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People easily mistake neurodivergent speech patterns and communication styles for run-of-the-mill pretentiousness.
adhd “get shit done” hacks i’ve found so far
1. the Event
have something scheduled for the day, be it a class, club meeting, shift at work, going to a friend’s, whatever. you must get shit done before the Event. i’ve also done it where the event is my roommates coming home, and I tell them to ask me what i did so i feel like I have to do shit. get creative.
2. exist in a space in which you can easily hyper-focus
pretty obvious, go to a cafe, library, friend’s house, whatever works for you, and do your thing. also! cleaning your house can really help with motivation and focusing, so that too.
3. “multitask”
this one took me a while to figure out. make your brain think you are “multitasking” so getting stuff done is less difficult. ie put the laundry in, meanwhile do the dishes, wipe the counters, vacuum. or put it one of those microwave meals in the oven instead, then you have a reward waiting for you after an hour of studying. for some reason, getting tasks done as a pastime until something else is done makes it way easier to do them
Adhd symptoms no one talks about:
I cant finish cleaning my room because I can't organize my desk because I haven't organized my vanity because I cant organize my vanity because I haven't organized my closet drawers because I cant organize my closet drawers until I organize my nightstand and I cant do that until I GET A NIGHTSTAND because the space between my really heavy bookshelf full of books and the space between my bed is abnormally narrow BUT TONIGHT WHILE I WAS AT ROSS I found the perfect nightstand so now I can go home and put all the stuff thats supposed to go on and under my nightstand on and under my nightstand and then I can organize the space next to my bed, then I can organize the closet drawers, then im at another impasse because I still need the proper vanity organizational materials; but we have made some achievements tonight boys
Does anyone else ever like forget how to socialize when you're tired/stressed/sleepy/hurt(or sometimes randomly)? It's like I no longer remember what's an appropriate thing to say and have to take longer to cycle through dialogue options in my head before I can decide if it sounds okay or not...I've always just said 'my filter disappears when I'm tired' buts its more like my brain can't keep up with the social cues and dialogue possibilities after a certain point and starts shutting down and my 'mask' slips completely
Writing Characters With ADHD
...From someone with adhd.
I very rarely see books with well written characters with ADHD, and when I do, it’s always represented the same way. It ISN’T, ‘yeah so I was at Jane’s house on- oh, look, a squirrel!’.
Here’s what (in my experience), it IS:
there’s a common stereotype that people with ADHD talk a lot- but no one ever mentions that we talk fast
bouncing your leg a lot when seated
losing your train of thought often, and getting sidetracked trying to find it again.
forgetting instructions relayed seconds before
repeating a story without realizing it in conversations (‘did I tell you about..’)
feeling that ‘tired yet wired’ feeling at the end of a long day
accidentally talking over people often
having really poor time management skills. constantly misjudging how much time certain tasks will take. losing track of time often
Iiking distraction (i.e. usually having an earbud in)
leaving projects until the last minute and then doing them at the speed of light
NOTE: the absolute worst thing you can do is make having ADHD a characters only trait. They should be a full, interesting character who just happens to have ADHD. Here’s an easy test to see if you’ve done it right: If you ‘take away’ the ADHD and the character has no defining traits? You’ve done it wrong.
Again. This is my experience and therefore may not apply to everyone, but I just thought I’d share in case it helps anyone out!
my hyperfixations are messing up school does anyone have advice im struggling
im sick and cant take my meds bc ig i will die w my sick meds or smth and i am painfully under stimulated
i crave death
after 11 tabs, 2 video essays, 6 hours of chatting on discord, 4 meals, 7 zone-out sessions, 4 doodle pages, 2 illustrations, 10 hours of twitter scrolling, 3 hour naps, 1 DnD session, 7 hours of tumblr scrolling, 15 hours of switching between social medias, 5 youtube videos about my hyperfixation, 2 hours of wikipedia hopping, 4 mental breakdowns, 3 hours of make-up, 9 hours of outfit wearing, and 12 old youtube videos, I FINALLY finished my 5 minute homework! ^_^
tumblr is where i allow myself to unmask i thinks(or as close to unmasking as i can while still interacting)
Are adhd meds supposed to help you hyperfocus?
So when my parents tell me “But you were able to do it!” all I can feel is frustrated because…
Yes I was able to do it. But that doesn’t mean I want to go through that for the rest of my life.
Disclaimer: I don’t really know if this whole thing makes sense to anybody else with adhd. Everyone’s experiences are different. This is mine.
And I just wanted to finally let these thoughts out. Thanks
Okay, I don’t know where I’m going with this but I feel like I have to write this for some reason
I remember when I was a teenager and kept insisting to my parents that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t make myself study or do homework when I should and I was so stressed and anxious because I kept procrastinating, they kept telling me that I just need to train myself.
They compared it to a car engine for some reason, saying that when a car hasn’t been driven for a long time and you try to drive it, there are issues with the engine running, but if you drive it everyday then it runs smoothly. And that it was the same way with motivation and productivity, apparently.
Then I finally got diagnosed with ADHD
And somehow they have either forgotten or brushed aside all the times they’ve scolded me and argued with me, and now they are saying, “But you were able to do it! You should be proud!”
And somehow, through all that stress and anxiety and grief, I arrive.
I’m exhausted as all hell. And I wonder if going through all that pain was even worth it, but I made it.
Okay, I don’t know where I’m going with this but I feel like I have to write this for some reason
I remember when I was a teenager and kept insisting to my parents that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t make myself study or do homework when I should and I was so stressed and anxious because I kept procrastinating, they kept telling me that I just need to train myself.
They compared it to a car engine for some reason, saying that when a car hasn’t been driven for a long time and you try to drive it, there are issues with the engine running, but if you drive it everyday then it runs smoothly. And that it was the same way with motivation and productivity, apparently.
Then I finally got diagnosed with ADHD
And somehow they have either forgotten or brushed aside all the times they’ve scolded me and argued with me, and now they are saying, “But you were able to do it! You should be proud!”
I get that they think they are bringing me up by saying that, I do. But all I can feel is them dismissing the fact that I have ADHD and I cannot work the way I’m apparently supposed to. By saying this, they’re saying that I just have to keep pushing onwards the same way I always had to because I was able to do it before.
Going back to that car engine analogy thing…
My car engine is not working as is standard. It randomly shuts off. Trying to get it to turn back on is a pain. Sometimes, it manages to stay on for a while and I can get the car to move for a few miles, or kilometres or metres. But sometimes, it keeps shutting off as soon as I manage to turn it on. Or sometimes, it wouldn’t turn on at all, no matter what I try.
But I have to get to my destination. No matter what I have to get there. So I keep trying. I keep worrying about if I’m even going to make it there on time. Or at all.
Okay, I don’t know where I’m going with this but I feel like I have to write this for some reason
I remember when I was a teenager and kept insisting to my parents that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t make myself study or do homework when I should and I was so stressed and anxious because I kept procrastinating, they kept telling me that I just need to train myself.
They compared it to a car engine for some reason, saying that when a car hasn’t been driven for a long time and you try to drive it, there are issues with the engine running, but if you drive it everyday then it runs smoothly. And that it was the same way with motivation and productivity, apparently.
Then I finally got diagnosed with ADHD
And somehow they have either forgotten or brushed aside all the times they’ve scolded me and argued with me, and now they are saying, “But you were able to do it! You should be proud!”
Okay, I don’t know where I’m going with this but I feel like I have to write this for some reason
I remember when I was a teenager and kept insisting to my parents that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t make myself study or do homework when I should and I was so stressed and anxious because I kept procrastinating, they kept telling me that I just need to train myself.
They compared it to a car engine for some reason, saying that when a car hasn’t been driven for a long time and you try to drive it, there are issues with the engine running, but if you drive it everyday then it runs smoothly. And that it was the same way with motivation and productivity, apparently.
Then I finally got diagnosed with ADHD
And somehow they have either forgotten or brushed aside all the times they’ve scolded me and argued with me, and now they are saying, “But you were able to do it! You should be proud!”
adhd culture is starting your posts with “anyways”, “so like,”, “by the way”, or any other mid-conversation sentence-starter
Autism: Bruce Wayne, Damian Wayne/Al Ghul, Cassandra Cain.
OCD: Bruce Wayne, Tim Drake.
ADHD: Stephanie Brown, Dick Grayson.
Neurotypical: Alfred Pennyworth.
None of the above: Jason Todd, Duke Thomas.