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just had a realization. if you're heavily distressed every day. i think... i think that's called living in crisis. that's not normal. that's not healthy. that's an urgent health concern. you deserve better...

This is challenging to remember. I’m supposedly high-functioning but I forget to stand up and go to the bathroom regularly until it’s an urgent need, I frequently forget to eat, and if it weren’t for my wife, I’d forget to take my morning pills every day. I’m terrible about hygiene. I don’t clean until it’s bad. And I’m terrible about time management.

And yet, I’m high-functioning. So who knows…

on the whole issue of levels vs support needs…

I’m level two. you can probably tell I’m autistic after one conversation with me (or at least tell that something is up with me). I can’t mask, I stim constantly, and I have meltdowns roughly once or twice a week.

that being said, I am definitely low-mid support needs. I’m academically gifted, I’m good at a lot of “difficult” tasks, to the point that I’ve been called “high functioning” more than once.

however. I cannot do a lot of the more “basic” tasks. I need cues to remind me to eat, sleep, have a shower, etc etc. leaving the house makes me so exhausted that I can’t go out and then come home and cook dinner on the same day.

these things aren’t straight-forward. you can be in more than one category at once. your needs can fluctuate depending on other life factors. it’s okay if you don’t know where you fall on the support needs spectrum, or if it changes

I just read that asking someone how they are is rhetorical; my mind is blown. Is it really rhetorical? I’m so confused.

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Autism traits in girls

Creative talents

Loves animals

Practices conversations in mind

Routine is important to them

Dislike of conflict

Anxiety

Adopts behavior to fit in

May talk a lot about favorite topics

Artistic

Sensitive

Unique sense of humor

May appear shy

Trusting

Escapes through imagination

OCD tendencies

Enjoys spending time alone

Love of writing

Unsure when it’s their time to talk

Perfectionist

Musical

May feel out of place in this world

May appear young for their age

Unusual eye contact

Note: individuals can have these traits and not be autistic

Autism

WIP #3

Didn’t make as much progress as in days before, but with for good reasons! I got blood drawn for my endocrinology appointment, I made a few calls that needed to be made, got coffee with the wife and got her “minter”, and other things I can’t remember that needed done.

And! The husband found a holographic snowflake light to put in the front yard so our house isn’t so dismal against the rest of the neighborhood and their lights.

Today didn’t suck.

The Mother of All Snowflakes WIP #1

Pattern by Mary Corbet of Needle ‘n Thread

Link

I’ve been itching to get back to cross stitching for a while now. I have one all planned out for a friend, but I can’t find my white aida cloth to start. At least, I think it’s big enough for what I need. Not working makes things challenging when needing to purchase supplies. The black aida I purchased earlier this year was just a bit to narrow for what I need, so I decided to repurpose it. To snowflakes, of course! Did a little Google search, found this free pattern and here I am. Also, black aida is a bitch to work on. it feels like a miniature litebrite. I’m a quarter done with it after starting on Friday, which is weird to think. It’s been good for keeping my hands and mind busy, especially with the wife having seizures off and on all day. She was supposed to have an ambulatory EEG this weekend, but our outlets in our 1950s house are too small to accommodate what the tech needed to plug the camera into. Now we get to schedule a 72 hour EEG at the hospital in the middle of respiratory disease hell season. Weeee!

In better news, our plumbing is getting replaced tomorrow. Or rather, the plumbing replacement process starts tomorrow. Jackhammering at 8 am! Who doesn’t love getting woken up to jackhammering right next to the bedroom? Although I just thought of something. Wife’s seizures have been sound triggered as well; this could get really messy.

women riding horse in hanfu fashion and inner mongolian fashion by 子建在草原

Chronic pain havers, we need to unionize against our bodies or something, this is very out of hand. Pain? Whenever our body feels like it? Fatigue? The "nerve itching" thing? The "no position is comfortable" times? I'm telling y'all, this is some wild'ass shit we're being forced to experience.