt with as a nonbinary person, and speak of the issues your community is dealing with. But if you’re not transfem, it’s not your place to comment on how transfem issues compare to your own.

And if you’re a trans woman, you should absolutely not be talking about how trans men “have it easier” or what transitioning is like for them, because you fundamentally don’t know! You’re not a trans man!

And it goes both ways- trans men shouldn’t speak on trans women’s issues! Binary trans people shouldn’t claim to know what it’s like to be nonbinary!

It even hearkens back to older varieties of discourse, like ace discourse. You saw non-ace people talking about what THEY thought being ace was like, because they believed that being LGBT+ themselves made them the arbiters of oppression.

Or hell, gay men claiming that lesbians had it sooo easy compared to what they went through! Like, man, how the hell would you know, you're not a lesbian!

Just. Stop! Stop talking about the assumed experiences of other people! Being one flavor of queer doesn’t mean you’re the expert on ALL queer oppression! LISTEN to other people, stop talking over them!

I think if people accepted this, 90% of stupid online identity discourse would vanish overnight.

women (including trans and/or queer women) have the capacity to be misogynistic towards trans men. we are being treated as if we are little girls on this app. the word "transmisogyny" is something i see a lot more than the word "transphobia" recently. while it's okay and encouraged to talk about transmisogyny, i feel like trans men are being excluded for no reason on many posts. experiences that are actually had by all/most trans people are said to be exclusive to trans women. so then we try for transandrophobia and get shut down because trans men can't be oppressed, apparently. usually, i try to educate myself and listen as much as possible, but it's been monthssssss of this on tumblr. i feel like i'm being spoon-fed lessons on my own oppression, and i can't get down from the high chair...

Hello, here to remind people that this discourse is hurting nonbinary people as well, especially nonbinary transmascs.

Please include your nonbinary siblings in your advocacy, and don’t forget to uplift their voices as well. The assholes calling people “theyfabs” and denying the existence of transandrophobia aren’t just out to get trans men.

Half the posts I see are about "theyfab trender tme they/hes", they hate nonbinary people too.

Trans men are left out of the conversation far too often; please don't repeat the same mistake with a different group.

"Transmascs are 3 months away from becoming detrans terfs" and then all the posts about transmascs are "kill yourselves" and "transmascs are disgusting evil wannabe privileged males and they should all die" and "masculinity is disgusting and anyone who isn't a feminine person is not welcome in the community". I wonder why transmascs detransition btw. I wonder why it's so easy to radicalize a group of people who gets shit from their own community and also has to deal with transphobia from the real life world along with SAAB based oppression. One can only wonder.

That's because a certain contingent of these folks think that tranny is a term only trans women get to claim since, apparently, trans mascs are never the victim of this word (they say, while calling us shit like trannyboy as if adding the word boy to it makes it not the same word)

just straight up mask off transandrophobia. this post was made by a cisgender woman