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NONBINARY ACE LEBIANS UNITE!!
It doesn't matter what you look like, it doesn't matter how old u r, it just matters that u love urself
Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.
This shirt came to me in a vision
aromantic bisexuals are so cool
you are not "bad bi representation" or "shallow" for experiencing sexual attraction and not romantic attraction
you are not responsible for other people's stereotyping of bisexuality
you are welcome in the bi community
you are awesome
aromantic bisexuals are so cool
how to solve a rubik’s cube a gay valentine’s/anniversary comic about trying to impress a boy (my now boyfriend) [rbs&follows>likes]
HEY WHERE MY TRANS SOUTH EAST ASIANS AT?
WHERE THE FTM, MTF, NON BINARY, LESSER KNOWN GENDER IDENTIY SOUTH EAST ASIANS AT?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO ARE STILL QUESTIONING THEIR GENDER?
WHERE MY TRANS SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO DON'T FIT INTO THE TRANS CRITERIA?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO USE DIFFERENT KINDS OF PRONOUNS?
WHERE MY SOUTH EAST ASIANS WHO DRESS FEMININE, MASCULINE, OR ANDROGYNOUS?
YOU PEEPS ARE SO VALID I WANNA HUG/APPRECIATE Y'ALL. PLATONICALLY, MAHAL KITA.
Sincerely a non binary Filipino :D
Pls reblog to spread trans south east asian positivity /lh
IDK IF ANYONE WILL SEE THIS BUT TRANS POC TELL ME HOW YOU CHOSE YOUR NAME(S) CHALLENGE I WANNA KNOW
Hey hey hey trans people!! I found these two crash courses (one for FtM and one for MtF) on the process, effects, and common health risks to be aware of regarding HRT and common surgeries.
They’re kinda old and filmed on a potato but they’re great for those who want an introduction!
the instant euphoria of being talked abt with he/him pronouns hasnt faded in my six years of using them. idk what trans person needs to hear that
trans friends— this has been circulating a lot on the internet already but PLEASE stop ordering from gc2b. their quality has massively declined, they send the wrong size binders correctly marked, the stitching is extremely poor and rips often times when first putting it on. do not waste your money on them!
Sorry if this comes of as rude, but do you ever feel like there's a lot of hatred for romance favorable people in the aro community? I'm both arospec and acespec and sometimes feel like I'm faking being aro because I'm romo favorable. Ace spaces have a lot more positivity for sex favorable acespecs, but aro spaces kinda feel super hostile to romo favorable arospecs. As if me liking romance is disgusting and a betrayal to most aros. Idk it just doesn't feel right when people who are fully aro attack the ace community for being "sex-negative" (which is untrue and acespecs exist) and then turn around and shit on arospecs for liking romance. People preach a lot about how 'aromantic' is a spectrum, but sometimes it feels like romo-repulsed fully aromantics are the only valid kind of aros and us romo favorable aro-specs are frauds. That kind of sentiment is exactly what kept me from identifying as arospec, it was the ace community that made me feel like i can be a valid aspec even if I'm favorable. I kinda really want the aro community to get rid of the weird bias against aces and even more than that I want the aro community to genuinely accept aro-spec people. It's literally helping no one and isolating fellow aspecs. (Sorry if this is offensive to non-ace aros as I'm acespec as well as arospec. That's genuinely not my intention. I'm just venting my frustrations as a fellow aromantic person)
Hello anon, thanks for confiding in me :)
I'm a romance-indifferent alloaro myself, so to be honest I'm not sure if I'm the best person to vent to? However I can speak to you as someone who used to ID as aroace, and has been in aro, as well as ace spaces respectively for a while now.
I personally haven't come across any aros showing blatant animosity towards those who are romance favorable? Once again, I'll admit my personal attitude toward romance might make me a bit blind to noticing such interactions.
So I wouldn't use the word hatred. Inattentiveness? 100%.
By no means do I want to one-up you, or invalidate your experience, because I do get where you're coming from. The ace community as a whole isn't sex-negative though, but I think I'd be lying if I said sex-negative rhetoric isn't very rampant in ace spaces. You'd be surprised, aces saying "sex is gross, why would allos even engage in something that disgusting" and anything along those lines are very easy to find, sadly. But I digress.
I definitely wish romance-favorable aros, but especially arospecs (greyro's, demi's, cupioro's, etc.) who experience romantic attraction, had more space to talk about their relationship with romance and the like, without you guys feeling like you're "breaking the aro code" or "betraying the aro community."
There's no right way to be aro; we're a spectrum, with an array of experiences shared among us. I hate the fact that those differences have to be points of conflict.
I'm sorry to you, other romance-favorable aros and arospecs who feel like, or have been told that they're not aro enough because of their personal relationship with romance and/or romantic attraction. No one should shun you for it, and anyone who does straight up doesn't know what the fuck they're talking about, and need a time-out; that shit isn't helping anyone.
I hope I got my point across? I wasn't as attentive of issues like these as I should've been, but I'll try to be more conscious going forward, so thank you.
-Y.
Subtle aroallo backgrounds made in WOMBO dream for @aspecpridecalendar 6/24.
Abstract, flowers, mountains, waterfall
Reminder to aspecs, our solidarity is our strength.
Non-SAM Aro and AroAllo solidarity Loving & Lovequeer and Loveless & Heartless solidarity AroAllo and AlloAce solidarity Romance Favorable and Romance Repulsed solidarity Sex Favorable and Sex Repulsed solidarity AroAce and AroAllo solidarity Romance Indifferent and Sex Indifferent solidarity Aplatonic and Alloplatonic Aspec solidarity Romo Aro and Heartless solidarity Partnering Polyamorous and Nonparterning / Nonamorous solidarity Amid and AroAce solidarity Cupio and Apothi solidarity Fray & Lith and Demi solidarity
Any and all aspec solidarity. We are not each other's enemy. Support each other, no matter how "opposite" your aspec identities may be.
Reblog if your blog is a safe space for these identities: agender, demiboy, demigirl, genderfluid, non-binary, and transgender!
May you be blessed with hardcore gay sex thatd give a conservative a deadly heart attack this pride
Ppl should stop putting so much pressure on gay ppl to "come out" and more pressure on straight ppl to stop assuming everyone's sexuality is fucking straight
aroace flag but it's colorpicked from this image of tintin :)
Does anyone have good wlw book recs?? Specifically with one of them at least being masc? I'm so sick of going on tiktok looking for books where it's just two fem white women. 😭 I want more then the same 5 books yk??
I don't even care if queer characters become 'Canon' anymore. I look at a character, I see that clearly they're not cishet and I continue to watch the show knowing I'm completely correct. What's the show gonna do? Tell me I'm wrong? Aljdhdlaldjd as if
Time to put on the gender affirming spotify playlist and learn to do a push up! Fuck, I cannot tell if I'm excited or not
I keep forgetting that when I was in like 4th grade I logged on to my switch to play with my friends and at the time I didn't have a mic so... ANYWAY- they guessed my gender and thought I was a boy and I just never had the time to type in the chat that they were wrong so I just dealt with it. But it like didn't bother me. In fact I kinda enjoyed it. And I was just like, "Hmmm, eh. I'm sure that's normal, and if it isn't then I'll just have older me look into it."
I wish I'd been able to find that one post about the person who procrastinated figuring out their sexuality because this story would go perfectly!